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Your Extreme Fatigue – Exacerbated by High Level Narcissist

Spouses and partners of high level narcissists are constantly under extreme stress. As a result of many years or even decades of marriage to one of these demanding, demeaning, manipulative individuals, they suffer from a variety of symptoms. Many complain of different kinds of chronic fatigue and exhaustion. 

When you are married to or partnered with a high level, constant outrageous demands are being made on you. If you grew up with a narcissistic parent, you were never at ease. There were no moments of respite Never carefree, quiet and relaxed – very little solitude.

After many years of marriage to and partnership with the high level narcissist you recognize that this time you must make some big decisions about this non-relationship. 

This recognition represents an enormous shift in your perceptions. Now you have begun your journey to put the emphasis on the value and meaning of yourself as an individual who is entitled to inner peace, to be treated with respect and caring, to be cherished and valued, to pursue your creative gifts in an environment of encouragement and support. 

 

Beware of Introjection & Projection!

You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize and say no to! Listen in.Hijackals–people with narcissistic, borderline, passive-aggressive, anti-social traits–play to win. Only to win. They cannot and will not tolerate blame or shame to touch them and they work hard at being two or three steps ahead of either of those at all times. This episode sheds light on two sad, and important, ways that they try to make you take responsibility for their deficits. As I said, sad! You may be familiar with projection. That’s when the Hijackal projects their feelings or characteristics onto you, usually things they are afraid are true about themselves. Much more on that to hear. You may not be familiar with introjection. That;s when you unconsciously internalize and incorporate the characteristics, ideas and attitudes of other people into your own thoughts and behaviors, usualy to reduce your anxiety or fear of loss. Now, you can imagine what havoc these two things can create within you…but, only if you don’t realize what’s going on. This episode will help you clearly understand what these terms mean and how they play out. (p.s. NOT WELL!) It’s important to know these distinctions so you’ll be able to take charge when you see them! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What projection is, and its purposeWhat introjection isHow introjection can be used positively AND negatively to shape you without your awarenessHow Hijackals use projection to protect themselvesHow you might use introjection to misguidedly try to get a Hijackal to like you and treat you well (p.s. That won’t happen.)Do you know you need to learn to turn on the teflon and avoid the projection?  I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCASThttp://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOKhttps://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTERhttps://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDINhttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAMhttps://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTERESThttps://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #projection #introjection #hownarcissistsuseprojection #beawareofintrojection #takechargeofyourself #dontsuckuptonarcissists #dontbelikethem #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

”The Trust Edge: Grab the Negotiation Advantage” with David Horsager on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung #291

David Horsager has worked with some of the toughest personalities and in some of the hardest negotiations in the world.   He has advised many of the top companies and leaders in how to create trust when there was absolutely none.   Considered the top expert in the world on trust, in this power episode, he shares his secrets how to create strategies to find common ground and build relationships in negotiation situation, business or personal.   

More About David Horsager

Trust Edge Leadership Institute, bestselling author of The Trust Edge, inventor of the Enterprise Trust Index, and director of one of the nation’s foremost trust studies, the Trust Outlook. His work has been featured in prominent publications such as Fast Company, Forbes, the Huffington Post, and the Wall Street Journal. Horsager has advised leaders and delivered presentations on six continents, with audiences ranging everywhere from FedEx, Toyota, and the New York Yankees to global governments and the Department of Homeland Security. www.Trustedge.com 

Grab his book The Trust Edge right here:  https://amzn.to/3xl6JIv 

Grab his book Trusted Leader right here:  https://amzn.to/3A3X6Qc 

Sign up for Trusted Leader Summit right here:  www.trustedleadersummit.com 

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THIS WEEK’S SPONSOR INFORMATION:  

Soberlink is a comprehensive alcohol monitoring system. Combining a breathalyzer with wireless connectivity, Soberlink automatically documents proof of sobriety in real-time, which gives clients a sense of accomplishment while rebuilding trust with others.

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To get your copy of Rebecca’s bestselling book, Breaking Free: A Step by Step Guide to Achieving Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom, please visit the Amazon website to order it RIGHT HERE.   

