Little by little, nasty, bitter, unfair things start becoming part of the day-to-day with a narcissist. Those Hijackals are relentless in wearing you down and getting their way, right?
You might pass it off as another “little thing to avoid” to reduce the abuse. WHAT? You’re doing things to reduce the abuse rather than set boundaries and making plans to leave? SEE HOW SNEAKY IT ALL IS? Don’t miss these ten main “features” of narcissistic emotional abuse!!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• You can get used to being emotionally abused…and, that’s not good!
• Failing to see abuse as abuse is dangerous.
• Among the top ten forms of frequent emotional abuse
• 10 ways you can get used to being emotionally abused without actually noticing

I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.Rhoberta

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Some Hijackals are subtle, some are sneaky. All are to keep your relationship in chaos, preferably with you giving in to their whims, demands, and expectations. Most of all, they want to be in charge and in control of all the things. Be informed. See them for what and who they are.They are always wanting to create a fracas, a commotion, an upset, and a mess. When you can see what they’re up to, it’s easier to see their ploys, tricks, and defaults. Then you an choose your responses in healthier ways.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Hijackals, narcissists, anti-socials: all need to win and be right
• 27 mean ways they try to keep things chaotic, emotionally
• Hijackals love a fracas, a noisy disturbance or quarrel, about anything
• Do everything in your power to avoid responding with reactive abuse

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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#sneakynarcissist #nastynarcissist #narciccistsaaretroublesome #reativeabuse #seeinganarcissist#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalab Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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When you’re on guard every minute, hypervigilant about the next accusation, you might think I’m suggesting something impossible…maybe even crazy. I’m not.
It’s important to recognize that you can stay in charge of yourself, no matter what kind of crazy-making the Hijackal or narcissist engages in.
Difficult? Yes, but not impossible. Worthwhile? Definitely!
Learn this invaluable approach to taking good care of yourself, even though you may be rattled daily by a Hijackal now.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Be hard on issues, Soft on self.
• Why Hijackals may NOT harden your heart: you won’t give them your permission!
• Harden your attitude towards the Hijackal, but keep your heart safe.
• Hijackals don’t care who they hurt.
• Do your best not to take it personally.

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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#hardenmyheart #hardenmyattitude #narcissiststakeandtake #hardenmyattitudetothenarcissist #heartopen#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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You may think that it’s impossible to be “too nice.” It’s not. It actually can make things worse…and that’s just what it does when you’re in a relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal.
You do all the giving and then, more is expected, right? Not working! Listen in to recognize the ways being “too nice” works against you.
Hijackals LOVE to take advantage of someone who will fall all over themselves to keep the Hijackal happy. Remember, though, the Hijackal is dedicated to never being happy for more than a hot minute…if that. Then, it will be right back to blaming you for everything.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• People-pleasing can be part of being “too nice” and can lead to chronic codependency
• Don’t let someone else’s opinion of you matter more than your own opinion on you
• Hijackals will find fault with you no matter how nice you are and how much you do for them
• 5 ways Healthier Humans behave differently than Hijackal Humans

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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#beinbtoonice #peoplepleasing #notspeakingup #afraidofdisagreement #feellikeadoormat #tooniceisunhealthy#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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Most people want to believe the stories of others. You want to be able to trust, right? So, you’re inclined to be sucked in by plausible stories, excuses, reasons, etc.. Also, you don’t want the hassle of their endless denials and turning things on you.
Learn how plausibility is the key to turning this into healthier interactions to stop the crazy-making. Listen in and get away.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• plausible = seeming reasonable, probable, or persuasive…or NOT!
• How a plausible story is a slippery story: could be equally true or untrue
• “Plausible Deniability” = the sneaky way to deny knowledge of a responsibility or to be accountable for something
• Why Hijackals like things that have no evidence
• And, why Hijackals HATE EVIDENCE!
• Your best antidote to plausible deniability: the personal weather report

