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Secure , Calming, Restorative Practices for Empaths

Empaths are so unique…extraordinary. They are deeply attuned to their internal and external environments. Empaths are sensitive to loud noises, projections of rage and those who lack emotional control. Some empaths have chronic insomnia. 

Empaths have difficult ordeals with narcissistic spouses, partners, family members.

Empaths internalize great beauty in the form of Art, Nature, close relationships. 

Spending time with Nature is a great boon to the empath. One example is the miracle of the four seasons which occur as a result of the tilt of the Earth on its axis.

Empaths need more rest and sleep than others.

Empaths need to slow their pace. 

Listen to the music that soothes your nervous system; feel the melody move through your ears, nervous system and brain. You enter the gentle inner world of the parasympathetic nervous system. 

You clearly perceived the psychological and emotional state of your parents and other family members. You were misunderstood, criticized and labelled strange. 

Your perceptions of truth were denied by your family. No one understood you.

You have always been a seeker. You knew the truth from the beginning.

Here’s to putting your well being, deep inner peace and creative gifts first each day! 

Our Relationship with Food, Ourselves and the World

Join Kristin and Carolyn as they discuss everything from social unrest, racism, eating disorders, and her incredible podcast that just joined Mental Health News Radio Network.

Born in Houston, Texas, Dr. Carolyn Coker Ross spent her childhood in San Antonio where as the oldest of five children, she comes from a long line of physicians and healers. Her mother’s father was a well-known physician in Bryan, Texas, who opened his own hospital and nursing school. His mother, Betty Love, was a Cherokee medicine woman.

Dr. Ross wanted to be a doctor from the age of nine and worked many summers and vacations in her grandfather’s office, going with him on house calls, helping him deliver babies and learning how to dispense medications in his office pharmacy.

Dr. Ross’s Medical Background
Dr. Ross completed her undergraduate degree in Modern Foreign Languages at Purdue University and then was a full-time mother of her two older sons before returning to school to complete her Pre-Med requirements. She then went to the University of Michigan Medical School. Dr. Ross’s practice experience after medical school helped fuel her interest in understanding what makes people heal as she saw that most of her patients’ medical problems were related to lifestyle habits and the stresses of modern living.

In searching for a better way to address these issues, Dr. Ross began to explore complementary and alternative therapies and the use of herbs and supplements for her patients. She then completed a residency in Preventive Medicine at Loma Linda University and set up practice in San Diego, California, where she eventually opened three women’s centers where she practiced primary care and office gynecology. Her women’s centers integrated the best of western medicine with complementary and alternative therapies such as yoga, acupuncture, chiropractic, and nutrition counseling. She developed and ran The Anchor Program that offered a holistic approach for individuals with food and body image issues. The Anchor Program is a non-diet approach with a philosophy that health and well-being are everyone’s right no matter their size. During that time, she also served as the medical director of The Rader Institute’s inpatient eating disorder program.

Dr. Ross’s Focus on Integrative Medicine
Dr. Ross’s own personal health crisis and the diagnosis of her mother with Alzheimer’s led her on a journey to healing in which her perspective about medicine changed and her desire to focus on integrative medicine led her to the University of Arizona’s Center for Integrative Medicine. Dr. Ross completed a two-year fellowship in Integrative Medicine, studying with Dr. Andrew Weil. Her path then led her to work as the head of the Eating Disorders Program and the Integrative Medicine Department at world-renowned inpatient hospital, Sierra Tucson where she pioneered the Integrative Medicine approach to eating disorder treatment. She currently works in private practice in Denver, Colorado, as an addiction medicine specialist and suboxone doctor who specializes in opioid addiction treatment. She also is a consultant for treatment centers across the country on eating disorders and integrative medicine.

