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Never Underestimate the High Level Narcissist's Cunning

The high level narcissist is a restless human being. He/she is always seeking narcissistic supplies–those psychological foods that he must have in order to keep his ego sense of self fully inflated…. 

Those who marry high level narcissists are unaware of their cunning and secrecy. 

You have been betrayed too many times and treated with disrespect—This is a non-relationship. 

Now you are awakening to self care: rest and sleep, nourishing food, hydration, movement and exercise, Nature, beautiful music, your form of spiritual practice.

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10 Emotionally Abusive Things Hijackals Say Often

You hear the same demeaning, dismissive things from narcissistic Hijackals all the time. It wears you down and they put your down. You need tools and strategies to neutralize the poison when it’s being poured on you. This episode gives you specific insights into keeping yourself safer. #Hijackals are always looking for a way, a place, an opening to exert power over you. I’m thinking that you’re nodding your head in agreement as you read that, right? Hijackals will go to any lengths to be right, to win, to make you wrong, and make everything your fault. It’s the Hijackal’s nature to do that. And, it is exhausting! You can become so worn down that you may even start believing what a Hijackal says about you. Has that happened to you? Or, maybe, you got to the “Whatever!” stage? You have been judged, criticized, gaslighted, and ignored, too. They feel powerful when they do those things: large and in charge, they think. They are not. They are actually small and afraid, but they’ll never, ever see or admit that. In this episode, I’ve offered ten of the multitude of things a narcissist or other Hijackal will say to you to put you in your place, or so they think! In their worlds, they must be the top of the pile, and they honestly think that their needs, wants, thoughts, feelings, preferences, memories, whims, and demands should take precedence over everyone else’s. Yes, they may do that in an overt, obvious, even grandiose way. They also may do it in a “I’m a victim” covert way. In fact, many times, they’ll use both, just to cover their bases. How to respond to this to save your sanity and stop second-guessing yourself? I offer you clear ways to work on that. ?HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why narcissistic Hijackals (in fact, all Hijackals) need to demean, dismiss, and discount you10 phrases they use to hopefully gain power over youHow to use your inner dialogue to not shrink when a narcissist is nastyRecognizing more ways that emotional abuse shows up in primary relationships with parents, partners, siblings, and adult childrenHow to stick to the facts and respond accordingly Do you need insights and strategies for mitigating and responding to emotional and verbal abuse?  I’m here to help.I wish you well.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCASThttp://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOKhttps://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTERhttps://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDINhttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAMhttps://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTERESThttps://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community Save $24 on your first three months.———————————————————————-#emotionallyabusive #nastythingsnarcissistssay #whatnarcissistssay #howtoneutralize #neutralizeemotionalabuse #neutralizingverbalabuse #yourinternaldialogue #notgoodenough #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

High Level Narcissists – Vicious Exploitation

High level narcissists cause multiple psychological and emotional traumas in the lives of others, particularly their spouses, ex-spouses, children, in-laws. Always on the hunt for narcissistic supplies which includes a feverish search for people they can exploit, the high level can deleteriously affect a wide swath of people including close family members. Exploitive, duplicitous, high manipulative, secretive, the high level never stops his hunt for the ultimate narcissistic supplies: praise, adulation, social status, wealth, spouses and partners that will enhance his/her image of perfection. 

I have seen families decimated in the aftermath of the narcissist’s vicious, repeated dark deeds. Having neither shame nor conscience, a high level narcissist, thinks absolutely nothing of leaving an ex-spose and his children with no financial support or security while he or she moves on with a new fresh partner to marry again and begin a new family. Narcissists don’t stop. Just when you think that they have mellowed, changed or slowed down, they will surprise you with finding another way to obstruct you. 

 High level narcissists want everything for themselves. They will never take responsibility ever for the damage that they do. Never wait for an apology or reparations from them. They view themselves as perfect—they have the problem. 

Become highly informed about the narcissistic personality. This is a powerful tool for you. 