I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.Rhoberta
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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#plausibledeniability #plausiblelie #plausiblestory #naariccistneedstowin#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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You’re a good person. You want to see the best in folks. You are right ready to help someone excuse their poor behavior, and be understanding. Hijackals count on that! They treat you poorly to see how much you’ll put up with.
It’s often not long into the relationship before they’re taking up all the space….and you’re gasping for air, dying to be heard.
BE CLEAR ABOUT THESE 12 TRAITS. See them. Believe them. Don’t expect them to change.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• There are many more than twelve traits of narcissistic Hijackals
• You may be too emotionally exhausted to see these clearly anymore, SO it’s important to listen to this episode
• Why it’s important to recognize these traits and make decisions to set boundaries that keep you safer
• How sabotage, undermining, and threats relate
• Why “belittling” is SO damaging

I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.Rhoberta
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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#gaslighting #manipulating #redirectingconversations #projection #sabotage relationship #belittling #narcissistslying #disrespectingapartner#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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Narcissists and other Hijackals are infuriating, frustrating, and crazy-making. You reach the end of your tether and you want to tell them everything that’s wrong with them and more. 
You’ve likely noticed that nothing good happens when you accuse them of being narcissistic,, point out their flaws, or ask them to change. What’s much ore likely to happen is that they explode, spilling their nastiness in every direction. MAXIMUM AGGRESSION. 
Listen to this episode to understand why and how to stop poking the Hijackal. You’ll feel better when you stop. 
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Big link between narcissism and aggression
• Narcissists don’t take much provocation to be nasty, blaming, and shaming.
• Narcissistic aggression is not caused by you, nor is it your fault
• Hijackals are entitled, thin-skinned, and owners of fragile egos.
• Both male and female narcissists are equally aggressive , though , it may show up in different ways.
• Why you are best to step back and observe the Hijackal behavior rather than participate with it.

I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.Rhoberta
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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#aggressivebehavior #narcissistsareaggressive #passiveaggression #activeaggression #endingaggression #saynotoaggression#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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You want to believe that love can change people, right? So, you give, give, and give in yet nothing really gets better beyond a half minute. You decide to give more until there is little left of you. Nothing changes…except for getting worse. That’s because their decision to change has nothing to do with it And, worse…they have no interest in changing to make things better.
Listen in to realize the many reasons WHY this is so, and WHY it’s so hard to believe people who think and behave in narcissistic Hijackal ways exist…and see no reason to care how they affect you. ESSENTIAL TO RECOGNIZE!
IGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Why you want to believe a narcissistic person can change
• How believing a narcissistic person can change and investing it it robs you of time for healthier things
• How a Hijackal manipulates you into thinking it’s your job to please them and take care of them
• Why you might stay TOO LONG in an unhealthy relationship with a narcissist
• Why it is essential to see a toxic relationship for what it is: UNHEALTHY

I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.Rhoberta
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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#stopkiddingyourself #believinganarcissist #narcissistbehavesbadly #narcissistsgetworse #getawayfromamarcissist#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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Male and female children are differently treated–and affected–by having a narcissistic mother. SO many things you may never have thought much about!
This episode will help you think in different ways about the long-term effects that having a Hijackal mother could have had on your sense of self, your self-confidence, your resilience…AND on your relationships. Use this episode to help you uncover hidden pieces SO you can turn them around and feel clearer and stronger.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Narcissistic mothers treat their sons and daughters differently
• Why you may have learned to have no needs…or deny the ones you have
• How you were mothered shifts your responses in relationship
• The impact of lowering your expectations of having your needs met
• Why it’s important to purposefully examine what happened to you…and its impact

I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.Rhoberta
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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#havinganarcissisticmother #impactofanarcissisticmother #effectsofanarcissisticparent #beingtoonice#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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Unless they want something badly, narcissists want you to be in emotional chaos. In fact, they want you to feel less than and inadequate. Back-handed and blindsiding, they do their best to keep you off center and uncertain.
Learn about toxic shame and how it may be playing out in your inner dialogue and in your relationship with a narcissistic parent and/or partner. See it so you can stop it!
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• What is toxic shame?
• How is toxic shame different from “normal” shame?
• How do I know if I’ve experienced toxic shame?
• Why narcissists are so likely to pass along the toxic shame they live beneath
• Why everything threatens a narcissist
• What narcissist do with toxic shame and why you need to know so you can avoid it

I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.Rhoberta
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FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comNEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community
#toxicshame #whydonarcissistsshameme #whatistoxicshame #guiltvsshame#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist.
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