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High Level Narcissists Demand Perpetual Praise and Adulation

quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: 

“Like water cascading down a falls, compliments and tributes must flow to the narcissist at all times. He/she expects and counts on this praise. He/she recounts endless stories of his triumphs and expect s others to tell him/he “how wonderful he is.” The slightest interruption in this unguent tide is disconcerting and disturbing to the narcissist. Reactions can range from feelings of being slighted and hurt to uncontrollable rage…Devotees spin an elaborate web, a golden aura, around the narcissist. They fawn, they glow… There eyes glaze as their head tilt in is direction. Under a light or heavy trance, followers are hypnotized by the narcissistic lure…Living only to please and appease an imperious narcissist, combined with mounting erosions of their individual opportunities, faithful followers eventually become hate-filled enemies.”

You research the narcissistic personality and follow your intuition and wisdom and recognize that you have been in a non-relationship with the high level narcissist. Give yourself credit for the work that you are doing. 

Practice self care: get the sleep and rest that you need, eat nourishing food, hydrate well, do movement and exercise that works for you, develop a spiritual practice in the way that you define this, spend time in Nature for restoration and calming. 

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Episode 43, Part 1: Dr. Kim Daniels (she/hers), licensed clinical psychologist, breaks down emotional eating, “overeating”, and binge eating

On this episode, Catherine and Francis are joined by Dr. Kim Daniels, a licensed clinical psychologist and online coach with practices in Hartford, Connecticut. In both practices, Kim works with women who are struggling with emotional eating, “overeating”, and binge eating. She has been working with such women for 20 years now, and continues to be passionate about helping women to change their relationship with food, their bodies, and themselves.

Kim talks with EDNR about the nuanced language within the binge/overeating spectrum of disordered eating, the body positivity movement, and provides space to critically think about how emotional eating can be a healthy (and for some a necessary) part of our relationships with food. Enjoy!

You are Expendable to the Exploitive Narcissist

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: “The narcissist is a master at extracting the pulp and juice of others—their time, talent, creative ideas, energies—to serve his purpose alone.  When he has distilled the best from you and all that is of value to him/her, he discards the rest and move on. All relationships with narcissistic individuals are exploitive.”

If you are married to or partnered wit a narcissistic personality  it is essential that you know:

Narcissists don’t change; rather their psychopathology worsens as time goes on.

They remain severely psychologically regressed.

Narcissists live in a delusional world of their making.

Living with narcissists wears you down, trapping you in the sympathetic zone, crating accumulative oxidative stress. 

Choose our well being and inner peace. You are a singular individual: insightful, evolved, creative. 

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Episode 42: This Week's Digest

In this digest episode, Francis and Catherine reflect on their conversation with Marla Mervis-Hartmann about healing from disordered eating and movement to find body acceptance and love. Catherine shares the freeing experience of participating in dance classes outside during the pandemic without mirrors. Francis explores the concepts of body neutrality, body positivity, body acceptance, and body liberation and the ways in which people approach their bodies from within different frameworks. They also discuss the value of using multiple modalities to find healing.

High Level Narcissists – Shameless Liars

Lying is automatic for the high level narcissist.

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: 

“Most of us have difficulty lying, whether by omission or commission. Lying makes us feel uncomfortable, as if something is fundamentally wrong. ”  This is not the case for the shameless high level narcissist who lacks conscience. 

“The narcissist insists that the way must be clear for him to move ahead. If the path is smoothed through his lying, that’s al right.”

“Lying and evasion are a way of life for the narcissist.” 

At a point of awakening you recognize that you will move along your own pathway of restoration, healing, transformation and the evolution of your authentic self. 

Practice self care each day: get the sleep and rest you need and deserve, good hydration, nourishing food, movement and exercise, time in Nature, use of your creative gifts, a spiritual practice as you define this. 

