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Leaving Your Narcissistic Parent Behind – Five Steps

Growing up as the child of a narcissistic parent is one of the most difficult and complex life histories a child can experience. The psychopathology of the narcissist is deep and daunting. As a baby and young child you were subjected to the full force of the narcissistic personality. Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist offers a clear picture of this fixed personality:

Narcissistic personality disorders are characterized by extreme self-absorption, lack of empathy, ruthlessness, incapacity for emotional intimacy, volcanic rage, chronic lying, deceit and exploitation.

1. Your restoration and healing begins with your deep research and study of the true nature of the narcissistic parent. This is a foundational step for moving forward as a psychologically grounded individual. 

2. Children of narcissistic parents grow up with blocked emotions. Their feelings were stifled because it was psychologically dangerous to express themselves…Now that you are in the process of awakening to yourself allow feelings to come through.

3. Recognizing that the deprivations and psychological abuse projected on to yu was not your fault. You were the innocent child the victim of the narcissistic parent’s cruel, wanton projections. You were on the receiving end as an innocent child who was blameless. Take this truth inside and let it resonate deeply within you. 

4. Practice self care each day. Make it simple and do it your way. Get the rest and sleep that you need. Eat nourishing food, organic if possible. Hydrate well with pure water. Movement and exercise reduce stress, stretch our muscle and make us stronger with greater endurance. Spend time with Nature. 

5. Tap into your creativity each day. This takes as many forms as there are individuals. Think of all the ways you are creative: drawing, painting, sketching, sewing, quilting, photography, woodworking, all forms of writing, doing research on what fascinates you, crocheting, knitting, sewing.


Zodiac Magic 008 – 3rd Week In September – A Great Time To Find New Love And Work Relationships

Host Doug Stephan and Astrologer/Actor Laura Banks she can be contacted at: 352-552-1243, tell us that the sun is now in Virgo, helping all of us. On the 14th, stay away from new career or contractural commitments. Take what you’ve got right now and make it work until 9/22. This week holds very practical opportunities for Virgos. 9/16 is a great to meet with financial advisors and to grow savings. It’s also a good time to find professional advancement and love, through 10/6. Next, Psychic Scout Mary O’Maley she can be contacted at: 800-341-9609 answers Doug’s question: “Do animal spirits always return as animal spirits?” Mary goes on to explain Animal Soul Groups. Finally, Mary says that animals have a lot to communicate with us, we just have to look closely for them.

High Level Narcissists Re-Traumatize Children of Narcissistic Parents

If you were traumatized as a child, growing up in a narcissistic family, you were often in a state of distress, hypervigilance, chronic anxiety. Your sympathetic nervous system, the fight or flight mode was over-worked. You could not let down and become relaxed. Growing up you were constantly on edge. You were raised by narcissists who could not be trusted, were incapable of genuine love, caring or warmth. You often felt waves of tremendous anxiety coursing through you. Chronic anxiety was a constant companion. You were besieged with insomnia. This is very understandable since you could trust no one. 

No one in the family ever came to comfort you or made any effort to understanding what you were feeling. Displays of emotions were not allowed. They were scoffed at, derided and became the subject of scorn. 

Being married to a high level narcissist you are often criticized, humiliated, demeaned, controlled, questioned and screamed at. In the beginning everything seemed almost perfect. Months go by and you notice chinks in this perfect false facade.When he makes huge mistakes you are blamed. Then the projections rev up. ..Your narcissistic spouse is always right and you are wrong. You are the culprit in every instance. Over time the high level creates a psychological climate of anxiety, extreme stress that becomes intolerable. There is no empathy coming from the high level. Your stress level heightens. Yo recognize that you are being re-traumatized by this narcissistic spouse. Memories of your toughest years of growing up in your narcissistic family from hell flash through your mind You feel that you are back there with the generalized anxiety, feelings of inadequacy.

You come to a time of awakening with all of your research and wisdom and revelation—Now you choose your own pathway of restoration and renewal to fulfill your destiny as a unique, creative evolved individual. 

Practice self care: nourishing food, good hydration, Nature, movement and exercise, positive self regard, spending time with individuals whom you trust, your form of spiritual practice. 

Give yourself tremendous credit for finding your way—for persevering and rediscovering the beauty and power of your true original self.

The high level becomes picky and criticizes you over the smallest issues.

Debby Waldman Encore — “How Covid-19 and Power Tools Helped Heal My Relationship With My Son”

Special Episode for Suicide Prevention Week:
Debby Waldman is a writer and ex-pat American who has lived in Edmonton, Alberta, since 1992. We were knitting buddies in New Haven, Connecticut in the mid-1980s when she was a newspaper reporter there, but we lost touch until recently, when a mutual friend sent me her New York Times essay, “How Covid-19 and Power Tools Helped Heal My Relationship With My Son”:

The essay is in part about how the pandemic gave her a chance to pursue a long-time dream, to learn woodworking, but it’s also about another step in her journey to understand and come to grips with her family’s legacy of mental illness. She has recently completed a draft of a memoir about the effects of the secrets and silence that surrounded the suicide of her father, a Reform rabbi, when she was 13. Learn more at

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High Level Narcissists Double Down on Their Hubris and Toxic Greed

Today we are surrounded by narcissistic personalities, some of them high level: those individuals who are financially and socially successful. Many are exceedingly charming and easily psychologically magnetize people to them. 

