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How Hijackals Succeed at Emotional Blackmail

Hijackals are good at emotional blackmail. They are experts at the “Gotcha!” And, they constantly use it to their advantage. Learn more about the components of that blackmail and how to counteract them. Then, Hijackals fail to succeed at using it against you effectively!Learn what you can do to respond in empowering ways when narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social folks try to control you using emotional blackmail. This episode will help you understand how that emotional blackmail shows up, what its desired result is, and how to say no to it. Healthier people aren’t looking to control you. They care what you want, think, feel, and need. Hijackals don’t. So, you need strategies for working within yourself and with the Hijackal to stop the emotional blackmail. Emotional blackmail according to Dr. Susan Forward: “when people close to us threaten, directly or indirectly punish us, when we don’t do what they want.” Does that sound familiar? You can stop it. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:The connection between blackmail and emotional blackmailDr. Susan Forward’s book, Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate YouHow a pattern of emotional blackmail is established and maintainedBetter strategies than compliance when a narcissistic person uses emotional blackmailResponding to emotional blackmail purposefully to emerge empoweredWant strategies and support to withstand emotional blackmail. I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #narcissistblackmail #narcissisticblackmail #hijackalemotionalblackmail #emotionalblackmail #endingemotionalblackmail #nomoreemotionalblackmail#codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempoweredSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ep – 245 Deborah Westphal

DeborahWestphal.m4a In this episdode I speak with Deborah Westphal, former CEO of Toffler Associates, and author of “Convergence,” whose wakeup call was coming from an engineering background and realizing the importance of considering people in planning for the future. https://deborahwestphal.com/

Narcissist Money Mind Games and Tricks with Jason Crowley on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung #293

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Narcissists use all kinds of ways to mess with your brain and your head. They love to use finances and money to control you and financially abuse. In this video, narcissism financial expert from Survive Divorce, Jason Crowley, shares the top ways narcissists use to to abuse targets and ways to prevent it happening to you.

In this episode he talks about types of tricks that narcissists pull including:

Concealing access

Smoke and mirrors

Move goal posts

Shame you for wanting money AND SO MUCH MORE

Then he tells you how you can PREVENT IT their tricks and more importantly, WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT.

More about Jason Crowley

Jason Crowley is a founding partner of Divorce Capital Planning, co-founder of Divorce Mortgage Advisors, founder of Survive Divorce, and financial advisor at Capital Planning Partners. As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Jason works with our clients and their attorneys to formulate creative options to complicated settlement issues. He is an active member in a number of professional associations including the Association of Divorce Financial Planners, Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts, as well as the California State Bar and County Bar Associations. He is a frequent guest speaker on the financial and tax issues in divorce for local organizations and divorce professionals. Previously, Jason served as a financial planner with Wealth Strategies Group. Jason earned a bachelor’s degree in Business Economics and Accounting from the University of California, Santa Barbara, where he graduated summa cum laude. Jason holds the Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA), Certified Financial Planner (CFP), and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) credentials. He also holds the Financial Industry Regulatory (FINRA) Series 7 and 66 licenses. A Bay area native, Jason resides in Menlo Park.

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Ep – 244 Rob Nail

In this episode I speak with Rob Nail, former CEO Singularity University, advisor, mentor and coach whose wakeup call was realizing his special talent to build bridges and companies and how important that was to visionaries to get their vision into the world. https://www.linkedin.com/in/robnail/

Ep – 243 Lilli Bewley

In this episode I speak with Lilli Bewley, host of the “Attract Health Build Wealth? podcast and developer of her “Align into Authenticity” program for women whose wakeup call was a suicidal moment with a gun in hand when she realized she wanted to live but would need to change her life path and mission. https://www.attracthealthbuildwealth.com/

How jail led to Freedom-David Whitesock tells his story

Listen as Rich and David Whitesock discuss his unbelievable journey from jail to law school graduate. David is passionate about helping others find recovery and solving the health crisis of addiction. He invented the Recovery Capital Index, which was validated, that measures change in wellbeing with respect to addiction.
Find him here:
https://www.davidwhitesock.com/
BIO:
David is constantly curious and believes that everything connects. When we’re fully aware of what, where, and how things connect, we can understand the effects and modify the mechanisms in between for a greater good.

