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10 Signs You're TEXTING a Narcissist

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If you’re relying on texts to get to know someone before meeting them, here are 10 signs you might be texting someone who lacks empathy, feel entitled, and sees others as pawn pieces rather than autonomous human beings deserving of mutual respect. Lisa A. Romano the Breakthrough Life Coach breaks it down for us.

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10 Reasons Narcissists Hate You

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Narcissists don’t see you as an autonomous human being with needs and wants. They don’t place a high value on empathy, reciprocity, fairness, mutual respect, or compassion. Others are pawns on a chessboard and the better you become at spotting narcissistic traits in those you know, the fewer rabbit holes down you will go. Lisa A. Romano the Breakthrough Life Coach breaks it all down.

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9 Ways YOU Self Sabotage YOURSELF in Subconscious Ways

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You can’t get out of a box what you never put in the box, so if you never felt loved, don’t be surprised if you find it hard to love yourself. Or if your parents were alcoholics and your childhood was chaotic, don’t be surprised if emotional chaos follows you everywhere you go. Lisa A. Romano the Breakthrough Life Coach helps us break it all down in this episode.

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HIJACKALS ARE BOUNDARY BULLDOZERS

Setting Boundaries. Calibrating Results. Making Decisions. No matter what the Hijackal thinks they are entitled to you need to set, express, and hold boundaries. In this episode, I’ll give you effective ways to begin, or continue, setting clear boundaries and staying strong. Oh, and, what to do when those Hijackals trample them, too! Yes, Hijackals are boundary bulldozers. They don’t like boundaries…unless they are their own. Then, of course, everything is different! Hijackals are definitely not interested in your boundaries in the way you want them to be. Listen in, though, to find out one way that Hijackals REALLY like to hear your boundaries. You don’t set boundaries for them,. though, you do it for yourself. You want to be Emerging Empowered and knowing your boundaries, being willing to express and maintain them, is part of that practice.You previously may have made requests of the Hijackal in your life. How did that work? Did you get the results you wanted? Boundaries are another step beyond requests. Knowing what your boundaries are in the first step. Then, being willing to speak up about them comes next. You do well to know the steps. That’s what I’m outlining for you in this episode, so you can feel more confident.How Hijackals respond to boundaries is good to know these seven responses you may receive. That helps so you won’t be surprised when it happens!After you set and express your boundaries, you need to know how to maintain them, how to keep them non-negotiable. That again will help you with emerging empowered!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why Hijackals–narcissists, anti-socials, histrionics–are not interested in respecting your boundariesWhy Hijackals like to hear your boundaries (confusing, right?)Why set boundariesWhen boundaries need consequencesWhy boundaries cannot be threatsThe necessity for boundaries to be non-negotiable Not sure how to begin setting boundaries with a toxic person in your life? I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #fboundaries #settingboundaries #expressingboundaries #maintainingboundaries #settingboundarieswithanarcissist #needforboundaries #cognitiveempathy #whynarcissistslikeboundaries #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are You Telling the High Level Narcissist – Keep Lying to Me

You made a secret deal with yourself. If you keep giving the high level narcissist a pass on his/her lying by omission and commission he will stay with you—you will not be abandoned! It is very difficult reveal to ourselves that we have been so desperate to have gone against our own well being. The fear of abandonment is overwhelming for many individuals who are involved with narcissistic personalities. Traumatized as children by a narcissistic mother or father, they were treated with coldness and cruelty, disdain and even disgust.

Even when this child behaves perfectly, this is not sufficient for the narcissistic parent to offer warmth, acceptance and caring. You cannot be good enough for a person with this kind of character disorder. The child of the narcissistic parent is psychologically and emotionally abandoned

When the adult child of a narcissistic parent marries a narcissist this pattern continues. The narcissist demands perfection from you.

Since they don’t have a fully developed conscience it is easy for them to keep you from knowing about their secret lives. You want to believe the high level’s lies. This is not your fault. It is the result of the psychological trauma you experienced as the abused abandoned child of your narcissistic parent.

Years, decades go by and you are still fighting yourself and remain with the high level narcissist. You have chronic insomnia, digestive disorder, you are constantly in a state of fight or flight, the sympathetic nervous system mode.

Finally, you recognize fully the true nature of the high level narcissist, that these are fixed personality disorders that do not change, that you must separate yourself from the high level narcissist to rescue your true original self, to restore your psychological, emotional and physical vitality and the use of your creative gifts. I give you tremendous credit for moving forward. I honor your insights, research, your fine character, psychological and emotional grounding, your unique creative gifts.

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Addicted to the Image, Power and Extreme Self Entitlement of the High Level Narcissist

You watch them make their entrances at prestigious private events—their overall “look” is impeccable. There are no flaws anywhere that you would discover even with an illumination device. You ask yourself: “How could anyone be that perfect?” Attention to detail is over the top. Like a perfect film set there is nothing out of place ever. Everything is focused on his image, entitlements, raw power, significant money making contacts, schemes and ruses for climbing to the summits of power and material largesse.

