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141 – Mark Sanders – Revolutionizing Policing, Addiction, and Healing Generational Trauma

“Every time I’ve helped someone with their grief, my own grief diminishes” ~Mark Sanders

My chat with Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC, is more than just a conversation; it’s a full-blown appreciation situation. If you’re in the field of addiction in Chicago, you know Mark as an inspiring speaker and thoughtful mentor. 

I envy those of you “meeting” him for the first time here, on the pod; Mark makes memorable first impressions. He’s got stories to tell, naturally, as an author who’s contributed pieces to the famed Chicken Soup for the Soul series. He has ideas to share about social justice, policing, and community connection, as befits someone who’s spent his entire career at the intersection of addiction and mental health. 

Beyond all of the above reasons to love Mark, he’s also a bona fine wounded healer. He survived intense generational trauma in addition to the nationwide strife that rocked the 1960s. 

Now he wants to heal on the macro level, with his brilliantly designed plan to reduce police shootings at the hiring stage. By proactively incorporating unconscious bias and ACEs testing, Mark thinks policing could be revolutionized, not further weaponized.

He’s just the guy to do it, too. Listen in; you’ll see.

Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC is an international speaker in the behavioral health field. He is the author of 5 books and has had two stories published in the New York Times Best Selling Book Series Chicken Soup for the Soul.

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Make New Choices in the New Year – TPS441

The new year is soon to be upon us. In this episode, I ask you to decide what choices you want to make in the new year as to who you want to be and what you want to be doing. What changes do you want to make?

Highlights

We have no idea what our lives or our world are going to look like in the coming year.
There’s going to be a new normal, but we have no idea what normal is going to look like.
Covid has given us the opportunity of reevaluating everything in our life. Do we really want to go back to what was, or do we want to create something new that is more satisfying?
It’s hard to set goals when you have no idea what the future is going to look like. I suggest that instead of setting doing goals that you set feeling goals.
The one thing that you have control over and the power to change is your internal environment.
What we are all going through, provides us with the opportunity to ask who we want to be and what we want to change. Change is happening whether you wanted to or not.
What is it that you can do to create some certainty for yourself?
It is impossible to create specific goals when you have no idea what the external environment is going to be.
I’m going to ask you – if you’re willing – to examine your internal environment and decide what choices for change you want to make in the new year.
This is the time for choice. You are where you are because of the choices you have made and now you can make different choices that will allow you to move in a different direction.
Every choice that you make has an emotional component.
We have been given the opportunity, at this juncture in time, to examine our lives and make new choices.
What will it take for you to be the best version of yourself today?
If we all make changes together, it will affect the entire world.

Links
Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

Emotional Intelligence 2.0

140 – Dr. Mark Rider – Revisioning for Grief and Trauma

“In complicated grief, what happens is, you haven’t just lost the person, you’ve lost your identity.” ~Dr. Mark Rider

Mark Rider, PhD, has developed a language for understanding the lyrical relationship between body and brain. “We learned how to use music improvisation to mirror a person’s pain, to mirror a person’s imagery of their cancer. And then we would change that music [so] it went in a healing direction.” 

His work might best be described as a chemical connect-the-dots. Dopamine. Endorphins. Serotonin. There’s a reason your favorite piece of music makes you feel good – the brain produces all three of these chemicals in response. 

Mark has adapted that mirroring further, creating a revolutionary treatment option called revisioning. In practice, the psychotherapy technique “activates” the same neurotransmitters of the brain when a client sits across from and communicates with a mirror image of their loved one (in the instance of grief) or themselves (in cases of trauma, depression, PTSD, etc). 

As someone who’s experienced the power of revisioning in my own healing work, I am deeply grateful that this modality exists. I’m fascinated by revisioning as a stand alone treatment and how it can be employed in tandem with other modalities for addressing complex trauma. You can hear a firsthand account of my personal revisioning experience on CWH episode 134. 

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Dr. Mark Rider has been a licensed psychologist in Southlake, TX, for over 20 years. He has post-doctoral training in Neurotherapy, EMDR, Cognitive Hypnotherapy, and Psychopharmacology. His first book, The Rhythmic Language of Health and Disease (1997), demonstrated that neuroplastic shifts in the brain can be created by music and imagery, and were essential for health. His next book, Revisioning: Mirror Therapy for Unresolved Grief (2014) revolutionized the treatment of complicated grief. This technique has been shown to be 99% effective with this condition. Together with Lynn Heselton, their latest book, Revisioning: Rapid Mirror Neuron Psychotherapy for Grief and Trauma, has created groundbreaking treatments for PTSD, Personality Disorders, and Dissociative Disorders without the client having to relive the traumas. 

