Tag: Authenticity

Just like everything else, your self-concept is a habit that affects all of your decisions. Protecting your identity often keeps you from moving forward. In this episode, I talk about The Identity Factor and how you can move past the restraints put on you as you try to keep yourself safe.

Highlights

Definition of The Identity Factor: A mechanism that kicks in – subconsciously – whenever you try to make a significant internal change that will affect your self-concept and your position in the world. There’s a fear that if you make these changes, it will lead to your being alone and alienated.
I talk about the behavioral effects of The Identity Factor.
Common among successful people is that they never feel satisfied. So learning to be satisfied is a threat to who they perceive themselves to be – even though they understand that learning to be satisfied could make them more comfortable.
We are programmed to always want more, which keeps us unsatisfied.
If you have a habit of feeling alone, learning to feel connected can be a threat to your identity.
It is perfectly natural to resist major changes to how you have been. It’s easier for younger people than for older people.
Are you willing to look at who you have been so you can decide who you want to be?
It takes courage to let people know who you really are.
For your life to change, you have to change.
The more adept you are at change, the better your life will be – even though those periods of change can be uncomfortable.
To become naturally prosperous – where you really feel rich – you need to look at many internal aspects of yourself and be willing to make changes.
Each person has a unique combination of things they have to work on to become more comfortable.
To be a full human being, we have to learn how to live in society and we get to choose how we want to do that and who we want to connect to.
Your external world is just a reflection of what’s going on inside of you.

Links
The Rapid Money Energy Tuneup

What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. Perry

Erin Marcus is the Founder and CEO of Conquer Your Business, an international company helping entrepreneurs and small business owners get out of reaction mode so they can be in charge of their businesses and their lives. Having made the successful leap from corporate executive to entrepreneur, she uses that experience, along with her MBA education and street-smart upbringing to help her clients reach heights they never dreamed possible. And have fun doing it! Erin is also an international speaker, having spoken for both corporate and entrepreneurial audiences including Highland Capital Brokerage, US Bank, Women’s Council of Realtors, and a wide variety of entrepreneur organizations.

Highlights

Erin loved her corporate job but felt that something was missing and that she didn’t have enough control over her business world. That’s why she left corporate.
After corporate, Erin had a franchise and she tells why it was a burnout experience.
It never occurred to Erin that she couldn’t do what she wanted to do.
Because she had a lot of health problems as a baby, Erin developed a survival mentality. She shares the details.
Everything you are and what you do is a choice.
Your brain’s only job is to keep you alive, and it perceives everything as a threat.
People, including family, can support you but that doesn’t mean they understand you. Surround yourself with such inspirational people that it doesn’t matter what your family thinks.
Even though she has trouble relating to the experience of her feelings, Erin has made the choice to learn how to do it.
When people want to build a business, they often get good at doing the tasks but don’t learn the skills of building a business.
A coach’s job is to help their clients work through their fears.
The question, “What’s the worst that can happen?” can help work through fears of doing new things.
Most often, the thing that people are afraid will happen can’t happen.
One of the biggest problems for entrepreneurs is that they avoid talking to people.

Links
Erin’s Website:

Erin’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/ErinMarcusConquerYourBusiness

Erin’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erinmarcusconqueryourbusiness/

Erin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erinmarcusconqueryourbusiness/
Click here to check out the information about the upcoming Rapid Money Energy Tuneup

In this episode, you will enjoy Linda Fisk’s inspiring, energetic approach as we get to know about her work and who she is. Linda is the Founder and CEO of LeadHERship Global, a community of unstoppable women enhancing their leadership blueprint and embracing their power to be the best version of themselves- in work and life.

Linda has a Ph.D. and M.A. in Clinical Psychology and has written extensively about social comparison, depression and anxiety, subjective well-being, and personality theory, with a focus on relating scientific research to commonly understood concepts. Currently, Linda is interested in the psychology of influence, persuasion, and negotiation.
Highlights

Linda’s experience in corporate, where she was often the only woman in various positions, inspired her to start LeadHERship Global.
Companies benefit from having women in influential positions.
Women struggle more than men with the concept of competence.
Women tend to outperform men in crisis situations.
You have to combine mind and heart to be an effective leader.
Linda talks about the many skills that women have because they have had to understand and navigate family dynamics.
There are real burdens that women carry that can make it difficult for them to step into a leadership role.
Every leader has to identify their personal leadership style based on their own values, purpose, and talents. Linda’s organization helps women do that. She explains how they do this.

