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Understanding the Identity Factor Is the Key to Moving Forward – TPS482

Just like everything else, your self-concept is a habit that affects all of your decisions. Protecting your identity often keeps you from moving forward. In this episode, I talk about The Identity Factor and how you can move past the restraints put on you as you try to keep yourself safe.

Highlights

Definition of The Identity Factor: A mechanism that kicks in – subconsciously – whenever you try to make a significant internal change that will affect your self-concept and your position in the world. There’s a fear that if you make these changes, it will lead to your being alone and alienated.
I talk about the behavioral effects of The Identity Factor.
Common among successful people is that they never feel satisfied. So learning to be satisfied is a threat to who they perceive themselves to be – even though they understand that learning to be satisfied could make them more comfortable.
We are programmed to always want more, which keeps us unsatisfied.
If you have a habit of feeling alone, learning to feel connected can be a threat to your identity.
It is perfectly natural to resist major changes to how you have been. It’s easier for younger people than for older people.
Are you willing to look at who you have been so you can decide who you want to be?
It takes courage to let people know who you really are.
For your life to change, you have to change.
The more adept you are at change, the better your life will be – even though those periods of change can be uncomfortable.
To become naturally prosperous – where you really feel rich – you need to look at many internal aspects of yourself and be willing to make changes.
Each person has a unique combination of things they have to work on to become more comfortable.
To be a full human being, we have to learn how to live in society and we get to choose how we want to do that and who we want to connect to.
Your external world is just a reflection of what’s going on inside of you.

Links
The Rapid Money Energy Tuneup

What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. Perry

172 – Sarah Santacroce – Humane Marketing

Sarah Santacroce isn’t a therapist. She’s an author, podcaster, and successful marketing specialist who helps folks heal from the hustle and still earn a decent living. Through her humane-focused approach, she’s created a global movement that encourages people to bring more empathy and kindness to business and marketing.  Sarah knows what she’s talking about because she, too, used all the same stale sales and social strategies––and burned out of her thriving, high-stress marketing job. She’s since reevaluated her definition of success and challenged the popular seven Ps of marketing model. Sarah traded its static circles and created a more integrated and intuitive mandala version.

If you think that marketing isn’t my usual line of chat, you’re right but also…the personal and professional are always connected. What could be more genuinely healing to our global psyche than a rebuke of the push! grow! results! mentality that capitalism has heaped on generations of would-be humane business owners and freelancers?

Sarah’s approach gives us the permission to market differently. But, experience has taught her that the answers her clients seek can’t come from the same step-by-step formats that marketeers peddle. “For a lot of clients, it actually comes back to doing the groundwork,” she says. 

Sounds a lot like therapy.

And, as with therapy, truly authentic marketing can only come about when we commit to doing our own work. 

GUEST BIO

Sarah Santacroce – Over a decade of running a successful LinkedIn Consulting business inspired a yearning in Sarah to create a global movement that encourages people to bring more empathy and kindness to business & marketing. As a ‘Hippie turned Business Coach’, Sarah has written two books, hosts the Humane Marketing podcast and works with heart-centered entrepreneurs to question their assumptions when it comes to marketing & give them permission to market their business their way, the gentle way! Sarah shares a fresh perspective and doesn’t shy away from calling things out that no longer work for many of us when it comes to the current marketing model. Her clients sometimes refer to her as ‘the female Seth Godin’.

For full show notes, resources, and links to connect with our guest, visit: http://www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast

HEY THERAPISTS…

You’re invited to Head/Heart Conversations, our webinar series designed for psychotherapists who want to invite their inner healer to the forefront of both work life and personal life. In this four-part series, we will invite participants to learn about themselves as well as enhance their clinical skills.

Details & Registration: http://tinyurl.com/hhconvos

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Friday, November 19, 2021 – Queering our Conversations by Benji Marton, LCSW

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Conversations with a Wounded Healer is a proud member of @mhnrnetwork.