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Jan Janzen: The Inner Approach to Selling – TPS440

Jan Janzen has been a serial entrepreneur for 40 years. She bought a franchise at just 19 years of age and since then has worked in a wide variety of industries from being president of a network marketing company to having three businesses

in the automotive field to having a 6-figures healing practice. Jan’s focus is helping women entrepreneurs fall in love with the sales process so they can earn the money they need in their businesses so they can take care of themselves and make the difference they are here to make in the world.
Highlights

Jan shares her unusual background in sales as a Jehovah’s Witness where she learned how to accept rejection.
Leaders often feel l like outsiders, which can be an asset. They also have to be their own person.
We talk about how Jan presents the idea of sales to people who might be repulsed by the idea of selling.
Jan explains why she doesn’t use high-testosterone words like prospect, close, or filling the pipeline.
Women are usually really good at sales and outsell men by 11%, even though they break many of the rules.
Women entrepreneurs outsell men, but they earn less because they often under-price their services.
Jan talks about money mindset and the assessment she uses to measure where a person is vis-à-vis money. She explains the idea of money archetypes.
A person’s genetic coding can also affect financial behaviors.
Changing your money mindset requires more than learning financial skills. The inner work has to be done.
I asked Jan how she helps people overcome their money mindset blocks.
Women often don’t see the value that they bring. Jan explains how she teaches women to overcome this.
Jan talks about dealing with the objection, “I can’t afford it” and how to discover if a potential client is a good fit for you.
People often rush through a sales conversation because they don’t like doing it.
There are various techniques that Jan uses to help people gain the confidence needed in order to sell.
Your internal habits and self-concept can affect your ability to sell. We talk about the elements that can come into play.
Our tribal programming can keep us from reaching our next income level.

Links
Take Jan’s free assessment to discover your money archetype www.8MoneyArchetypes.com

Jan’s Site: www.selllikeaqueen.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/janjanzen100

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/janjanzen

139 – Patricia Young – Unapologetically Sensitive, the Gifts of Being a Highly Sensitive Person

“I wish somebody would have told that to me: it’s okay to struggle. We’re supposed to struggle; we’re humans. We’re complicated; we’re messy.” ~Patricia Young

One of my greatest joys in life is connecting with a fellow outcast and truth-teller. All the better if said person comes equipped with a nickname like Mad Lady-Balls. Patricia Young, LCSW, the person behind the stern, brass-plated moniker is everything you’d expect her to be: hilarious, whip-smart, and dishy. She’s also unapologetically sensitive, a trait she’s built into both a successful career and a popular podcast.

Highly sensitive. If you’ve ever had that phrase leveled against you, then you know the sting of those words. You’re also acquainted with the shame-spiral that accompanies all that over-thinking and over-feeling. But it’s precisely these traits, the intensity and the emotionality, that Patricia says any highly sensitive person (or HSP) should reclaim and celebrate. Her podcast, Unapologetically Sensitive, gives HSPs the space to come as they are.

I could talk to Patricia for hours; she extends the same authenticity on display in her podcast to this show. She does the same in her therapy and coaching practice. “It doesn’t matter if we’re therapists or not. We’re still human beings that have human struggles on a daily basis. And I really want to pull the curtain back on that because we’re just humans.”

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Patricia Young is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth teller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone and that being an HSP has amazing gifts and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication and creating a lifestyle that honors us.

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Episode 111 – You’re NEVER TOO OLD to Get Started

This week on the power of purpose Judy talks with comic (and former student) Vicki Barbolak about her comedy career, getting so good that people can’t ignore you, and starting your career no matter your age.

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How to Become an Agent for Peace – TPS439

In this episode, I talk about the feelings stimulated by the election in the US. Lots of people are angry, which can cause all sorts of physical problems. We all have a choice as to how we want to feel and who we want to be.
Highlights

If you are angry about the election, you have probably been angry all of your life – both individually and as a group.
Ongoing anger will negatively affect your health.
Heart attacks are often related to adrenaline responses.
Many people are motivated by anger – which is not healthy.
Do you want to be on the side of tension or release?
Constant tension leads to physical problems.
Who do you want to be and how do want your health to be?
It’s a whole lot more comfortable to be on the peaceful side of life.
Choosing to be a peaceful person will make your life more comfortable.
Let’s connect through the light, not the darkness.
You have a choice as to how you want to live your life and how you want to feel. You are not the victim of circumstances.