You are moving forward along your pathways of the original self. You deserve tremendous credit for all of your research, insights, intuitions and great wisdom 

 

High Level Narcissists Eclipse Your Psychological, Emotional and Creative Options

You cannot be the spouse of a high level narcissist and be free to be yourself.  The narcissist takes space in certain crevices of  your mind and heart that cannot be overlooked. 

High level narcissists nibble away at our hope, creativity and optimism. They pick at you here and there. For spouses who are more dependent and vulnerable, they can leave this person  helpless, unable to make their own decisions, immobilized psychologically. 

High level narcissists weaken, deride and humiliate the ones This is delusional on their part.  

After research, study, insights and many efforts you reach an awakening to the truth about the true nature of the high level narcissist. 

Practice self care each day: rest, sleep,  nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise that works for you,. 

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THE DREADED SILENT TREATMENT

Ugh! The narcissistic Hijackal falls silent, ignores you, and won’t respond. What’s up with that? What are they hoping to achieve? What’s your internal dialogue? What ways are most effective to respond? That’s today’s episode. So dismissive! Hijackals can treat you as though you’re invisible, erased, and definitely not present. They want to impress upon you the contempt they feel for you. So, they fall silent. Big power move…or, so they think! Until you understand the dynamics of this, you may be upset, distressed, and doing everything in your power to get the Hijackal to starting talking to you. Have you done that? What was the cost? I’ll bet it was at the expense of your self-esteem at the very least! Hijackals and other narcissistic folks–and other passive-aggressive people–want you to think they have power over you. When they can’t win by talking, they try to by The Silent Treatment. It’s nasty. For some of them, they do it because they don’t know what else to do. Pathetic! For others, they do it to impress on you just how upset they are with you. Is it working? So much of the BIG silence is emotionally abusive. I’m sure you’ve felt that, but have you allowed yourself to call it that? In this episode, I talk about seven ways that The Silent Treatment is emotionally abusive. After you listen, you’ll be able to clearly see what’s up with that in your relationship. ?HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What Hijackals want to avoid by giving you The Silent TreatmentWhy narcissistic folks misguidedly think The Silent Treatment will work7 ways to recognize The Silent Treatment as emotional abuse6 ways NOT to respond to The Silent Treatment4 MUST-DOS to respond to The Silent TreatmentIf you’re tired of the drama, the manipulation, and The Silent Treatment,  I’m here to help.I wish you well.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCASThttp://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOKhttps://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTERhttps://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDINhttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAMhttps://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTERESThttps://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community Save $24 on your first three months.———————————————————————-#silenttreatment #respondingtothesilenttreatment #whatsupwiththat #whatbulliesdo #thesilenttreamentisabusive #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Expanding and Deepening Your Individuality

Qualities of Individuality 

Independence of Mind- Respecting your thought processes but remaining flexible to changing your perceptions when research and insight individuates your movement to a new direction.

Trusting your intuition – Flashes of wisdom that move taster than thought. 

Appreciate the forces that created you and how you survived and who you are becoming as a unique individual.

Appreciating you sense of humor – Humor is magic and distinguishes us as individuals.

A scene from a camping site near the ocean describes the beauty and simplicity of family and friend gatherings overlooking the ocean. Campers have set ups that move from motor homes to trucks to small campers. 

This is a lovely scene of people enjoying the cooking and eating of homemade food, children playing games, scooters, bikes; adults talking with one another with warmth, small fires that create warmth and friendship. 

Recall your memories of times you spent in beautiful natural places: ocean, lakes, mountains.  These experiences are calming, enjoyable, hopeful, restorative 

Appreciate yourself as an individual, immerse yourself in beauty every day, get the rest and sleep that you need and deserve, hydration, nourishing food, movement and exercise, listen to beautiful music. 

