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That Infernal Noise Ep. 10 – As Honest As I Have Ever Been

In this episode as the title implies, I am more honest than I have ever been. You get an unfiltered look into my mind and my thoughts of men’s mental health and the perception of being weak in discussing emotions. I also discuss the suicidal thoughts I have, some of the motivations for them and my reasons for still being here.

I apologize to anyone that may find this a sensitive subject but I feel that all too often these thoughts are downplayed, if not just outright ignored and that inevitably leads to a increase in suicide rates. My goal is to create a dialogue and let everyone know you are not alone, you can talk about it and you are not weak if you seek help.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-723-8255 (available 24 hours a day)

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Any thoughts or feedback on it would be very much appreciated!

-Robert

Creativity Heals, Soothes and Grounds the Empath

Quotes from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: “Creativity is occurring every moment, whether we are awakening, asleep or dreaming. It is a transpersonal experience that redeems us from our life histories.”

“”Imagination is our creative engine. Like a sense of humor imagination is unique to each person, our creative DNA. 

“Encourage the flow of your imagination Be open—there are no rules, limits or boundaries. Follow where your imagination leads you.”

Creativity’s Messengers:

Dreams are a great gift of the unconscious and remain mysterious. Some record their dreams and analyze them. Dreams are the secret to the unconscious. 

Intuitive Sight – Intuition is always with us. It moves faster than the speed of thought.  Intuition always reveals the truth. Honor and pay close attention to your intuitions.

Nature is our home  – the epitome of beauty. We are observers and participants in Nature.

Each season, each day, each moment is unique and beautiful. 

What are your fondest memories of Nature as an adult, a teen, a child:  Each tree is an individual yet they communicate with one another.

Remember the Moon at night and the glorious presence of the Milky Way. 

Notice the magnificence of the colors of flowers – their unique shape and relationship to one another. 

Remembering weather of all kinds: Cold, dark, windy winter,  Remembering the heat of Summer – Coping with high humidity, 

Remember falling asleep outside on an autumn afternoon .

Being at the shore – sky and sea met. Each day watch the life throughout the year 

Here comes the Winter’s shift with snow, ice storms, torrents of rain, thunder and lightening. We feel comfort and soothing when we put on comfortable clothing when we have been cold.

Spring comes with the multitudes of birds, profusion of flowers — magnificent experience.  Color is a great blessing and Nature keeps us in the present.  

We are part of Nature and over hundreds of thousands of years Nature has been our companion, source of necessary sustenance, beauty, creativity, a great companion and friend. 

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ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM ENABLER'S GUILT?

You could be suffering from enabler’s guilt without knowing what is causing your fear, anxiety, or depression. THE GOOD NEWS: It doesn’t have to be that way. Once you recognize what’s going on, you can take steps to change it, reclaim your power, and rebuild your life.Do you ever feel that, somehow, it’s your job to make other people happy? Where do you think you got that idea? Who taught you that?Those answers are a good start on how you may have come to have enabler’s guilt. In episode 196, I talked about people pleasing in depth. That’s part of it. Add to that the concept of The Fawning Response from episodem and you’ll understand more fully the underpinnings of my concept of “Enabler’s Guilt.”You’ve likely heard of Survivor’s Guilt which happens when people believe they have done something wrong by surviving a traumatic or tragic event when others didn’t. Think of that as a parallel concept to Enabler’s Guilt….especially if you have already determined that you have, at times at least, been an enabler of a Hijackal, a difficult, toxic person. Here’s my definition of enabling to help:”Enabling is when you usually step in to fix, solve, excuse, rationalize, justify, or make the consequences go away for the poor choices of others.” Familiar? Do you know an enabler? Are you one?HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What enabler’s guilt isHow enabler’s guilt is similar to survivor’s guilt and witness builtWhy guilt and feeling guilty are not the sameHow you came to believe other people are more important than you areSteps to rethink your guilt and reclaim your powerIf you are experiencing enabler’s guilt, or need insights and strategies to handle a relationship with a Hijackal, I’m here to help.I wish you well.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community Only $19 a month.#enabling #enablersguilt #guiltfornotbeinggoodenough #guiltyoffailing #survivorsguilt #witnessguilt #guiltyfornotpreventingabuse #guiltfornotstoppingabuse #feelingguilty#codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Empaths – Choosing Simplicity

Empaths are often informal. They don’t have a retinue of followers or adorers, those that do their bidding. There are certain qualities that empaths possess. They are sensitive to their external and internal environments and have been this way since babyhood. Empaths have very keen perceptions. 

Empaths tend to savor their solitude; these times offer them a freedom in which they are not required to deal with the psychodynamics and dramas of others. 

Empaths have wonderful rich imaginations. 

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: 

“In his interactions with the other person who embraces simplicity is straightforward. There are no hidden agendas, no psychological ploys, no manipulative histrionics. 

Simplicity is like the purest waters of an azure lagoon, where a swimmer views the white sandy bottom thirty feet down. They put no finger to the wind to gauge if they are liked or accepted. 