Links
Episode about Empathetic Detachment

138 – Iggy Gurin – Tattoos and Torah, Emotions and Recovery

“Happiness is not a room. Compassion is not a place. Mercy is not a state. It passes, like anger, like hunger, like horniness…These are all emotions, and you have to observe them.” ~Rabbi Iggy Gurin

Oh my, it’s been a week, hasn’t it?! The windows are open and fresh air is pouring in. While that big picture feels a whole lot brighter today, there’s still hella personal work to do. For anyone challenged by addiction, the world still feels awash in shadow. But Rabbi Igael Gurin-Malous says connection is the light in the darkness and everyone has access if they keep walking.

Iggy is absolute sunshine in human form, a self-proclaimed wise-ass and walking contradiction. He’s the f-bomb-dropping spiritual counselor, the rabbi with tattoos and the podcast, Tattoos and Torah. 

Professionally, Iggy’s a renowned Talmud teacher and founder of T’shuvah Center in Brooklyn, NY, a space that offers those in recovery a community to which they can genuinely belong rather than simply fit in. Here, authenticity plays a vital role in the healing process, as does spirituality. 

Culturally-speaking, as Americans, we’re programmed to focus only on our higher Self, to goal-set, to achieve, at the expense of better understanding our lower self. What lessons do we miss out on learning when we shy away from the uncomfortable feelings that reside in all of us? What could we gain by sitting with that otherness? “Life is about struggle…not in a depressing way, but life is about the journey, and life is about the struggle to balance all these different forces within us.” 

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Rabbi Igael “Iggy” Gurin-Malous is a renowned Talmud teacher, spiritual counselor, artist, and educator. He grew up between Belgium, Israel (so expect him to be well dressed and blunt) and the United States in a traditional Jewish Orthodox home. He is a frequent author, speaker, teacher and contributor on subjects ranging from Talmud, Jewish text, spirituality, addiction, recovery, fatherhood and LGBTQI+ issues.

Today He is the founding rabbi and CEO of T’shuvah Center, a new long term Jewish recovery community in Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn. He was formerly the Director of Spiritual counseling at Beit T’Shuvah in Los Angeles. He is also Temple Israel of Hollywood Talmud Scholar in Residence, teaching weekly classes on Interpreting Talmud. Igael also serves on the board and faculty at the Academy of Jewish Religion of California.

For full show notes, guest information, and resources, visit: http://www.headhearttherapy.com/podcast

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Chad E. Cooper: Your Choices Define Who You Are – TPS438

Chad E Cooper, Author of Time Isn’t the Problem: Four Strategies to Transform Stress Into Success, leads his life by example. He retired at 35 and has since been a successful coach working with CEO’s, professional athletes, and  people in everyday walks of life.

He inspires others to grab their dreams and execute them with passion. Chad teaches people to move out of a life of fear, boredom, frustration, and exhaustion and live a life where dreams become a Legendary Lifestyle and where time can serve them!
Highlights

Chad tells us how his childhood experience stimulated his ambitions. He was one of 10 children.
Lessons learned in the service and in business helped him see that we have choices. Do we want to be a victim or victor?
I don’t need your approval to recognize my self-worth.
Discipline is important but so is the strength of your purpose. We talk about how to find your purpose.
You have to have the courage to let go of what works for you and upgrade your identity.
Do you know how you want to feel?
We undervalue understanding our/mankind’s history.
Are you comfortable being uncomfortable?
During the covid experience we have choices as to how we are going to deal with it.
Chad tells us to examine our emotions in order to find your purpose.
Social media is harmful for our mental health.
Somewhere Chad learned the difference between an explanation and an excuse.
Most people don’t know how to access the subtle difference in emotions.
If you can recognize that you are part of the problem, you can find solutions.
Chad’s book is a collection of things you aren’t taught in school but are necessary for success.
Coronavirus taught us how to be ok with silence.

Links
Chad’s book: Time Isn’t the Problem

Chad’s site where you can download a free audio of his book- www.ChadECooper.com

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