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Predatory Narcissists Compromise Your Physical and Psychological Health

I hear from many partners of predatory narcissistic personalities who have struggled profoundly in their marriages to narcissistic personalities. 

Living with a narcissistic spouse saps your energy, increases anxiety and hypervigilance, blocks your creative juices, stunts your emotional expression and spontaneity, isolates you from family and friends, sends you into depressive moods dysregulates your body/mind systems, increases oxidative stress, traps you in the sympathetic zone, the fight or flight survival mode. 

How much longer will you continue this self destructive pattern? How many more times will you return to the narcissist?

This is your moment of awakening, your revelation of the pathway of the authentic self. Your road is up ahead, awaiting your presence. 

Recognize that you are entitled, you are created to fulfill your destiny, a unique, creative, evolved individual. 

Spend as much time as you can in the calming restorative, parasympathetic mode: rest, sleep, nourishing food, hydration, beautiful music, time with individuals you trust, your unique spiritual practice, restorative time with Nature.  

The Obstacle of Life | Matt Davis

Matt Davis is the face of Obstacle Racing Media and is widely considered to be an obstacle course industry expert. His office? Knee-deep mud, 8- foot wall,s and 20-foot rope climbs. Matt doesn’t just write, create and produce obstacle course content, he lives it.

He did his first Warrior Dash in 2010 and has completed over 130 obstacle races of all distances. Matt has had his finger on the pulse from all perspectives and wrote a book about obstacle racing along with his own podcast.

For more, visit and be on the lookout for my upcoming book, “You Don’t Have To Swallow Your Gun.”

Preparing for YOUR New Normal – TPS464

As the world is moving out of the Covid nightmare, each of us has the opportunity to create what we want to be our new normal. In this episode, I make some suggestions as to what we can do internally to create the life that’s right for us.


Watch your self-talk and decide to stop talking to yourself like a critical parent. I give suggestions.
When you begin to treat yourself the way you’d like others to treat you, you’ll start drawing in people who treat you that way.
It’s up to you to decide who and how you want to be in the future.
Listen to your language when you are talking to yourself or to others. Are you always looking at the downside? Are you looking for sympathy or complaining? It helps to see the positive side of life.
Stop judging other people. They are doing the best they can at this point in time.
As you change your relationship with yourself, people who are a reflection of the new you are going to show up.
Examine your expectations. Do you expect people to embrace you or push you away? Do you expect to be a success or are you afraid of being disappointed? Your expectations are shaping your life stories.
What are your expectations of other people?
Notice your internal experience of whatever is going on. Recognize when you’re contracted, take a breath, and imagine your expanding.
Start noticing when you’re being defensive. You have the power to protect yourself.
Are you afraid about being treated badly causing you to push people away?
When people criticize you, they are really telling you about themselves.
I see that feeling sorry for yourself or feeling oppressed go deep within our culture. I talk about dealing with those two feelings.
The more you allow your life to happen, rather than trying to make it happen, the better you will get at creating what is right for you.
This is the perfect time to ask yourself if you want to go back to doing and being who you were or do you want to dig deep inside yourself and find a different way of being.
It’s okay to ask yourself how you want to change and to develop the support you need as you go through the change.

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Standing Still in the Storm

I like catching up with Joe. I respect and admire his openness about struggling with depression. And, his love and care for me and what I am going through with cancer is tangible. In this episode, we talk about getting hijacked by our emotions and how we try to challenge the stories our minds tell us. When life feels like a storm swirling around us, how do we find stillness? How do we not let these very real, very hard events determine our fate? Dictate our well-being?

162 – Dr. LaNail Plummer – Creating Safe Space for Intersectional Marginalized Communities

“Healers have to be so close to the wound…in order to actually heal it.” ~Dr. LaNail Plummer

Dr. LaNail Plummer, founder and CEO of Onyx Therapy Group, has designed her life around healing her communities. The build process hasn’t been easy. As a Black, bisexual woman, she’s navigated multiple structural impediments. But the racism, homophobia, and religious rigidity that forced her to the margins unwittingly pushed her into her power: to create safe spaces for folks in the LGBTQ+ community. 