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Episode 41, Part 2: Marla Mervis-Hartmann talks about creating Love Your Body Love Yourself, and offers thoughts on the road to recovery

In the second part of this episode, Marla Mervis-Hartmann — founder and creator of the “Love Your Body Love Yourself” speaking series, workshops, and coaching programs — shares how she helps clients through their journeys to learning to love their bodies. She looks beyond low self-esteem to dig deep with clients, helping them tap into their fears, childhood experiences and traumas, and their deep-seated feelings about themselves.

She also addresses the ways in which people feel pressure from social media and other cultural influences and use those influences to justify disordered behaviors. At the end of the conversation, Marla provides guidance for people who are struggling to find a way out of body hatred and unsustainable behaviors.

Intuition – Psychological and Spiritual Light

Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: 

“Intuitions are moments of insight that awaken our consciousness with speed and clarity…When you re an intuitive many people label you as an eccentric. Psychological openness is a key to deepening intuition. The intuitive message is faster than thought.” 

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High Level Narcissist – Masters of Denial and Grand Delusions

Understanding the world of the high level narcissist, quoting my hook: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life: 

“The narcissist lives in an intricate world of his making, dominated by inflated illusions of self-importance. His style is grandiose, like some peacock or wild turkey with feathers in full display. His version of reality bears no resemblance to the truth. Experiencing himself as the center of life, like a sun surrounded by encircling planets, the narcissist believes that everything flows from him.”

“High level narcissists are highly rewarded for the very attributes that make them inconsiderate and demanding human beings: self-absorption, aggressiveness, hubris.” 

“We are programmed to envy their (high level narcissist) success. They are fawned over and admired despite a delusional consciousness that rides high on the winds of self-adoration, outrageous demands and excess indulgence.” 

“Setting himself/herself apart from all the rest, he struts across the stage of life—cocksure. His ship leans at full tilt, all sails billowing, ego fully unfurled”

This is the tale of the high level narcissist, his/her delusional world of self perfection and extreme self entitlement. 

Pay close attention to the messages of your intuition. It reveals the true nature of the high level narcissist and helps you focus on your authentic self with your many creative and spiritual gifts. 

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Episode 41, Part 1: Marla Mervis-Hartmann (she/hers) shares how she learned to listen, love, and care for herself from a loving place

In the first of this two-part episode, Marla Mervis-Hartmann — founder and creator of the “Love Your Body Love Yourself” speaking series, workshops, and coaching programs — shares her journey experiencing a dysfunctional body-relationship and eating disorder, and how surrendering to a higher power and constantly reframing negative thinking (along with other techniques) helped propel her towards a recovered life. Marla describes herself as a woman, a mother, a friend, a sister, a wife, a teacher, a former body and food obsess-er, and present time lover of love and life. We’re grateful she joined the podcast!

Empaths – Honor Your Inner Wisdom

Don’t expect others, especially narcissistic personalities to understand you.  They are trapped in denial and delusion. You comprehend and appreciate yourself and your intuitive gifts.

Accept yourself as a rare individual, an irreplaceable pearl of great price. Embrace your differentness.

Follow the truths of your intuition – a perpetual sanctuary lamp. 

You instincts about the true nature of the lies, ruses, baits and confabulations of the narcissistic personality. They are valid; follow them.

Slow your pace. Find your rhythm. Don’t let anyone hurry or confound you.

Honor your rest and sleep. If you have trouble sleeping, be kind and let yourself rst. Make no judgments – be a loving presence to the small child inside of you. Listen to music that quiets your nervous system, eases your anxiety and worry, softening your self judgment, infusing you with hope and vitality.

Engage with beauty wherever you find it—in Nature, great Art that speaks to and inspires you.  

Honor your body/mind: gentle yoga poses, basic stretching. 

Listening and telling stories of past remembering. The details and sense of place that you portray take you to another world; you travel through time and space – your reality expands; your old darkness and struggles fade; you are up for the adventure of the story.

Sing to yourself -familiar tunes and melodies appreciate the uniqueness of your voice. No judgments here. You are savoring this moment. 

Or you can chant, whatever is more comfortable and enjoyable to you. Singing activates the vagus nerve and in turn the parasympathetic nervous system. 

Appreciate and honor your uniqueness as a precious individual, an empath.

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