Dr. Gary McGrath: Leadership and Emotional Intelligence – TPS443
Dr. Gary McGrath’s mission is to make Good Bosses into Great Leaders with Compassionate Accountability. His company is STATARIUS which is Latin for ‘to stand firm’ where he and his team of Statarians DEVELOP Leadership – they don’t just train leaders.
He served our country as an officer in the United States Army where he commanded 102 soldiers at the age of 25. He is the author of two books, a Certified Speaking Professional with the National Speakers Association, and a meditation instructor. After living in nine states and two foreign countries, Dr. Gary has settled in Raleigh, NC.
Gary shares his journey to learning about emotional intelligence.
The only two characteristics of leadership effectiveness are emotional intelligence and cognitive judgment.
In business, we often don’t understand the importance of emotions and leadership.
Four parts of emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management.
Emotional intelligence means being able to tell – in the moment – how you are feeling and how someone you’re talking to is feeling.
Without emotional intelligence, you are trying to build your business as a manager, not a leader.
Gary defines leadership.
Typically, men have low self-awareness and high self-management. Women tend to have high self-awareness. Gary explains the brain science behind this phenomenon.
If a man tells a woman, “you’re being too emotional”, he is actually insulting her biology.
Men basically have two emotions – happy and pissed.
85% of performance problems at work are about problems outside of work. Our emotional state at work is impacted by everything in our life.
The only way we can truly show someone we care is by understanding their emotions.
Emotional intelligence is often thought of as a soft skill, but it is not. It’s hard.
Every decision that you make is an emotional one.
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