In this episode I speak with Maria Hvorostovsky, CEO of HVO Search and organizer of Women Who Win Lunch whose wakeup call was being an only child and then needing to be largely responsible for her younger twin siblings who were born when she was 14 and been on the “be responsible” wheel ever since. https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariahvor/
You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize and say no to! Listen in.Hijackals–people with narcissistic, borderline, passive-aggressive, anti-social traits–play to win. Only to win. They cannot and will not tolerate blame or shame to touch them and they work hard at being two or three steps ahead of either of those at all times. This episode sheds light on two sad, and important, ways that they try to make you take responsibility for their deficits. As I said, sad! You may be familiar with projection. That’s when the Hijackal projects their feelings or characteristics onto you, usually things they are afraid are true about themselves. Much more on that to hear. You may not be familiar with introjection. That;s when you unconsciously internalize and incorporate the characteristics, ideas and attitudes of other people into your own thoughts and behaviors, usualy to reduce your anxiety or fear of loss. Now, you can imagine what havoc these two things can create within you…but, only if you don’t realize what’s going on. This episode will help you clearly understand what these terms mean and how they play out. (p.s. NOT WELL!) It’s important to know these distinctions so you’ll be able to take charge when you see them! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What projection is, and its purposeWhat introjection isHow introjection can be used positively AND negatively to shape you without your awarenessHow Hijackals use projection to protect themselvesHow you might use introjection to misguidedly try to get a Hijackal to like you and treat you well (p.s. That won’t happen.)Do you know you need to learn to turn on the teflon and avoid the projection? I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #projection #introjection #hownarcissistsuseprojection #beawareofintrojection #takechargeofyourself #dontsuckuptonarcissists #dontbelikethem #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Narcissists lack empathy, and feel entitled to exploit the emotions of others. These personality traits, along with a grandiose sense of self and a scathing need to be right, make healthy relationships impossible. When an empath tries to end a relationship with a narcissist, a narcissist will exploit their emotions. Lisa A. Romano Life Coach breaks it all down in this episode. Online Codependency Recovery Program https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp YouTube Channel http://bit.ly/32zOvUh Instagram @lisaaromano Contact support.coach@lisaaromano.co Facebook Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics/
In this episode I speak with Kevin Edwards, Director of Digital Operations and host of the Real Leaders Podcast, whose wakeup call was learning to subordinate his own personal passions to support the vision and team around him that are growing Real Leaders. https://real-leaders.com/author/kevin-edwards/
In this episode I speak to return guest Scott Jeffrey Miller, host of “On Leadership with Scott Miller,” and author of “Master Mentors: 30 Transformational Insights from Our Greatest Minds,” whose wakeup call was moving from transactional to transformational and loving the wisdom from his amazing contributors. https://www.scottjeffreymiller.com/
In this episode I speak with Jay Abraham, one of the world’s foremost nonlinear strategic/critical thinkers who has increased the bottom lines of more than 10,000 clients in more than 1000 industries whose wakeup call was realizing he had an insatiable curiosity about all things business and beyond and an uncanny ability to connect dots that turned into huge returns for companies. http://abraham.com
Hijackals–passive-aggressove. marcossostoc. amti-social folks–thrive on tearing you down. Sometimes, it’s a slow picking at you. Sometimes, it’s a constant beratement. Either way, you need to stop it from getting into your head and under your skin. And, if it’s already there, I’ll help you get it out. Listen in.Hijackals–my word for people who hijack relationships for their own needs and purposes, and then relentlessly scavenge them for power, status, and control–feed on having power over you. It’s what gets them up in the morning! Sad. Hijackals thrive on tearing you down, wearing you down, and putting you down. It feeds that need for control. SO, they will say anything to you that keeps you small and makes them feel big. Nasty! Whether the Hijackal you have in mind is your parent, sibling, partner, or adult child, subtly or crashingly crassly, they will find numerous ways to make you feel small, worthless, and insignificant. Does this sound familiar? Some of them only do it when fearful or stressed (that can be too much of the time!) and others live in that skin 24/7. In this episode, I give you 9 ways to stop anyone from tearing you down. No, it has nothing to do with putting your hand over their mouth. AND, yes, it has everything to do with taking charge of yourself so that you can be Emerging Empowered! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What gaslighting isHow to stop believing the gaslightingStopping the manipulation of believing a narcissistic person’s view of youChanging your self-talk to what is accurate, true, and positive…no matter what a Hijackal saysTaking charge of what goes on in your head and saying “No!” to power games played by narcissists and other HijackalsAre you willing to believe what you know to be true about you regardless of what a Hijackal tries to sell you? Great. I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #nogaslighting #dontgaslightyourself #putanendtoabuse #dontbedemeaned #stopthemanipulation #positiveselftalk #strengthenyourmind ##codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
In this episode I speak with Ruth Gotian, Chief Learning Officer and Assistant Professor of Education in Anesthesiology and former Assistant Dean of Mentoring and Executive Director of the Mentoring Academy at Weill Cornell Medicine, Thinkers50 Radar List awardee and author of the upcoming book, “The Success Factor,” whose wakeup call was noticing the commonalities that highly successful people have ranging from Nobel laureates to astronauts to MD/PhDs that she worked closely and her wanting to make those attributes available to anyone who wants to succeed. https://www.ruthgotian.com/about
In this episode I speak with Janice Litvin, author of “Banish Burnout Toolkit,” whose wakeup call was the downturn in the economy in 2008 and her transitioning from tech recruiting to Zumba (zoom based yoga) instructor, but wanting to do something to alleviate the fear and pain in people who were burning out in their jobs. https://janicelitvin.com/
In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach, helps you understand how internal boundaries applied through controlling your thoughts can help you get a narcissist out of your head. If you need help better understanding how to set healthy boundaries, check out Romano’s 60 page downloadable workbook and bonus mp3.
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