It’s impossible to speak with a DC-based practitioner – especially one whose professional focus and personal identity align with marginalized folks – and not ask about their welfare as it relates to the insurrection on January 6th. Once again, LaNail’s deep desire to be in community with her people took over. Amid the assault, she offered vital transparent support – something I continually advocate for on both sides of the therapy relationship. 

“We’re just going to live this experience together,” she told her clients. “I am not going to 100% be your expert in this moment. What we’re going to do is have a shared human experience, and we are going to both learn and heal and process together.” 


Dr. LaNail R. Plummer is the CEO & Founder of Onyx Therapy Group – a DC-based mental health organization dedicated to providing mental health services for individuals and organizations in marginalized groups such as Black and Brown communities and the LGBTQ+.

As a leading professional in the mental health field, Dr. LaNail R. Plummer is committed to improving the lifestyles of others through the aspects of mental health and character development. A United States Military Veteran and the CEO of Onyx Therapy Group — an organization she founded in 2013 — Dr. Plummer has over 15 years of experience working with a multitude of clients and specializing in the care of young women; the Black community; and members of the LGBTQ+ community. Grounded in the values of integrity and awareness, Dr. Plummer believes that emotional, spiritual, and cultural healing is attainable for all.


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Learn to Detach from the Narcissist's Outrageous Projections

Narcissists are constantly projecting their unconscious psychological venom on to others, especially spouses, children and other family members. Inside the privacy of the home, those who revere the image that the narcissist presents in the outside world have no inkling just how ugly the narcissist’s personality can be. For those he/she is impressing to obtain narcissistic supplies, this person becomes a source of adulation and veneration. 

For those who live with him behind closed doors, the narcissist is a living nightmare. He is constantly demanding, spoiled, insisting on perfection from others. When narcissists don’t get from you what they say they want, they are inclined to scream like two year olds with greatly enhanced volume. When you do something perfectly he finds a flaw and starts picking away at you.  They are relentless insisting that they are right, you are wrong and that there is something psychologically and mentally askew with you. The reverse is true–this individual has a severe personality disorder that is not going to change. 

For many spouses it is necessary to sever the relationship because of its toxicity to them. Learning how to detach and build a stronger solid sense of self and your own entitlement are keys to dealing with the narcissistic personality and moving forward as a unique, grounded individual.

High Level Narcissists Steal Your Creative Visions

High level narcissists are ravenous for new ideas and concepts. If they can’t conjure up one themselves, they will steal yours. They become intrigued with you if you have talent. With their charm and believable facade they convince you that you are destined to become an integral part of their corporative team. 

They cascade you with compliments. They treat you like royalty. Most people are fooled by this full court charm and adoration offensive. You start to trust them and share your creative projects with them. Your designs, apps, book concepts, etc., are laid out in full detail. The project is moving forward. Your friend and business partner has disappeared. Some time later you discover that your creative concepts have been commandeered and now have his label on them. He has betrayed you. 

The lesson here is to always remember the value of your unique creativity. Pay attention to your intuitions that accurately reveals l the true nature of the narcissistic personality.

Listen Up Adults! – We’ve got something to say! (A story about missing my senior year)

In this series, we are highlighting the voices of youth and giving them a forum to talk about what is on their minds. 18 year old Zoey Bekkela joins us to discuss how missing her senior of high school changed everything…in a good way! She reveals the insights and wisdom this year taught her about self care, mental health, checking on friends, social justice and politics. While the negative impact of the pandemic on youth has been a focus in the media; Zoey provides a different perspective. Her positivity is a breath of fresh air and something we all need to hear.

The Ascension Show Season 3, Episode Three “Consensuality — Next Level”

Consensuality.  What is it?  You technically won’t find it in the dictionary, but it should be there, right after “consensual.”  Why?  It’s the enlightened, next level way that humans respond to each other with reverence and respect.   In this episode our doctors weigh in how #CONSENSUALITY plays prominently in their practices.   We walk through developmental […] Continue reading…

Susan Ryan — The Green House Project: A Radical, Successful Departure From Conventional Nursing Homes

Susan Ryan is the Senior Director of The Green House Project which addresses quality long-term care environments that are pleasant, accessible and affordable to all. They’ve enjoyed some notoriety lately, as their setups are smaller and more intimate, therefore avoiding the COVID contagion that has impacted so many nursing homes. The emphasis is on quality of life and offering a family-style and close knit living experience. Learn more at

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