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Why Narcissistic Hijackals Seem to Find You & Why You Like Them – Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Oh, the joys of being love-bombed, right? Only you had no idea that that was what was happening!You honestly believed you had found your partner, your person, your soulmate, the person who knew you so well, and could anticipate your needs. You just knew you’d be happy forever. All was well…until the “Gotcha!” That’s the moment when you realized–much as you tried not to notice–that things were no longer as rosy as they seemed. You recognize that you are often being discounted, being belittled, and often, too much rage. Maybe, there is too much name-calling going on, too much blaming, too much fault-finding.And, on the flip side, there was not enough love, communication, emotional intimacy, or respect. You, if you were like most who found themselves with #Hijackals, found that you were being betrayed. Your trust was misplaced. You didn’t want to believe it, so you made endless excuses and justifications for it. Now, you see it. You were raised by a #Hijackal, loved a #Hijackal, married a #Hijackal, or divorced a #Hijackal, and you now feel worn down, torn down, and just plain duped, and angry. Right? In today’s episode, I help you see how this system works and why you are so attractive to Hijackal. Why you are drawn to Hijackals, even. And, once you see it clearly, you’ll hopefully never unsee it again! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE: How you were groomed to be attractive to narcissists, and attracted to #Hijackals, especially people with narcissistic traits Why it is not your fault, or anything you consciously did, or decided How brain development has a lot to do with it Why #Hijackal behavior somehow seems “comfortably uncomfortable” How to stop making excuses for them and see narcissistic behavior for what it isI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. Want my help? I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97. I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarsYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now! ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, Help for Toxic Relationships, on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat each week!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #identifyingabuse #callitabuse

How to Know the Difference Between a Rough Patch & Straight-Up Abuse

How many times have you heard someone–maybe on TV–say, “Oh, we’re just going through a rough patch.” Really? Is it? Or, is it abuse? It’s SO important to know the difference, and that’s what today’s episode sets out to make very clear: the difference.Here’s how Dictionary.com defines abuse:to use wrongly or improperlymisuseabuse one’s authoritytreat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive wayto speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or aboutmalignto commit sexual assault uponharshly or coarsely insulting languagebad or improper treatmentOK…big difference from a supposed “rough patch,” right?There’s no getting away from it. When someone treats you in a degrading, mean, discounting, or dismissive way, it’s abuse!If you don’t have strong boundaries that you express and maintain, you’ll turn yourself into a pretzel, and end up being a doormat. You don’t want that for a moment longer, right? That’s why you need to see this clearly right now, whether it is happening to you or to someone you care about.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why you mustn’t dismiss “bad behavior”Clear outlines of what emotional abuse and verbal abuse areWhy it is essential to express and maintain boundaries in outing abuseWhy you must never allow someone to diminish your sense of identity, dignity, or self-worthExamples of what #Hijackal abusers do that you need to recognize for what it is.#Hijackals, finances, and financial abuseI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, Help for Toxic Relationships, on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat each week!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #identifyingabuse #callitabuse

How to Know the Difference Between a Rough Patch & Straight-Up Abuse

How many times have you heard someone–maybe on TV–say, “Oh, we’re just going through a rough patch.” Really? Is it? Or, is it abuse? It’s SO important to know the difference, and that’s what today’s episode sets out to make very clear: the difference.Here’s how Dictionary.com defines abuse:to use wrongly or improperlymisuseabuse one’s authoritytreat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive wayto speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or aboutmalignto commit sexual assault uponharshly or coarsely insulting languagebad or improper treatmentOK…big difference from a supposed “rough patch,” right?There’s no getting away from it. When someone treats you in a degrading, mean, discounting, or dismissive way, it’s abuse!If you don’t have strong boundaries that you express and maintain, you’ll turn yourself into a pretzel, and end up being a doormat. You don’t want that for a moment longer, right? That’s why you need to see this clearly right now, whether it is happening to you or to someone you care about.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why you mustn’t dismiss “bad behavior”Clear outlines of what emotional abuse and verbal abuse areWhy it is essential to express and maintain boundaries in outing abuseWhy you must never allow someone to diminish your sense of identity, dignity, or self-worthExamples of what #Hijackal abusers do that you need to recognize for what it is.#Hijackals, finances, and financial abuseI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, Help for Toxic Relationships, on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat each week!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #identifyingabuse #callitabuse