5 Mind Games Narcissist Play with Empaths Emotions

Narcissists lack empathy, and feel entitled to exploit the emotions of others. These personality traits, along with a grandiose sense of self and a scathing need to be right, make healthy relationships impossible. When an empath tries to end a relationship with a narcissist, a narcissist will exploit their emotions. Lisa A. Romano Life Coach breaks it all down in this episode. Online Codependency Recovery Program https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp YouTube Channel http://bit.ly/32zOvUh Instagram @lisaaromano Contact support.coach@lisaaromano.co Facebook Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics/

Stop Acting as the High Level Narcissist's Primary Source of Narcissistic Supply

You have been a primary resource of ego supply to the high level narcissist: adulation, praise, loyalty, creative collaboration. 

Beneath the extreme confidence, self entitlement and charm, the high level narcissist is an individual who is constantly in need of keeping his ego fully inflated.

High level narcissists create a golden circle of followers and admirers who provide them with constant re-circulating adoration, obedience, monetary rewards that raise them up on the power food chain. 

High level narcissists choose partners and spouses who increase the attraction and fascination that others have toward them. A socially skilled charming sophisticated partners is an invaluable part of the high level’s appeal and cachet. High level choose souses who burnish their image, are gifted socially and add to the perfection of the high level’s impeccable image. 

For the high level narcissist you are an object who fulfills his/her needs, wants and expectations. Your perfect performance is expected.

The high level is cunning and has a gift for knowing your psychological vulnerabilities and deep wishes. He/she uses these skills for purposes of control and manipulation. 

For some partners to high level narcissists it is the exciting and easy lifestyle that is so appealing. You feel like you can have anything you want because you are connected with the magic of the narcissist.

Behind closed doors the story turns ugly You become the object of the narcissist’s vile projections, criticisms, humiliations. It is stressful and exhausting to be treated in this manner for so many years, even decades. 

You have many insights and decide to move forward along your own pathway that you deserve to pursue your unique creative gifts, to go through your days with a sense of inner peace, appreciating and acting upon your individuality. Physical, psychological and creative energies are renewed. You have come back to your original true self. 

Helping the Family Heal from Addiction with Heather Gaffney of Full Family Recovery

Heather Gaffney discusses Helping the Family Heal from Addiction.

Heather Gaffney is a certified Family Peer Recovery Coach as well as a Certified Recovery
Coach. She works with families that have been impacted by addiction as well as individuals who
are seeking recovery for substance use disorder.

Heather received her training through The Partnership to End Addiction as well as The Connecticut Community for Addiction Recovery. She has also lived with the family dynamics of alcoholism and addiction to one degree or another all her life.

She has been clean and sober for over 31 years, her mother has been sober for over 32 years and
her husband has been sober for over 27 years. She and her husband now also have a young
adult son with over a year clean and sober. She has experienced first hand what drugs and
alcohol can do to the person who is using substances as well as to the family living with the devastation they bring.

?Heather spent years working on herself to heal from the habits, patterns and personality issues
that addiction caused in her own life and she went through training in order to help families and
individuals that are struggling with the impact of substance abuse.

Alcoholism and Addiction from any perspective is overwhelming and it can be a nightmare for the
family and the individuals suffering to know what steps to take. Heather’s hope is to help people find the care, support and encouragement they need as they learn new ways of coping.

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HOW TO KEEP A HIJACKAL FROM TEARING YOU DOWN

Hijackals–passive-aggressove. marcossostoc. amti-social folks–thrive on tearing you down. Sometimes, it’s a slow picking at you. Sometimes, it’s a constant beratement. Either way, you need to stop it from getting into your head and under your skin. And, if it’s already there, I’ll help you get it out. Listen in.Hijackals–my word for people who hijack relationships for their own needs and purposes, and then relentlessly scavenge them for power, status, and control–feed on having power over you. It’s what gets them up in the morning! Sad. Hijackals thrive on tearing you down, wearing you down, and putting you down. It feeds that need for control. SO, they will say anything to you that keeps you small and makes them feel big. Nasty! Whether the Hijackal you have in mind is your parent, sibling, partner, or adult child, subtly or crashingly crassly, they will find numerous ways to make you feel small, worthless, and insignificant. Does this sound familiar? Some of them only do it when fearful or stressed (that can be too much of the time!) and others live in that skin 24/7. In this episode, I give you 9 ways to stop anyone from tearing you down. No, it has nothing to do with putting your hand over their mouth. AND, yes, it has everything to do with taking charge of yourself so that you can be Emerging Empowered! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What gaslighting isHow to stop believing the gaslightingStopping the manipulation of believing a narcissistic person’s view of youChanging your self-talk to what is accurate, true, and positive…no matter what a Hijackal saysTaking charge of what goes on in your head and saying “No!” to power games played by narcissists and other HijackalsAre you willing to believe what you know to be true about you regardless of what a Hijackal tries to sell you? Great. I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCASThttp://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOKhttps://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTERhttps://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDINhttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAMhttps://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTERESThttps://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #nogaslighting #dontgaslightyourself #putanendtoabuse #dontbedemeaned #stopthemanipulation #positiveselftalk #strengthenyourmind ##codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Roll With the Punches” with Tiffanee Cook on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung #290