Dr. Carolyn Coker Ross is a mother of three sons and has one granddaughter. She is also a nationally known author, speaker and expert in the field of Eating Disorders and Integrative Medicine. Her most recent book is “The Overcoming Binge Eating Disorder and Compulsive Overeating Workbook.” Other books include, “Healing Body, Mind and Spirit: an Integrative Medicine approach to the treatment of eating disorders” describing her own journey to healing and the miracles she found along the way. Dr. Ross has also developed a line of supplements as a result of her research, which are designed to support the recovery of patients with eating disorders and addictions.

Psychological Bleakness of the HIgh Level Narcissist

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life:

“The narcissist is never at peace. Quiet and contentment evade him. His engines of cunning are always at work. He leads a life of restless, compulsive activity…The high level narcissist cannot just “be.”… He marches relentlessly forward, doing his special life’s work–demonstrating how wonderful he is.  Hour by hour and minute by minute, the narcissist seeks ways to stave off his emotional thirst. Inside, his well is always dry. He must constantly turn to the external environment to get the life-sustaining water that he needs to survive—praise, recognition, sexual conquests, power. To achieve this, he chooses dependent individuals who continually quench his psychological thirst with compliments, accolades, and blind loyalty…”

You may think that the high level narcissist is miserable. Oh contraire!  The high level narcissist exists in a world of denial and delusion. He/she does not have a fully developed conscience, is subject to low frustration tolerance, no psychological boundaries. 

The high level narcissist chooses dependent individuals whom he can exploit to fulfill his psychological needs for praise, adulation, loyalty and servitude.  

You are the opposite of the high level narcissist. You are authentic, empathic, an individual of integrity. 

There is a time of awakening when you recognize that you must separate and leave your partnership, marriage, family of the high level narcissist. 

You deserve great credit for your decision, choosing your well being. 

Practice self care each day: get the rest and sleep that you deserve, nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise, spiritual practice as you define it.


Childhood Origins of Those Who Live In Shadow of High Level Narcissist

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: “The future partner of the narcissist was often the child of an arrogant, demanding, narcissistic parent. From his/her earliest days, he was conditioned to respond to his parent’s arbitrary rules and whims. The narcissistic mother or father conducted himself as a dictator, without a conscience, immune to any outside authority   From the time they are little, these children become experts at catering to the idiosyncratic needs of the narcissistic parent. In other instances those who end up in the shadows are raised by neglectful emotionally absent parents. When children have been treated without affection and care, they are incapable of creating intimate attachments. Beneath the psychological wounding lie feelings of helplessness, depression and rage. These  negative emotions are hidden because the psychological pain that they wreak is unbearable. They are forgotten, left in the cold storage of the unconscious. Often the child who has felt unloved, desperately seeks satisfaction by turning to a person who promises to satisfy his needs for attention and validation. Those who cast themselves in shadow are psychologically hungry.”       

They are ripe for attaching themselves to a charming, irresistible narcissistic personality who is gifted at the arts of seduction and manipulation, combined with exciting empty promises.   

There is a time of reckoning when you recognize that you must separate from the high level narcissist and move along your pathways of restoration, transformation, creativity and spiritual practice the way you define.

Remember self care each day: rest, sleep, good nutrition, hydration, movement and exercise, listening to beautiful music.


Drinking and Driving: A Discussion with MADD’s Helen Witty

Helen and Kristin discuss the impact MADD has had since its inception in 1980. The organization had a significant impact on Kristin and Helen. They share their reasons for advocacy and education.

Helen Witty in her own words: Eighteen years ago, as our shattered family faced our first Christmas holiday without our 16-year-old daughter, Helen Marie, I could not have imagined introducing myself to you as MADD’s new National President.

I came to MADD in the months after Helen Marie died a sudden, violent death by an alcohol- and marijuana-impaired teen driver. Just as suddenly, we faced the impossible tasks of funeral arrangements and criminal court proceedings, of organ donation and boxing up her things forever. We faced a grief so profound it hardly seemed survivable.