The individual who practices simplicity uses his gifs fully and willingly gives them back to the world.”

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“From Tears to Triumph” with Shanda Sumpter on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung #281

Shanda Sumpter went from having $500 in her pocket to running at 8 figure, multimillion dollar company that actually has a heart and a soul.   She has fierce passion but has endured tears, difficulty, and has navigated the hardest that life has thrown at her to get where she is today.   In this conversation with Rebecca, Shanda gets real, raw and is even funny while she authentically shares exactly how to get from wherever you are now to where you want to go.  She provides ideas that you can start using today regardless of how much money you have or the toxic situation you are in, you can break free. Shanda has cleared the path for you.  Listen in and find out how she did it, and how you can too.  

More About Shanda

Shanda Sumpter is the Queen Visionary of HeartCore Business – a training company on the brink of hitting eight figures designed to give entrepreneurs the powerful systems they can use to share their gift and use those gifts to create profitable, sustainable businesses.

Today, Shanda is a dynamic speaker, trainer, and business coach, as well as a bestselling author and owner of a multi-million-dollar business and a wife and mom with plenty of time for family, self-development, hobbies, and rest. She lives in a beautiful house on the ocean, and loves her life!

It’s Shanda’s mission to give entrepreneurs the step-by-step systems they need to launch and grow their businesses – and transform their financial lives and the world.

She’s experienced her own journey from struggle to triumph: there was a time when she had only $500 to her name and was facing the prospect of moving back home to her parents’ house in Canada.

She knew then that it was time to make a change. So she hired a mentor.. and that became the catalyst for a domino effect of miracles that set the stage for HeartCore Business and its evolution into a multi-million-dollar company.

Visit Shanda at https://www.heartcorebusiness.com/.

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After her mother’s death, Natalie Harper inherits a charming but financially strapped bookshop in San Francisco, and becomes caretaker for her ailing grandfather. Books provide welcome solace for her grief and struggle.

People magazine calls the book “A feel-good family saga… A charming tale about the silver linings of unwanted detours.”

Perfect for readers of Jennifer Weiner, Emily Henry, Elin Hilderbrand, Amanda Eyre Ward, Jojo Moyes
This is a great pick for book clubs and also really great to enjoy poolside, on the beach, at the lake, on vacation, etc.

This is a novel that book lovers will LOVE– it’s the perfect feel-good summer read!

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Automated reporting options

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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!

GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE! 

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Grab a copy of Rebecca’s book, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword written by Robert Shapiro).   It went straight to being a #1 bestseller the first day it was launched!  Find out what everyone is so excited about – get the book RIGHT HERE! 

To get your copy of Rebecca’s bestselling book, Breaking Free: A Step by Step Guide to Achieving Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom, please visit the Amazon website to order it RIGHT HERE.   

 

ENMESHED, ENTRENCHED OR EMERGING EMPOWERED?

Enmeshed, Entrenched, and Emerging Empowered! Know the Differences so YOU can Make a Difference! You know that being enmeshed or entrenched with another human is unhealthy, right? You may not recognize just what’s happening right now, though. This episode will help you see what’s unhealthy and how to move towards Emerging Empowered.Hijackals want you to become enmeshed and entrenched, along with a host of other things they want that are designed to give them power and control over you. They want to be able to manipulate you. You know how they love to blame you for everything. Keeping you enmeshed makes Hijackals happy. They can play with your emotions like a cat with a toy. Nasty! Difficult situations are part and parcel of life with a Hijackal. If you become worn down enough because they have torn you down by putting you down, they think that makes you easier prey. They hope that you will allow them more and more power and control. Sometimes, you do, just to keep the peace. Sometimes, because you’re afraid of them! That’s why it’s important to recognize the distinctions I’m making in the episode. It will help you gain clarity, and see where you can regain some strength. Do you ever feel like you might just as well give in and stop resisting their manipulations? I’m sure you do. It’s exhausting and you end up picking your battles carefully. Then, things begin to wear away further, and there may be little left of you. Not good. So, listen in.?HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What it means to be entrenched in a relationshipWhy being enmeshed can keep you stuck5 Steps to Emerging EmpoweredAnnouncing Dr. Shaler’s new Emerging Empowered CommunityHow to move towards empowerment and away from enmeshment with a HijackalIf you know that you need some insights, strategies, and support to arise from an unhealthy relationship,  I’m here to help.I wish you well.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community Only $19 a month.#entrenchedbehavior #enmeshedwithanarcissist #enmeshedwithmypartner #whatdoesitmeantobeenmeshed #recognizinghijackals #howcanichangeanabusivepattern #feelingempowered #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest  Finding value in this content? Support us on Patreon.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“All Aboard the Energy Bus” with Jon Gordon on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung #280

We are all beings of energy so keeping our vibrational energy high should be a priority.  But it can be so very hard when life seems to be beating us down at every turn.  International best selling author, Jon Gordon, has figured out the secret to being able to take people on an enlightening and inspiring ride that reveals 10 secrets for approaching life and work with the kind of positive, forward thinking that leads to true accomplishment at work and at home. In this lively and engaging conversation with Rebecca, he provides keen insights and a powerful roadmap to overcoming adversity and bringing out the best in yourself and your team. When you get on The Energy Bus you’ll enjoy the ride of your life.  Listen in and be inspired to live and vibrate higher daily.  