Let’s be friends! You can find me in the following places…

Website:

www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast

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https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr/

https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy/

Instagram:

@headhearttherapy

Twitter:

@WoundedHealr

@HeadHeart_Chi

Erin Marcus: Success Is a Result of the Choices You Make – TPS482

Erin Marcus is the Founder and CEO of Conquer Your Business, an international company helping entrepreneurs and small business owners get out of reaction mode so they can be in charge of their businesses and their lives. Having made the successful leap from corporate executive to entrepreneur, she uses that experience, along with her MBA education and street-smart upbringing to help her clients reach heights they never dreamed possible. And have fun doing it! Erin is also an international speaker, having spoken for both corporate and entrepreneurial audiences including Highland Capital Brokerage, US Bank, Women’s Council of Realtors, and a wide variety of entrepreneur organizations.

Highlights

Erin loved her corporate job but felt that something was missing and that she didn’t have enough control over her business world. That’s why she left corporate.
After corporate, Erin had a franchise and she tells why it was a burnout experience.
It never occurred to Erin that she couldn’t do what she wanted to do.
Because she had a lot of health problems as a baby, Erin developed a survival mentality. She shares the details.
Everything you are and what you do is a choice.
Your brain’s only job is to keep you alive, and it perceives everything as a threat.
People, including family, can support you but that doesn’t mean they understand you. Surround yourself with such inspirational people that it doesn’t matter what your family thinks.
Even though she has trouble relating to the experience of her feelings, Erin has made the choice to learn how to do it.
When people want to build a business, they often get good at doing the tasks but don’t learn the skills of building a business.
A coach’s job is to help their clients work through their fears.
The question, “What’s the worst that can happen?” can help work through fears of doing new things.
Most often, the thing that people are afraid will happen can’t happen.
One of the biggest problems for entrepreneurs is that they avoid talking to people.

Links
Erin’s Website:

Erin’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/ErinMarcusConquerYourBusiness

Erin’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erinmarcusconqueryourbusiness/

Erin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erinmarcusconqueryourbusiness/
Click here to check out the information about the upcoming Rapid Money Energy Tuneup

Episode 134 – Happiness is a DECISION!

Is your happiness based on an if/when? Do you tell yourself, “I’ll be happy if/when this or that happens?” In this episode of the Power of Purpose, Judy and Jason discuss the conundrum of “happiness” and how the pros make happiness a decision, not a result.

To learn more about Judy Carter go to: http://judycarter.com/
To learn more about Judy’s programs go to: https://themessageofyou.com/
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Linda Fisk: The Value of Women in Leadership Roles – TPS480

In this episode, you will enjoy Linda Fisk’s inspiring, energetic approach as we get to know about her work and who she is. Linda is the Founder and CEO of LeadHERship Global, a community of unstoppable women enhancing their leadership blueprint and embracing their power to be the best version of themselves- in work and life.

Linda has a Ph.D. and M.A. in Clinical Psychology and has written extensively about social comparison, depression and anxiety, subjective well-being, and personality theory, with a focus on relating scientific research to commonly understood concepts. Currently, Linda is interested in the psychology of influence, persuasion, and negotiation.
Highlights

Linda’s experience in corporate, where she was often the only woman in various positions, inspired her to start LeadHERship Global.
Companies benefit from having women in influential positions.
Women struggle more than men with the concept of competence.
Women tend to outperform men in crisis situations.
You have to combine mind and heart to be an effective leader.
Linda talks about the many skills that women have because they have had to understand and navigate family dynamics.
There are real burdens that women carry that can make it difficult for them to step into a leadership role.
Every leader has to identify their personal leadership style based on their own values, purpose, and talents. Linda’s organization helps women do that. She explains how they do this.

Links
Linda’s Website: https://leadhershipglobal.com

Facebook: www.Facebook.com/leadhershipglobal

LinkedIn: www.Linkedin.com/company/leadhershipglobal

Twitter: www.Twitter.com/leadhershipglob

Instagram: www.Instagram.com/leadhershipglobal

171 – Emily Morris – Recovery, Sobriety, Sexuality, and Developmental Trauma

Emily Morris is my friend, fellow NARM practitioner, and colleague in the therapy world. For anyone who’s deep into that gray area of life––that nagging “middling” feeling of half-living, the push/pull of a sham existence––this story of sobriety and identity will resonate with you. Her trajectory from weekend partier to sober-curious to four years sober affirms that life needn’t fall apart in spectacular fashion before someone ditches alcohol for good.

