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How Hijackals Succeed at Emotional Blackmail

Hijackals are good at emotional blackmail. They are experts at the “Gotcha!” And, they constantly use it to their advantage. Learn more about the components of that blackmail and how to counteract them. Then, Hijackals fail to succeed at using it against you effectively!Learn what you can do to respond in empowering ways when narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social folks try to control you using emotional blackmail. This episode will help you understand how that emotional blackmail shows up, what its desired result is, and how to say no to it. Healthier people aren’t looking to control you. They care what you want, think, feel, and need. Hijackals don’t. So, you need strategies for working within yourself and with the Hijackal to stop the emotional blackmail. Emotional blackmail according to Dr. Susan Forward: “when people close to us threaten, directly or indirectly punish us, when we don’t do what they want.” Does that sound familiar? You can stop it. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:The connection between blackmail and emotional blackmailDr. Susan Forward’s book, Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate YouHow a pattern of emotional blackmail is established and maintainedBetter strategies than compliance when a narcissistic person uses emotional blackmailResponding to emotional blackmail purposefully to emerge empoweredWant strategies and support to withstand emotional blackmail.  I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCASThttp://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOKhttps://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTERhttps://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDINhttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAMhttps://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTERESThttps://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #narcissistblackmail #narcissisticblackmail #hijackalemotionalblackmail #emotionalblackmail #endingemotionalblackmail #nomoreemotionalblackmail#codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempoweredSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ep – 242 Brendan Kane

In this episode I speak with Brendan Kane, one of the pioneers in influencers as a marketing vehicle, author of “Hook Point” and “One Million Followers” whose wakeup call was being smacked by his dad and told to think before he spoke and also how he outthought a bully by leveraging an influencer group. Listen and be in for a treat with someone who is so clear and articulate it almost hurts. https://brendanjkane.com/

Reading the Shifting Scary Eyes of Hijackals As They Try to Control You

Yes, Hijackal’s eyes are not the windows to their souls as much as windows into their fears and desires to control. It’s real. You’re not imagining it. You can feel safer with the insights in this episode.Research shows that humans notice faces first. Generally, that is what attracts us. Eyes tell you so much, if you interpret their messages accurately. When dealing with Hijackals–narcissistic, borderline, anti-social, and histrionic folks, you MUST get the messages clearly or you’ll be damaged, emotionally, if not physically. That’s why this episode is particularly important. Healthy people want to read healthier things into peoples’ expressions. You must not do that when you’re with Hijackals. You have to believe what is written on their faces or you will be in trouble. Misinterpreting the messages in their eyes can be dangerous. Not believing those messages? More dangerous. Rage eyes. Vacant eyes, Dead eyes, Black Eyes, Psychopathic Stares. Do you know the difference? Do you know what they indicate? Do you know how to keep yourself safer? Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:The different ways narcissistic and psychopathic people look at youWhy it it important to recognize what a narcissist wants most from you5 different ways people with narcissistic, borderline, and anti-social tendencies look at you (None of them good!)How to respond to the different warnings in their eyes effectivelyDo you know you want to feel safer when Hijackal eyes burn a hole in you?  I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCASThttp://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOKhttps://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTERhttps://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDINhttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAMhttps://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTERESThttps://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #eyesofnarcissist #eyesofhijackals #deadcoldeyes #rageeyes #vacanteyes #predatorystare #psychopathstare #scaryeyesofnarcissist #coldhardpsychopath #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ep – 241 john baldoni

In this episode I speak with recognized and internationally awarded leadership speaker, coach, author of 15 books including, “GRACE: A Leader’s Guide to a Better Us,” whose wakeup call was being angered by all in incivility in the world and his wanting to instead highlight what is good and how grace can be something we can all strive for. https://johnbaldoni.com/

 

Empowering Young People, Strengthening Schools & Mobilizing Communities: Interview with John MacPhee | Episode 97

Suicide rates for our youth and young adults have been climbing since 2001. The reasons for this trend is complex but experts suggest it is a perfect storm of historical events, easy access to distressing information, an unhealthy screen time to outside and social time ratio, and compromised sleep, among other things. The good news is, young people are extraordinary. They have lower mental health bias, they have a desire to help others, and they will change the word.

In this episode I speak with John MacPhee, Executive Director for The Jed Foundation about his thoughts on best practices for engaging young people and schools in the work of suicide prevention and mental health promotion.

John MacPhee
About John MacPhee
John MacPhee brings 30 years of leadership and management experience from the business and not-for-profit settings to his role at the JED Foundation. Passionate about supporting young adults in their transition to adulthood, John advises several organizations including the S. Jay Levy Fellowship for Future Leaders at City College, Trek Medics, Crisis Text Line, the Health Policy and Management Department at the Mailman School of Public Health, and HIV Hero. Earlier in his career, he served in executive positions for Par Pharmaceutical, Inc. and Forest Laboratories, where he oversaw functions such as business development, alliance management, clinical development, regulatory affairs, sales and marketing. John continues to contribute to the development of novel medications for disorders such as Parkinson’s disease through board roles with Adamas Pharmaceuticals and Blackthorn Therapeutics. In 2016, John received The Allan Rosenfield Alumni Award for Excellence in the field of public health from the Joseph L. Mailman School of Public Health at Columbia University. He earned a BA from Columbia College, an MBA from New York University and an MPH from Columbia University.

About The Jed Foundation

The Jed Foundation is a 501c3 organization that believes in a comprehensive, public health approach to promoting mental health and preventing suicide. JED’s programs are grounded in our Comprehensive Approach to Mental Health Promotion and Suicide Prevention for Colleges and Universities and for High Schools. These evidence-based models can be used to assess efforts currently being made in schools, identifying existing strengths and areas for improvement.

The programs and resources recommended through the JED Higher Education and JED High School programs have been developed with an equitable implementation lens that ensures that the needs of students who are potentially marginalized and/or underserved due to societal and structural inequities and school-specific community demographics are considered deliberately and intentionally. For more information go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/97

Fear of Intimacy Tied to Childhood Emotional Trauma

The fear of intimacy is real and it is valid. It is also a survival strategy that is the result of feeling unsafe as a child when one is powerless to control their environment, parents, and circumstances. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Life Coach, and meditation teacher will show you how to better trust yourself, open up to love, and ultimately heal the fear of intimacy. Online Codependency Recovery Program https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp YouTube Channel http://bit.ly/32zOvUh Instagram @lisaaromano Contact support.coach@lisaaromano.co Facebook Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics/

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