What Three Billy Goats & a Troll Have to Do with Covert Narcissists Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Whatever has the story of the Three Billy Goats Gruff got to do with covert narcissism? Just who is that troll under the bridge in the story? In your story? Let’s take a look at that in today’s episode of Save Your Sanity. Sad that any one has to live under a bridge, for sure. No doubt about it, the parents of a covert narcissist taught them how to do it. That’s how they survived their childhoods. Unfortunately, those are the only strategies they currently have, and so….under the bridge! Covert narcissists love to live under a bridge, have a sad story to tell, and offer to “gobble you up” when you don’t meet their needs. Today, I’m using this story to help illustrate how crafty covert narcissists are, how they hide in wait to pull you under! How they are lying in wait to make you wrong! Dr. Craig Malkin wrote that: “What’s different about covert narcissists is that because they’re introverted, they don’t advertise their inflated egos.” They may not advertise, but they still sell you that bill of goods. Are you feeling guilty that you can’t make things right or good for someone who seems to never want to feel better? Are you exhausted from trying to show someone that they matter, and it seems they don’t want to see it? You could be with a covert narcissist…or, maybe, you were raised by one. For sure, today is a good day to see what’s under the bridge, and refuse to cross any more! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why your heart goes out to people who are “takers”What covert narcissists do to make you feel as though you’re never doing it enough to make them feel goodWhy their constant stories of “it’s not fair” or “no one ever gives me a chance” need to stop playing on your heartstringsHow covert narcissists use passive-aggressive behavior to pull you down, and pull you under the bridgeWhy you’re only valued for what you can give a covert narcissist, never for who you areI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, Help for Toxic Relationships, on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat each week!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #covertnarcissist #trolls #identifycovertnarcissism

What Three Billy Goats & a Troll Have to Do with Covert Narcissists Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Whatever has the story of the Three Billy Goats Gruff got to do with covert narcissism? Just who is that troll under the bridge in the story? In your story? Let’s take a look at that in today’s episode of Save Your Sanity. Sad that any one has to live under a bridge, for sure. No doubt about it, the parents of a covert narcissist taught them how to do it. That’s how they survived their childhoods. Unfortunately, those are the only strategies they currently have, and so….under the bridge! Covert narcissists love to live under a bridge, have a sad story to tell, and offer to “gobble you up” when you don’t meet their needs. Today, I’m using this story to help illustrate how crafty covert narcissists are, how they hide in wait to pull you under! How they are lying in wait to make you wrong! Dr. Craig Malkin wrote that: “What’s different about covert narcissists is that because they’re introverted, they don’t advertise their inflated egos.” They may not advertise, but they still sell you that bill of goods. Are you feeling guilty that you can’t make things right or good for someone who seems to never want to feel better? Are you exhausted from trying to show someone that they matter, and it seems they don’t want to see it? You could be with a covert narcissist…or, maybe, you were raised by one. For sure, today is a good day to see what’s under the bridge, and refuse to cross any more! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why your heart goes out to people who are “takers”What covert narcissists do to make you feel as though you’re never doing it enough to make them feel goodWhy their constant stories of “it’s not fair” or “no one ever gives me a chance” need to stop playing on your heartstringsHow covert narcissists use passive-aggressive behavior to pull you down, and pull you under the bridgeWhy you’re only valued for what you can give a covert narcissist, never for who you areI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, Help for Toxic Relationships, on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat each week!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #covertnarcissist #trolls #identifycovertnarcissism

How to Recognize Hijackals®. Their Patterns, Traits & Cycles

HIJACKALS®! They exist! You’ve likely met one or two. Most everyone has. There is no real need for a diagnosis. The Hijackal will not subject him or herself to one, anyway. After all, s/he is perfect, right? All you really need to have is the ability to clearly see the patterns, traits, and cycles of these relentlessly difficult people, and know what to do to not become their prey! They are emotional predators. I created and trademarked this term, #Hijackals, to give you a way to easily talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of the relentlessly difficult people in your life, and in a non-clinical way. After all, what you need is to know what to do when you’re in a relationship with one, right? That begins with clearly being able to identify a toxic person’s behaviors, and know that there are those patterns. That’s helpful! Hijackals like to push you away. They do their upmost to push your buttons…or, at least, it sure feels that way. You might be surprised to learn today that they are really doing that for other reasons than driving you to drink! Not only do they like to shove you away, but they also then make you wrong for going, and then demand that you stay. Crazy-making! That’s why today’s episode is so important to clearly seeing what’s really going on! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why “overgiving” to a Hijackal is a really bad ideaWhy difficult people can’t see what they’re doing, even when you point it outWhy Hijackals have such a need for power and controlDr. Shaler’s definition of her term, Hijackals®: “People who hijack relationships–for their own purposes–while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.” Know one now? I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, The Doctor is In! on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork

How to Recognize Hijackals®. Their Patterns, Traits & Cycles

HIJACKALS®! They exist! You’ve likely met one or two. Most everyone has. There is no real need for a diagnosis. The Hijackal will not subject him or herself to one, anyway. After all, s/he is perfect, right? All you really need to have is the ability to clearly see the patterns, traits, and cycles of these relentlessly difficult people, and know what to do to not become their prey! They are emotional predators. I created and trademarked this term, #Hijackals, to give you a way to easily talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of the relentlessly difficult people in your life, and in a non-clinical way. After all, what you need is to know what to do when you’re in a relationship with one, right? That begins with clearly being able to identify a toxic person’s behaviors, and know that there are those patterns. That’s helpful! Hijackals like to push you away. They do their upmost to push your buttons…or, at least, it sure feels that way. You might be surprised to learn today that they are really doing that for other reasons than driving you to drink! Not only do they like to shove you away, but they also then make you wrong for going, and then demand that you stay. Crazy-making! That’s why today’s episode is so important to clearly seeing what’s really going on! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why “overgiving” to a Hijackal is a really bad ideaWhy difficult people can’t see what they’re doing, even when you point it outWhy Hijackals have such a need for power and controlDr. Shaler’s definition of her term, Hijackals®: “People who hijack relationships–for their own purposes–while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.” Know one now? I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, The Doctor is In! on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork

How Childhood Emotional Neglect May be Adversely Affecting Your Relationships

UNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON YOUR LIFE IS IMPORTANT.If it happened to you, it can affect all areas of your life and relationships.THE GOOD NEWS: You can heal and we’ll talk about this later in the episode with my guest.DR. JONICE WEBB, Author of the first book written on Childhood Emotional Neglect ( CEN )First, though, I invite you to answer this question:”Do you recognize what emotional abuse of children is? It’s much more than you might think.”Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that is through fear, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, guilt, blaming, manipulation or denial. Therefore, emotional abuse is simply any abuse that is emotional rather than physical.It can include belittling, discounting, manipulating the emotions of another and constant criticism. It can be less obvious than that, such as continuous disapproval, or the refusal to ever be pleased by another in any way.It can be engaging children in age-inappropriate behavior, or engaging in age-inappropriate confidences. When a parent tries to engage a child to take his/her side against the other parent, this is emotional abuse.Emotional abuse of children is often more subtle than the systematic wearing away of their self-esteem and self-confidence. Emotional abuse cuts to the core of their being, creating scars, impressions and perceptions that are far deeper and longer-lasting than physical ones. An attempt to distort or undermine a child’s perception of the world is emotional abuse.  In today’s episode, I’ve given a very clear example of a situation that might not sound abusive on first hearing, but, once you’ve listened to this, you’ll see things differently!GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb, author of the first books ever on Childhood Emotional NeglectJonice Webb, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, speaker, blogger, and best-selling author. Dr. Webb wrote the first book ever written about Childhood Emotional Neglect, and is recognized worldwide as the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect, CEN .Dr. Webb is dedicated to bringing awareness of the power of Childhood Emotional Neglect to people everywhere. She is the author of Running On Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, and Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships.Were you ever shamed for having emotions in your early life? That’s a prime example of a type of Childhood Emotional Neglect. You may never have thought about it in those terms, and today’s episode will bring much more than this to light for you.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Wondering why you may downplay your own needs and not ask for much?If you’ve experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect, how do you become more confident?Why you may still be tamping down your anger?What is the connection between Childhood Emotional Neglect, and troubles in relationships?How can a person who has experienced CEN begin to get in greater touch with their emotions?What are the likely impact of CEN in an adult’s life?I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, The Doctor is In! on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #ChildhoodEmotionalNeglect #CENs #DrJoniceWebb #Emotionalneglect

Why Too Few Boundaries Allow Too Much Drama

Constant drama in one of your relationships? Are you frustrated and resentful, but unsure how to change things? Do you fool yourself by making excuses for the other person’s poor, damaging, or degrading behaviors? No more, OK? You will feel SO much better when you are confident that you can: set boundaries express your boundaries maintain your boundariesset consequences for trampled boundariesfollow-through on the consequencesRight? Of course. If you had a #Hijackal parent, you are used to having your boundaries trampled. You likely wonder if you know anything different! That’s because all Hijackals® believe that things should be their way or the highway. How dare you have a point of view, or a desire for something different than they want you to have! And, how about name-calling? NO! That’s not OK at all. How do you stop it? In today’s episode I use stopping name-calling as an example to take you through the steps to setting boundaries, through to following through on the consequences of trespassing a personal boundary. Follow these steps, and you’ll soon be more comfortable with creating boundaries.What’s the pay-off? Less drama over time! Whoo- hoo! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why constant drama may feel comfortably uncomfortable to youWhy you may be hoping too much that the person really loves youSteps to setting and express clear boundariesWhen you need to set consequencesEmpowering yourself to be assertive I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, The Doctor is In! on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time. Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat! You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotional abuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #boundaries #settingboundaries #toomuchdrama #stopthedrama #name-calling

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