Getting sober often prompts other life changes. For Emily, that meant giving up weed and pursuing NARM therapy for her own healing. The process brought Emily back to her body to the point that she was fully able to realize her lifetime of compulsory heterosexuality, the disconnect she unconsciously engaged in by denying the vital, fundamental parts of herself to the point that she didn’t even know she was gay!

Since coming out, Emily has broken off a hetero engagement, moved to Nashville with a woman, broken off that relationship, and learned to set boundaries with family members who struggle with the positive growth she’s enjoying. Emily’s well and truly left the middling ground in favor of a full-on, high-level expression of her most sacred self.  

GUEST BIO

Emily Morris is a licensed therapist and mental health coach based in Nashville, TN. Emily specializes in complex trauma, relationship issues, addiction recovery, and anxiety.

For full show notes, resources, and links to connect with our guest, visit: http://www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast

HEY THERAPISTS…

You’re invited to Head/Heart Conversations, our webinar series designed for psychotherapists who want to invite their inner healer to the forefront of both work life and personal life. In this four-part series, we will invite participants to learn about themselves as well as enhance their clinical skills.

Details & Registration: http://tinyurl.com/hhconvos

Promo Code for $20 off: podcast

Friday, November 19, 2021 – Queering our Conversations by Benji Marton, LCSW

***

Conversations with a Wounded Healer is a proud member of @mhnrnetwork.

Let’s be friends! You can find me in the following places…

Website:

www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr/

https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy/

Instagram:

@headhearttherapy

Twitter:

@WoundedHealr

@HeadHeart_Chi

How Feeling Alone Can Affect Your Finances – TPS479

In this episode, I talk about the relationship between the feeling of aloneness and money. If you can understand this relationship, when you’re having money problems or discomforts, you can get to the root of where those discomforts are coming from.

Highlights

I describe a Akashic record reading a friend did that helped me tap into an early childhood memory that affected me more deeply than I realized. The incident, and one that followed, left me feeling alone and disconnected.
When we are young, we can also feel alone in our families. I explain why.
Getting to understand the emotions behind your decisions can help you change the course of the outcomes of your life.
Because in our culture we deal with money daily, we can use it as a method for getting in touch with our habitual emotions.
Whatever you’re saying to yourself about money is a pathway into your emotional self.
I discuss the five main feelings that people act out through their money that I discussed in my book Build Your Money Muscles.
The ultimate thing that you might want to accomplish is to know yourself and your own unique combination of emotions.
I talk about the limitations of EFT and BSFF.
There are so many ways that the feeling of aloneness can find its way into your system.
Once you recognize your habitual feelings, you can deal with them and move on, although the memory may never go away
I talk about how to get in touch with your feelings of aloneness and what to do about it.
Just making money or being in a big family doesn’t necessarily help people feel less alone.
One of the solutions to feeling alone is to get to know yourself by understanding your unique combination of emotions.
If you think you need more money, you probably need more people because money always comes from people.

Links
Build Your Money Muscles: Nine Simple Exercises for Improving Your Relationship with Money

What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry

Be Set Free Fast

Byron Katie’s book – Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

Let Go of the Aloneness Blocking Your Prosperity. An audio available on my site.

Audrey Holst: Perfectionism in Entrepreneurs – TPS478

Audrey Holst guides ambitious high performers and high achievers who are ready to stop micromanaging their lives with perfectionism so they can actually start living. She’s the founder of the Fortitude & Flow® Process which uses mindful and embodied practices to create transformation. Her work goes beyond mindset and addresses perfectionism’s impossible standards at their root cause.