Until that sunny afternoon in our hometown of Miami, my husband John and I had our dream family: a boy and a girl, named for each of us. John and John. Helen and Helen Marie. Our daughter came first. When John followed three years later, Helen Marie was thrilled, until she learned he wasn’t going back. But she learned to love him, deeply. They were imperfect, well-adjusted children. They were everything my husband and I had prayed for.

On June 1, 2000, our dream family was torn apart. It was a normal day, except that Helen Marie was nervous. She was going to direct a school play the next day, and although she’d acted many times, this was a new role for her. She wanted to go rollerblading to work off her stress.

I wanted her to stay home; I’d been traveling for a few days, and we had so much to catch up on. But as she laced up her rollerblades, she told me not to worry. She stuck to a regular route. She used the crosswalks. She would be right back.

John, 13, wanted to go, too, but she asked me to keep him home because she wanted to go fast. That was Helen Marie – always quick. We called her HM because it was so much faster.

At the end of the driveway, she spun to face me. She blew me a kiss and told me she loved me. And she took off, blonde hair flying behind her.

This is how I choose to remember her.
In those grief-blurred weeks that followed, pamphlets arrived from the Miami-Dade Chapter of Mothers Against Drunk Driving. At first, I could not look at them. But later, at the suggestion of a friend, I called.

I cannot fully explain all that MADD gave to me. At the most basic level, they provided information. At the most profound, the inspiring men and women who walked ahead of me showed me that I would survive the pain. They showed me that one day, I might even smile again.

They gave me the priceless gift of hope.

MADD also gave me a platform. I could only lean on it in the beginning. Then I stood on it. Slowly, I learned that I could fight from it. I could educate from it. For 11 years, as a volunteer, I tried to return what I had received. I spent another eight years as a staff member, facilitating MADD’s prevention programs in South Florida and talking to parents and children about the tragic consequences of underage drinking. I told Helen Marie’s story, because there is power in our stories. They unite us. They save lives.

As your new MADD National President, I want to help survivors and victims of drunk and drugged driving. I want people to know that they don’t have to be victims for the rest of their lives. I want them to understand that the pain, though permanent, isn’t defining. It can be channeled into something life-changing – and life-saving.

I want to educate. Drunk driving is still the No. 1 killer on our roads. This is unacceptable. We know how to reduce drugged driving and end this 100 percent preventable crime.

I am so grateful to the people who came before me. And I am so grateful for the opportunity to be your new National President. I look forward to working with each of you. Together, we can save lives.

Rediscovering Your Core Self

I hope that these words are comforting, restorative and inspiring to you. 

The following are quotes from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: 

“The outward universe of billions of galaxies thrills us…We have access to both the external and internal universe.” 

“Within us is the vastness which inhabits our inner space. This is the dwelling of the true self and the soul.”

“There is an endless flow that moves effortlessly when we are working with the universe within our true selves.”

High Level Narcissist Behind Closed Doors – regressed, enraged, demanding

The psychic structure of the narcissistic personality is not built on the foundations of a real self. Rather the narcissist is rewarded early on for the characterlogical qualities of the false self.  This inauthentic self develops as a result of the parent’s inability to resonate psychologically and emotionally with the individuality of their child. Rather the parent, often narcissistic, rewards his/her child of ego supplies – praise, acceptance, adulation for responding to the demands of this parent. The core true self is left in a state of psychological damage: hollow, bleak and empty. As the budding narcissist grows, the false selves gain greater power over the personality along with steel strong defenses of denial, projection, regression and splitting. The false self persona of the high level narcissist can be very charming and compelling. 

The high level narcissist operates in a state of regression back to the age of two years of age. 

Those who are partnered with or married to a high level narcissist 

are subjected to the constant vile projections of their high level narcissistic spouses.  

You are the opposite of the high level narcissist. 

