Mark Wolynn is the director of the Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco. He is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. His book It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (published by Viking/Penguin) is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology and has been translated into 19 languages. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal, and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker.
Mark explains what Family Trauma is.
When trauma is unresolved it can pass on to future generations.
Many of us live with medical mysteries that need deeper examination.
Our sense of not having enough can hark back to not getting enough attention from our mother in early life.
If the mother has a previous difficult pregnancy or miscarriage, or any difficult life experience during pregnancy, that will affect the child’s experience as a fetus.
Instead of blaming your parents because you are, in some way, screwed up, find out what trauma they experienced that allowed them to treat you the way they did.
There’s a long list of questions about their parents that Mark asks his clients.
Although early memories may not be available to us, they still affect us.
By understanding what your parents went through, it makes it easier to forgive your parents. We can then let go of whatever anger we are holding on to.
Mark helps people get out of the stress response so they can have new, more pleasant experiences and build new neural pathways while overcoming the stress response.
Mark mentions some of the techniques he uses and how he helps people become “trauma detectives”.
Trauma in our family history can determine how success does or does not flow to us.
Because of Covid, we have the chance to look inside and work through past traumas.
What’s your worst fear? It time to look at this.
When traumas are not talked about, that’s what leads to repeating the pattern.
Mark’s Book: It Didn’t Start with You
Mark’s Site – www.MarkWolynn.com
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/MarkWolynn/