Everyone has a plan.  That is until life knocks the wind out of you.   How many times do feel like get knocked down and can’t get back up.   That happened to Tiffanee Cook.   Then she found herself again.  She found that simultaneously doing therapy and boxing that she found her voice, herself and her life again.  She has learned how to literally roll with the punches.  Now she teaches people how to do the same thing through the classes and mindset that she has developed.  It is absolutely fascinating.  Plus, she is a total badass with a huge heart.  Listen in and learn how to roll with life’s punches.  

More About Tiffanee Cook

Everyone has a plan, until they get punched in the face. Tiffanee Cook has learned this as a business woman, performance coach and boxer; from the comfort, predictability and safety provided by the corporate world, to the lessons and let-downs in and out of the boxing ring. Coming to the realisation that, in order to have one’s hand raised in triumph, adversity, discomfort and combat must be navigated. In the face of the messiness of life, do we fight or do we flee? Tiffanee speaks openly of her own personal experiences (good and bad) and how those experiences have enabled her to develop self-awareness, resilience, courage, independence and the skill to be able to maximise passion, possibilities and potential. She talks about getting knocked down (literally and metaphorically) and what it is that makes some of us get back up and some, stay down. Working in business, sport, high performance and personal development, Tiffanee explores a range of ideas, tools, skills, resources, philosophies and strategies to empower individuals, teams and organisations to improve everything from productivity, efficiency, culture and communication to physical, mental, emotional and social health.  

 

THIS WEEK’S SPONSOR INFORMATION:  

Soberlink is a comprehensive alcohol monitoring system. Combining a breathalyzer with wireless connectivity, Soberlink automatically documents proof of sobriety in real-time, which gives clients a sense of accomplishment while rebuilding trust with others.

Features

Adaptive Facial Recognition technology

Technology to detect physical tampers

Real-time text message reminders and Alerts

Customizable scheduling

Automated reporting options

Get an exclusive $50 off your device by emailing info@soberlink.com and mentioning Negotiate Your Best Life

____________________________________________________________________

For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!

GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE! 

SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL RIGHT HERE. 

Grab a copy of Rebecca’s book, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword written by Robert Shapiro).   It went straight to being a #1 bestseller the first day it was launched!  Find out what everyone is so excited about – get the book RIGHT HERE! 

To get your copy of Rebecca’s bestselling book, Breaking Free: A Step by Step Guide to Achieving Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom, please visit the Amazon website to order it RIGHT HERE.   

High Level Narcissists – Beneath the Elaborate Facade

In a culture rife with hyper-narcissism, the high level narcissist stands out as an individual who gets away with multiple forms of narcissistic abuse visited by spouses, ex-spouses, children, business associate.  

The false selves of the narcissist are gifted at presenting themselves in the most irresistible way. They are charming, charismatic, tuned in to you. 

Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist:

“The narcissist believes in an intricate world of his making, dominated by inflated illusions of self-importance. His style is grandiose—like some peacock or wild turkey with feathers in full display. His version of reality bears no resemblance to the truth.”

Your ticket and pathway through the thickets of being victimized by the high level narcissist is based on your deep research, clear discernment, perseverance and psychological grounding. 

Pay close attention to how the high level narcissist reveals himself/herself when the facade slips. 

The false self persona slips and you behold the primitive shadow of this individual. 

When you observe the truth about your narcissistic spouse, partner or parents, you can have confidence in your findings. Also your intuition leads the way in discerning the truth about the nature of the high level narcissist. 

You are moving forward at your own pace; the wind is at your back. You are independent, grounded and creative. Remember to practice self care each day: rest/sleep, good nutrition, fine hydration, movement and exercise, spending time with Nature, a spiritual practice as you define it. 

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Get the Narcissist Out of Your Head

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach, helps you understand how internal boundaries applied through controlling your thoughts can help you get a narcissist out of your head. If you need help better understanding how to set healthy boundaries, check out Romano’s 60 page downloadable workbook and bonus mp3.

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