You  are authentic, activating the real authentic self. Give yourself great credit for your unique individuality, insights, empathy and perseverance.  You are traveling along your own pathways of transformation, creativity and restoration. Wishing you the fullness of your talents, creative gifts and  your spiritual journey as you define this for yourself.

Mental Health Awareness in the Online Gaming Community

Join Aaron and Kristin for a hilarious and information discussion about mental health advocacy and suicide awareness in the gaming community!

About Aaron: My name is Aaron Wanserski and I’m the Video Game Outreach Director for the Center for Suicide Awareness in Kaukauna, Wisconsin.

I’m a pretty normal guy, outgoing, fun, nerd, (yes that is my wedding photo :), but I realized things were not exactly how I wanted them to be. I was a police officer for 12 years before I decided to help people in a different way. Mental illness is something that many people suffer in silence from, including myself, but it’s rarely talked about.

I was able to connect with The Center for Suicide Awareness and create a podcast for them as another way to break the stigma. The theme/slogan for our podcast is “everyone has a story”. You don’t have to be famous to have a story. Everyday people have something to share. Those stories and experiences go a long way with people.

That’s what this podcast is about. About knowing that it’s ok to be you and to not feel insecure about yourself. There are people just like you. Be kind, you are loved, you are important, and remember, you are not alone.

Pivot Work with Elizabeth Bellivieau

Join Kristin and Liz for a discussion about a new podcast on Mental Health News Radio Network: Pivot Work!

Elizabeth Belliveau, MSW, LICSW is a practicing clinical social worker and has experience in a wide variety of settings, including residential programs with adolescents, juvenile justice, school-based counseling, outpatient therapy, and in-home/wrap services through the CBHI model. A Graduate of the College of the Holy Cross and Boston College Graduate School of Social Work, her practice embodies a client-centered, holistic, multi-faceted treatment approach that encourages achieving full functionality in life. Elizabeth specializes in helping clients achieve sustainable change for their lives. She holds advanced training in DBT, CBT, EMDR, ARC, TF-CBT, as well as therapeutic yoga. Elizabeth has extensive experience providing consultations and clinical supervision to practitioners, and advising on program and service development. She has presented at major conferences such as Horizons for Homeless Children, MASOC, BAEYC, NASW, and the statewide juvenile justice conference. She is a facuty member at Bay Path University Graduate School of Mental Health Counseling and Mount Wachusett Community College, and serves as an internship supervisor for local MSW students in the Worcester area. She additionally serves as a board member of NASW Central Region and the Rise Above Foundation, as well as being active with many local non-profits. She is also a Reiki practitioner.

Negotiating with Narcissists with Rebecca Zung, Esq.

Join Kristin as she speaks with one of our new podcasters, Rebecca Zung, Esq. who has recently come to us with her podcast Negotiate Your Best Life. Her career as an attorney led her to have to identify and manage narcissists. Kristin welcomes Rebecca here to our Narcissistic Abuse Healing Network with an amazing episode about how Narcissists work.

Listen to her no-nonsense approach to dealing with narcissists and then go check out all of her knowledge contained in her own podcast, Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung.

Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News & World Report as a “Best Lawyer in America”, as “Legal Elite” by Trend Magazine, and recognized by her peers and the judiciary as AV(c), preeminent rated in family law, the highest possible rating for an attorney by Martindale Hubbell. She went from being a single mom, a college dropout, to becoming one the most powerful lawyers in the country at the helm of a multi-million dollar practice. She is now committed to sharing her secrets and empowering others to live their lives at their optimum level of success, professionally and personally. She is the author of the bestselling books, “Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win” (foreword by Robert Shapiro) and “Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom,” and is a sought after major media contributor. Now, Rebecca remains a partner in Long, Murphy & Zung, and is based in Los Angeles and Florida. She is continuing to serve through her incredible on-demand programs such as “S.LA.Y. Your Negotiation With a Narcissist,” and the “Divorce Delete-Alt-Control Masterclasses.”


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