Links
Linda’s Website: https://leadhershipglobal.com

Facebook: www.Facebook.com/leadhershipglobal

LinkedIn: www.Linkedin.com/company/leadhershipglobal

Twitter: www.Twitter.com/leadhershipglob

Instagram: www.Instagram.com/leadhershipglobal

In this episode, I talk about the relationship between the feeling of aloneness and money. If you can understand this relationship, when you’re having money problems or discomforts, you can get to the root of where those discomforts are coming from.

Highlights

I describe a Akashic record reading a friend did that helped me tap into an early childhood memory that affected me more deeply than I realized. The incident, and one that followed, left me feeling alone and disconnected.
When we are young, we can also feel alone in our families. I explain why.
Getting to understand the emotions behind your decisions can help you change the course of the outcomes of your life.
Because in our culture we deal with money daily, we can use it as a method for getting in touch with our habitual emotions.
Whatever you’re saying to yourself about money is a pathway into your emotional self.
I discuss the five main feelings that people act out through their money that I discussed in my book Build Your Money Muscles.
The ultimate thing that you might want to accomplish is to know yourself and your own unique combination of emotions.
I talk about the limitations of EFT and BSFF.
There are so many ways that the feeling of aloneness can find its way into your system.
Once you recognize your habitual feelings, you can deal with them and move on, although the memory may never go away
I talk about how to get in touch with your feelings of aloneness and what to do about it.
Just making money or being in a big family doesn’t necessarily help people feel less alone.
One of the solutions to feeling alone is to get to know yourself by understanding your unique combination of emotions.
If you think you need more money, you probably need more people because money always comes from people.

Links
Build Your Money Muscles: Nine Simple Exercises for Improving Your Relationship with Money

What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry

Be Set Free Fast

Byron Katie’s book – Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

Let Go of the Aloneness Blocking Your Prosperity. An audio available on my site.

Audrey Holst guides ambitious high performers and high achievers who are ready to stop micromanaging their lives with perfectionism so they can actually start living. She’s the founder of the Fortitude & Flow® Process which uses mindful and embodied practices to create transformation. Her work goes beyond mindset and addresses perfectionism’s impossible standards at their root cause.

Highlights

Audrey shares her own experience with perfectionism and how that led to the work she does.
She kept trying to do things right so she could be accepted socially, but never felt as if she got it. It’s an interesting story.
Perfectionists often wait till the last minute to finish something that has a due date.
Once she got on the entrepreneurial path, she saw that entrepreneurship and perfectionism don’t go well together.
Audrey’s mother was a perfectionist. Once she understood the concept of inherited emotions and behaviors, it helped Audrey move forward.
Getting in touch with the body sensations that went along with her perfectionism enhanced Audrey’s self-awareness.
The style of yoga that Audrey studied was more about pushing through discomfort rather than embracing it.
When you notice something, don’t try to intellectualize or change it. Take a deep breath and just notice it and stay with it.
Perfectionism is a coping or survival mechanism.
Perfectionists often isolate because they don’t want anyone to know that they’re not sure how to handle something. So they don’t ask for help.
As you go through the process of letting go of some of your perfectionism, it will improve your relationships with other people in the world around you.
We talk about how being bullied at school contributed to her perfectionism and her willingness to move beyond it.
It takes courage to change your thought patterns and behaviors.
It helps to work with someone else when you’re trying to go through this process so that it doesn’t feel overwhelming and you know that someone has your back.
It takes a long time to reverse the perfectionism habit.
Audrey has developed five archetypes of perfectionism and they are available on her site.

Links
Audrey’s website: www.fortitudeandflow.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/audrey-holst/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fortitudeandflow

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fortitudeandflow/