The high level narcissist habitually shifts blame on to you when he/she is at fault and has caused you psychological and emotional pain. This is not your fault. Narcissists never take responsibility for their multiple transgressions. They are incapable of empathy or a developed conscience.

You hear echoes of your role as the outcast in your family of origin. In this pathological family dynamics you were wrong from the beginning.

High level don’t want you to be fully yourself as an individual; after all you would have a mind completely of your own and be unwilling to obey and tow the line to their overextended egos. They insist that you play their games and not take the initiative in important matters.

In the beginning the days are exciting; everything is magical.

There is a time when torrents of narcissistic psychopathology rain on you nonstop. The air is thick with the narcissist’s recriminations, criticisms, accusations, ugly projections, flagrant lies. You feel the adrenaline running through your sympathetic nervous system during the day and especially at night. You cannot sleep; you are under siege. The dark shadow of the high level takes its toll on your psychological and emotional reserves. Chronic insomnia becomes part of your long nights.

There is a time of awakening when you recognize after much research and insight that you can no longer remain in this toxic non relationship with the high level narcissist.

You are moving forward now, knowing that you can reconstitute yourself as an independent, creative, calmer, grounded individual You feel a sense of peace and wholeness moving inside now. This is your day and time, your moment. Give yourself great credit for the complex and arduous journey you are making. Straight forward you go, seeking truth, wisdom, solitude, beauty, mutual trust and the full use of all of your unique creative gifts.

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Psychological Ambush by the Covert Narcissist

Many of them go unnoticed at social events, appearing to be self effacing with a low grade ego. Meet the covert narcissist—that individual who is a narcissistic personality without the elaborate persona. They fool a lot of people with their practiced pseudo empathy and fake humility. Covert narcissists are highly competitive, manipulative, intensely secretive and willing to control you to get what and whom they want like their grandiose cousins.

Their motive is to win you over and gain your trust. Watch out, the covert narcissist is doing his dirty work.

To protect yourself from the covert narcissist, study every facet of the narcissistic personality. Become keenly aware of their game playing. Learn to detach yourself from the covert narcissist. Some individuals practice their form of meditation and prayer. Exercise, sleep, rest, nutrition, good hydration, creative pursuits.

You’re in charge of yourself and your reaction to others. You are a unique individual: grounded, creative, persevering, inspiring.

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QUELLING THE FEAR OF REJECTION…especially from narcissistic hijackals!

No one likes to be rejected. It’s uncomfortable, painful, and a blow to the self-confidence and self-esteem. What can you do about it? How do you think it through? It’s more difficult in a relationship with a Hijackal, Listen in to understand the dynamics and know what steps to take to quell the fear of rejection. if you had a Hijackal parent, you may well have developed a fear of rejection very early in your life. Living with a Hijackal parent or two creates a demand from them that they always have the upper hand and discard you at any moment, for any reason. That taps into a basic fear of being abandoned, and as you get older that can develop into a fear of rejection once you understand language and have a sense of your family dynamics. Many people strive for perfection in the hopes of meeting the parents’ expectations and receiving their validation. Conversely, I think that that striving for perfection is more motivated by a fear of rejection. Unless you address this in your life, you cannot find and live your own personal power. Hijackals will rule your life, even when they are not around, because you have internalized their unrealistic expectations of you. This is SO work thinking through and working through.Rejection happens. You’ll have feelings about it and they may not be pleasant, maybe even painful. You’ll live through it. When you liberate yourself from the FEAR of rejection, you set yourself free. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why the fear of rejection is too common–more common than you thinkHow the fear of rejection is developedHow narcissistis and other Hijackals use fear of rejection as a tool to control youWho is most likely to have a fear of rejectionWhy recognizing a fear of rejection is the beginning of setting yourself free If you recognize that you have a fear of rejection, I’m here to help.Let’s talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community #fearofrejection #perfectiontoavoidrejection #notspeakingup #fearofnotbeinggoodenough #hijackalsuserejection #narcissiststhreatenrejection #threatofrejection #whydoIhaveafearofrejection #tyrannyofrejection #tyrannyofnarcissists #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Disengaging Yourself From the Lifestyle Perks of the High Level Narcissist

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: “The narcissist lives in a world of his making, dominated by inflated illusions of self-importance. His version of reality bears no resemblance to the truth…the narcissist believes that everything flows from him.

High level narcissists who have achieved greatly through their myriad gifts, a mastery of using others to accelerate their climb up the summits of power and largesse, often lead heady lifestyles of glamour, pleasure, material acquisition, an over-weaning sense of self entitlement and personal perfection.