 

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How to BOOST Your Intuition

Childhood trauma can interfere with your ability to follow your intuition. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach, helps you better understand how you can learn to trust your instincts and follow your gut in spite of the fear of getting outside your comfort zone. Online Codependency Recovery Program https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp YouTube Channel http://bit.ly/32zOvUh Instagram @lisaaromano Contact support.coach@lisaaromano.co Facebook Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics

HIJACKALS & THEIR WARPED SENSE OF FAIR, JUST & EQUAL

Hijackals & other narcissistic people have neither thought nor intention of leveling any playing field. No, it’s about the all important winning. Why? What can you do or say? Use the ideas in this episode to step back from the crazy-making! When you’re in a relationship with a relatively healthy person, you work things out. In working them out together, you build trust and safety. It brings you closer. Not so when you’re dealing with narcissistic #Hijackals! They do not want to create emotional intimacy, so getting closer to them is really swooping in for the win. It is not something they can, or want to, sustain. You’ve likely noticed that. Why do they have out-of-proportion responses when you ask something small from them? Sadly, everything threatens them, and they resist any form of healthy giving. Normally healthy people, when offended, have a reaction, cool down, and things can be repaired. Hijackals react by devaluing you, threatening, punishing, disregarding, discarding, or the power move of The Silent Treatment. Learn more about these tactics in this episode. Also, learn four solid ways to respond when you recognize that you have been trying to fit in, please, or appease a person with narcissistic tendencies. Great steps to finding and reclaiming your personal power, the power to operate from your own thoughts, feelings, values, vision, beliefs, and desires. I know you don’t desire move emotional abuse, right? You’ll be empowered by taking these four steps! ?HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Most healthy enough relationships operate on fairness. Not so in a relationship with a #Hijackal.Why narcissistic Hijackals operate in their own self-interestWhy no meaningful solutions are found to relationship difficulties with a narcissistic personWays to respond to the warped sense of equality, fairness and justiceSteps to be emerging empowered as you recognize the warp and respondIf you’re exhausted and worn down by a toxic relationship, let’s talk about how to be emerging empowered from this warped world of Hijackals.  I’m here to help.I wish you well.Big hugs!RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCASThttp://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOKhttps://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTERhttps://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDINhttps://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAMhttps://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTERESThttps://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community Save $24 on your first three months.———————————————————————-#narcissistareunfair #neverequal #alwaysbetterthanme #needtowin #hijackalsneedtowin #oneupmanship #nothingisfair #hairlinesenseofjustice #narcissisticwould #narcissisticneeds @narcissistictendencies #warpedworld #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Emotional Baggage

Emotional baggage refers to the negative energy and scars we carry around with us from experience to experience. Learning to release our emotional baggage helps to set us free, raise our vibrations, and heal our mind, bodies and souls. Life Coach Lisa A. Romano breaks it down in this episode. Online Codependency Recovery Program https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp YouTube Channel http://bit.ly/32zOvUh Instagram @lisaaromano Contact support.coach@lisaaromano.co Facebook Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics/

Predatory Narcissists Compromise Your Physical and Psychological Health

I hear from many partners of predatory narcissistic personalities who have struggled profoundly in their marriages to narcissistic personalities. 

Living with a narcissistic spouse saps your energy, increases anxiety and hypervigilance, blocks your creative juices, stunts your emotional expression and spontaneity, isolates you from family and friends, sends you into depressive moods dysregulates your body/mind systems, increases oxidative stress, traps you in the sympathetic zone, the fight or flight survival mode. 

How much longer will you continue this self destructive pattern? How many more times will you return to the narcissist?

This is your moment of awakening, your revelation of the pathway of the authentic self. Your road is up ahead, awaiting your presence. 

Recognize that you are entitled, you are created to fulfill your destiny, a unique, creative, evolved individual. 

Spend as much time as you can in the calming restorative, parasympathetic mode: rest, sleep, nourishing food, hydration, beautiful music, time with individuals you trust, your unique spiritual practice, restorative time with Nature.  

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