Highlights

Audrey shares her own experience with perfectionism and how that led to the work she does.
She kept trying to do things right so she could be accepted socially, but never felt as if she got it. It’s an interesting story.
Perfectionists often wait till the last minute to finish something that has a due date.
Once she got on the entrepreneurial path, she saw that entrepreneurship and perfectionism don’t go well together.
Audrey’s mother was a perfectionist. Once she understood the concept of inherited emotions and behaviors, it helped Audrey move forward.
Getting in touch with the body sensations that went along with her perfectionism enhanced Audrey’s self-awareness.
The style of yoga that Audrey studied was more about pushing through discomfort rather than embracing it.
When you notice something, don’t try to intellectualize or change it. Take a deep breath and just notice it and stay with it.
Perfectionism is a coping or survival mechanism.
Perfectionists often isolate because they don’t want anyone to know that they’re not sure how to handle something. So they don’t ask for help.
As you go through the process of letting go of some of your perfectionism, it will improve your relationships with other people in the world around you.
We talk about how being bullied at school contributed to her perfectionism and her willingness to move beyond it.
It takes courage to change your thought patterns and behaviors.
It helps to work with someone else when you’re trying to go through this process so that it doesn’t feel overwhelming and you know that someone has your back.
It takes a long time to reverse the perfectionism habit.
Audrey has developed five archetypes of perfectionism and they are available on her site.

Links
Audrey’s website: www.fortitudeandflow.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/audrey-holst/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fortitudeandflow

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fortitudeandflow/

170 – Ebony Rutko – Presence, Listening and Deep Curiosity Using NARM For Yourself and Clients

Do you ever meet someone whose spirit surrounds your own with warmth and light and knowing?

Yeah…Ebony Rutko is that spirit in human form. A clinical social worker with her practice in Canada, Ebony applies her advanced clinical training in NeuroAffective Relational Model™ (NARM) to help adults address issues with attachment, relational and developmental traumas. 

If you’re new around here and have no idea what NARM is, Ebony’s heart-centered introduction to the model provides some high-vibe insight. If you’re a fan from way back, you know I love talking all things NARM. Ebony’s ongoing exploration of healing herself using NARM is a reminder that when we as therapists do our internal work, we build foundations strong enough to provide support for others.

Ebony delivers straightforward observations about our search for connection and our desire to let go of the protective strategies that no longer serve us.

We get in deep for a pithy episode: NARM, psychedelics, expansive universal truths. If you’re at all curious about post-traumatic healing, unconditional love, or using ayahuasca/plant medicines in supportive practice, there’s some beautiful abundance here, as Ebony likes to say, about the sacred processes we engage with to heal ourselves and help our clients.

GUEST BIO

Ebony Rutko is a white, queer, cis-female clinical social worker located in Whitehorse, Yukon Territory, Canada. She owns a private practice and provides in-person and remote therapy to adults using the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM). Ebony believes in the power of connection, and that true healing happens as we cultivate a greater capacity to hold ourselves with presence and curiosity. 

For full show notes, resources, and links to connect with our guest, visit: http://www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast

 

HEY THERAPISTS…

You’re invited to Head/Heart Conversations, our webinar series designed for psychotherapists who want to invite their inner healer to the forefront of both work life and personal life. In this four-part series, we will invite participants to learn about themselves as well as enhance their clinical skills.

Details & Registration: http://tinyurl.com/hhconvos

Promo Code for $20 off: podcast

Friday, September 17, 2021 – Body Language by Joanna Taubeneck, LCPC, R-DMT, GL-CMA, E-RYT Friday, November 19, 2021 – Queering our Conversations by Benji Marton, LCSW

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Conversations with a Wounded Healer is a proud member of @mhnrnetwork.

Let’s be friends! You can find me in the following places…

Website:

www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr/

https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy/

Instagram:

@headhearttherapy

Twitter:

@WoundedHealr

@HeadHeart_Chi

Episode 133 – Making Your Career Magically Appear!

This week on the Power of Purpose, Judy interviews Rob Lake, one of the world’s most celebrated illusionists. Rob Lake’s mind-blowing illusions have entertained millions across network television, on the Vegas strip, Atlantic City, and before sold-out audiences worldwide. They discuss his career, inspiration, and what it takes to follow your purpose. Learn more about Rob here https://www.roblake.com/ or follow @RobLakeMagic

To learn more about Judy Carter go to: http://judycarter.com/
To learn more about Judy’s programs go to: https://themessageofyou.com/
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