As Chief Innovation Officer at Face It TOGETHER, it has been David’s job to design better methods and experiences that can drive solutions for addiction. Through that lens and with a host of personal and professional experiences, David believes we will solve addiction when we don’t solve for addiction. He is dedicated to doing work that advances towards that vision. Along the way, vastly more people will realize connections to their purpose, improving the greater good for themselves and others.

David earned a joint JD/MA and BS from the University of South Dakota.

In 2015, he won e Bush Foundation Leadership Fellowship. During the two years of the Fellowship, he studied the art and science of happiness. He traveled to the happiness places on earth, like Iceland and Denmark, to see and experience these cultures first hand.

David is the inventor of the Recovery Capital Index® (RCI), a quantified, multi-dimensional survey that measures addiction wellbeing. The instrument was validated in 2018, subjected to peer review, and findings published in the May 2018 South Dakota Medical Journal.

Ep – 242 Brendan Kane

In this episode I speak with Brendan Kane, one of the pioneers in influencers as a marketing vehicle, author of “Hook Point” and “One Million Followers” whose wakeup call was being smacked by his dad and told to think before he spoke and also how he outthought a bully by leveraging an influencer group. Listen and be in for a treat with someone who is so clear and articulate it almost hurts. https://brendanjkane.com/

Reading the Shifting Scary Eyes of Hijackals As They Try to Control You

Yes, Hijackal’s eyes are not the windows to their souls as much as windows into their fears and desires to control. It’s real. You’re not imagining it. You can feel safer with the insights in this episode.Research shows that humans notice faces first. Generally, that is what attracts us. Eyes tell you so much, if you interpret their messages accurately. When dealing with Hijackals–narcissistic, borderline, anti-social, and histrionic folks, you MUST get the messages clearly or you’ll be damaged, emotionally, if not physically. That’s why this episode is particularly important. Healthy people want to read healthier things into peoples’ expressions. You must not do that when you’re with Hijackals. You have to believe what is written on their faces or you will be in trouble. Misinterpreting the messages in their eyes can be dangerous. Not believing those messages? More dangerous. Rage eyes. Vacant eyes, Dead eyes, Black Eyes, Psychopathic Stares. Do you know the difference? Do you know what they indicate? Do you know how to keep yourself safer? Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:The different ways narcissistic and psychopathic people look at youWhy it it important to recognize what a narcissist wants most from you5 different ways people with narcissistic, borderline, and anti-social tendencies look at you (None of them good!)How to respond to the different warnings in their eyes effectivelyDo you know you want to feel safer when Hijackal eyes burn a hole in you? I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #eyesofnarcissist #eyesofhijackals #deadcoldeyes #rageeyes #vacanteyes #predatorystare #psychopathstare #scaryeyesofnarcissist #coldhardpsychopath #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Reinventing Your Future with Kelly Townsend on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca #292

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While being a new mom and working at the same time, Kelly started to have a desire to reinvent herself. That desire led her to be an instrument for thousands of top executives and business leaders around the world to reinvent their future through her expert coaching and training sessions. Kelly talks about how you can remove barriers to your accomplishments and achieving results you only dared to dream about. Kelly is also Rebecca’s personal mentor and has had a profound impact on her and so many others. Tune in to this life changing episode then listen to it over and over.

MORE ABOUT KELLY TOWNSEND

Having spent more than 25 years in the business world and 20 years coaching and training in Ontology (the study of being), Kelly Townsend has a solid foundation of experience in sales, business development, leadership development and team alignment – and she is passionately committed to the success and empowerment of her clients.

Her team at Townsend Consulting Group, Inc., successfully guides executives, entrepreneurs and corporations in creating vital, flourishing environments with an organizational design where collaboration and teamwork naturally occur.

An expert in leadership development, team building and management effectiveness, Kelly leads seminars and workshops for thousands of people with topics in organizational transformation, vision, integrity and communication. She currently also serves as keynote speaker for a variety of conferences.

Kelly is a former graduate of Collier Leadership Institute, Past President of the Rotary Club of Marco Island, Past Board Member of the David Lawrence Center, Current Board Member for the League of Courageous Women, Current Board Member and a regular contributing writer for è Bella Magazine.

More about Kelly Townsend: https://www.leadersteam.com/