Their identities are defined by their obsession with climbing to the top professionally, monetarily and socially. Nothing else matters to them. These individuals are highly self confident, look down upon others, tend o be aggressive personalities who push others aside using cunning, well placed lies and subterfuges, plots and plans t make sure that they wind. If they have to cause distress and disappointment to others along the way, this doesn’t matter to them. 

Getting to the top is all that matters.

High levels are exceedingly greedy. 

Along with their greed, the high level possesses extreme hubris. Coming from the Latin this means excessive pride or arrogance. Hubris is part of the package that the high level presents to the world and all of those who have to deal with them.

Those who are married to or partnered with the high level are on a very mixed journey. 

Ultimately you are dealing with a severe personality disorder.

There is a time of awakening when you make the decision to move forward along pathways of individual fulfillment, solitude and your unique creativity.

Frank King Encore — From Comedy Writer to Suicide Prevention Speaker and Trainer

Special Encore Episode for Suicide Prevention Week:

Frank King was a writer for The Tonight Show for 20 years. But these days he’s helping prevent suicide.
Depression and suicide run in Frank’s family. He was just a young boy when his grandmother committed suicide, an image that’s seared into his mind. He’s thought about killing himself more times than he can count. He’s fought a lifetime battle with Major Depressive Disorder and Chronic Suicidality, turning that long dark journey of the soul into five TEDx Talks and sharing his lifesaving insights on mental health awareness with associations, corporations, and colleges. Find out more about his work at And Check out and to learn more about suicide prevention.

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Zodiac Magic 007 – 2nd Week In September – Very Exciting Opportunities This Week

Host Doug Stephan and Astrologer/Actor Laura Banks she can be contacted at: 352-552-1243, begin with the wonderful opportunities for healing, accountabilities and romance for Virgos. The brakes are off between the New Moon on the 6th and the 10th. Laura says, “It’s a great time to fall in love with someone new or try something new in the bedroom.” Next, Psychic Scout Mary O’Maley she can be contacted at: 800-341-9609 explains the differences between Old Souls and New Souls. Did you know that you chose your parents? Mary explains Free Will, our 2 levels of thought and how they can be used to change your path. One of her techniques for that is Hypnotherapy. Finally, the story of how Walt Disney re-programmed himself, to make his dreams come true.

Toby Younis and Shelley Carney — Helping Encore Entrepreneurs Make Sense of Technology

Toby Younis and Shelley Carney are encore entrepreneurs at AGK Media Studio. Their mission is to help other encore entrepreneurs master the technology necessary to produce live stream video, podcast episodes and blogs all at the same time so they can achieve visibility and credibility in the online marketplace. Find out more at:

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Are You Telling the High Level Narcissist – Keep Lying to Me

You made a secret deal with yourself. If you keep giving the high level narcissist a pass on his/her lying by omission and commission he will stay with you—you will not be abandoned! It is very difficult reveal to ourselves that we have been so desperate to have gone against our own well being. The fear of abandonment is overwhelming for many individuals who are involved with narcissistic personalities. Traumatized as children by a narcissistic mother or father, they were treated with coldness and cruelty, disdain and even disgust. 

Even when this child behaves perfectly, this is not sufficient for the narcissistic parent to offer warmth, acceptance and caring. You cannot be good enough for a person with this kind of character disorder. The child of the narcissistic parent is psychologically and emotionally abandoned

When the adult child of a narcissistic parent marries a narcissist this pattern continues. The narcissist demands perfection from you. 

Since they don’t have a fully developed conscience it is easy for them to keep you from knowing about their secret lives. You want to believe the high level’s lies. This is not your fault. It is the result of the psychological trauma you experienced as the abused abandoned child of your narcissistic parent. 

Years, decades go by and you are still fighting yourself and remain with the high level narcissist. You have chronic insomnia, digestive disorder, you are constantly in a state of fight or flight, the sympathetic nervous system mode.

Finally, you recognize fully the true nature of the high level narcissist, that these are fixed personality disorders that do not change, that you must separate yourself from the high level narcissist to rescue your true original self, to restore your psychological, emotional and physical vitality and the use of your creative gifts. I give you tremendous credit for moving forward. I honor your insights, research, your fine character, psychological and emotional grounding, your unique creative gifts.



Hoarding and OCD

Dr. Paul Meier and Kristin talk about hoarding which is a misunderstood aspect of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

Paul Meier is an MD, Psychiatrist, and an Ordained Minister who is the founder of the Meier Clinics. He has authored or co-authored over 80 books, mostly Christian self-help books like Love is a Choice and Happiness is a Choice, and also a series of Bible Prophecy novels, including The Third Millennium.


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