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More About Jon Gordon

Jon Gordon’s best-selling books and talks have inspired readers and audiences around the world. His principles have been put to the test by numerous Fortune 500 companies, professional and college sports teams, school districts, hospitals, and non-profits. He is the author of 24 books including 11 best sellers and 5 children’s books. His books include the timeless classic The Energy Bus which has sold over 2 million copies, The Carpenter which was a top 5 business book of the year, Training Camp, The Power of Positive Leadership, The Power of a Positive Team, The Coffee Bean, Stay Positive, The Garden, Relationship Grit and Stick Together. Jon and his tips have been featured on The Today Show, CNN, CNBC, The Golf Channel, Fox and Friends and in numerous magazines and newspapers. His clients include The Los Angeles Dodgers, The Atlanta Falcons, Campbell Soup, Dell, Publix, Southwest Airlines, LA Clippers, Miami Heat, Pittsburgh Pirates, Truist Bank, Clemson Football, Northwestern Mutual, Bayer, West Point Academy and more.

Jon is a graduate of Cornell University and holds a Masters in Teaching from Emory University. He and his training/consulting company are passionate about developing positive leaders, organizations and teams.

Follow him on Instagram right here:  @jongordan11

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THIS WEEK’S SPONSOR INFORMATION:  

Grab the New York Times Bestseller, The Lost and Found Bookshop by Susan Wiggs (published by Harper Collins) right here  http://aps.harpercollins.com/advt?isbn=9780062914118&retailer=harpercollins&locale=US

After her mother’s death, Natalie Harper inherits a charming but financially strapped bookshop in San Francisco, and becomes caretaker for her ailing grandfather. Books provide welcome solace for her grief and struggle.

People magazine calls the book “A feel-good family saga… A charming tale about the silver linings of unwanted detours.”

Perfect for readers of Jennifer Weiner, Emily Henry, Elin Hilderbrand, Amanda Eyre Ward, Jojo Moyes
This is a great pick for book clubs and also really great to enjoy poolside, on the beach, at the lake, on vacation, etc.

This is a novel that book lovers will LOVE– it’s the perfect feel-good summer read!

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Soberlink is a comprehensive alcohol monitoring system. Combining a breathalyzer with wireless connectivity, Soberlink automatically documents proof of sobriety in real-time, which gives clients a sense of accomplishment while rebuilding trust with others.

Features

Adaptive Facial Recognition technology

Technology to detect physical tampers

Real-time text message reminders and Alerts

Customizable scheduling

Automated reporting options

Get an exclusive $50 off your device by emailing info@soberlink.com and mentioning Negotiate Your Best Life

____________________________________________________________________

For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!

GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE! 

SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL RIGHT HERE. 

Grab a copy of Rebecca’s book, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword written by Robert Shapiro).   It went straight to being a #1 bestseller the first day it was launched!  Find out what everyone is so excited about – get the book RIGHT HERE! 

To get your copy of Rebecca’s bestselling book, Breaking Free: A Step by Step Guide to Achieving Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom, please visit the Amazon website to order it RIGHT HERE.   

 

The High Level Narcissist Can't Stop Lying to You

Lying for the narcissist is as predictable and natural as the sun rising i the East. High level narcissists lie through commission and omission and by intricate combinations of the two. They pile one lie on top of the other with great “skill” and insouciance. Remember, narcissists unlike you and me do not have a fully developed conscience. 

High levels are shameless with their lies. They tell huge ones without blinking or blanching or having the slightest prick of conscience. 

The high level focuses on his primary goals:

Keeping his /her ego fully inflated at all times.

Seeking power over others within his occupational and societal orbit.

Keeping his eyes on the prize – material largesse, getting rid of competitors and if this involves smear campaigns the high level is gifted at ruining reputations through lies, accusations and insinuations.

The consequences of their multiple lies, misdeeds, cruelties, betrayals never enters their minds. In fact they blame everything that goes wrong on their victims and other innocents that are handy. Spreading lies and rumors are all part of their playbook.  :

When things get touch the lying high level leaves you behind. You have worn thin – they are looking and finding a new shiny replacement. You are exhausted and no longer attractive to them.  So they are off to create another delusion with someone who is naive, compliant, even worshipful of them.

You have awakened to the true nature of the high level narcissist. 

You are moving forward despite your history with this dreadful personality. 

You have persevered – through your knowledge, psychological stamina, inner wisdom, intuition. This is your time of transformation, healing, restoration. 

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