Tag: reducing fear

In today’s episode, I talk about the emotional healing crisis that happens when you release long-held emotions. I explain how emotions don’t just happen in your mind, but also happen in your physical body and how you can deal with the resulting discomfort.

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When you don’t express your emotions, there is a buildup of the “molecules of emotion” on the receptors of your cell. Because emotions are a form of energy, this buildup can cause physical symptoms.
I talk about some physical effects of holding in emotions.
When you make significant emotional changes, there is an energetic shift throughout your body and you have to would just to the new configuration.
Because most people don’t understand the idea of healing crises, they will often do things to stop the process.
I talk about the emotional healing crisis I’ve been going through.
As you start shifting to a new way of being, there’s a chance that you’re going to go through a healing crisis.
There is a wide variety of symptoms that you may experience when going through a healing crisis.
It takes time to take care of your body which is an incredible machine that requires maintenance.
If you get in touch with your body and learn how to communicate with your body, you’ll know what action to take when you feel a little off.
It’s important to learn at least a little bit about how your body works and to have people you can talk to about how your body works.
No one can know your body better than you.
The healing crisis is just something that happens – it isn’t bad – and if you can understand it better then you’ll know how to deal with it.

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Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert

The Wisdom of the Receptors: Neuropeptides, the Emotions, and the Bodymind by Candace Pert

In the last episode, I talked a lot about oppression as an underlying emotion with chronic debting. As a result, I then started thinking a lot about the whole idea of oppression and how it affects so many areas of our lives and our culture. In this short episode, I share some of what I was thinking about.

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Recognizing feelings of oppression that may be buried deep inside of you opens you to many new opportunities and possibilities.
The process of internal change can have physical effects and can be, in some cases, uncomfortable.
Many people want their lives to change but they don’t want to change. If you want your life to change, you have to go through some energetic shifts.
There are many things, on a day-to-day basis, that can lead to feelings of oppression.
You can’t experience real freedom when you feel oppressed.
Get in touch with when you feel oppressed doing your day-to-day activities.
You can ask yourself, “What do I need to do to feel less oppressed?”
When you get in touch with feeling oppressed and learn how to let it go, you’ll be able to give so much more to the world.

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To share your experience with getting in touch with feelings of oppression, write to me at Joan@ProsperityPlace.com.

In today’s episode, I take a deep dive into an aspect of the connection between emotions and money – specifically the issue of chronic debting, which is an issue I dealt with for many years.

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By changing your inner environment, especially your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, you can alter the outcomes of your life stories.
I talk about my family’s history with debting and how your family history will affect your financial behaviors. I also discuss my history and how I have dealt with debt.
Spending and debting allows us to feel connected to people.
I explained the process I use for discovering the emotions behind my behaviors.
Bodywork can help you release emotions that have been with you for a long time.
Chronic pain often is the result of long-held emotions.
I share an episode I had where I was able to reexperience the emotions I experienced while being abused – feeling oppressed, bullied, powerless.
I focus on the feeling of being oppressed and how that affects us individually and in our culture.
If many of us are carrying the feeling of being oppressed, we will, as a group, create being oppressed. Right now, there are many dramas going on between the oppressed and the oppressors.
Many of our leaders and corporations often act as the oppressors.
Whenever you have been through is what you need to become who you are becoming.
There is a group of emotional Gestalt that affects us on a cultural level.
Your life stories don’t create your feelings, your feelings create your life stories and this is true for groups as well.
When you come to understand and deeply experience your emotions, your life will move forward.
There is no simple answer – it’s a complex process. When you stop trying to be someone else and you are willing to fully accept yourself, you will be led to what you need. You need to follow and accept the things that show up.
When you learn how to recognize and differentiate between your different emotions, there is a simple process you can use to develop new responses to familiar stimuli.
You can learn the process via my course Rewire Your Brain for Prosperity & Financial Freedom

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My course, Rewire Your Brain for Prosperity & Financial Freedom

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In this episode, I explore how our fear of being alone often leads us to make decisions that don’t serve us well or meet our needs. This includes business and financial decisions as well as relationship decisions.

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We are wired to need other people and to fear being alone. This is a survival technique.
Money doesn’t come flying in the window: it comes from other people.
We have to understand what our needs are so we can satisfy ourselves.
You need whatever it is you’re getting today. Even the discomforts are part of your learning process.
Many people are afraid of wealth and power because it can be separating.
If you’re considering getting into a business or personal relationship, are you doing it because of your fear of being alone?
You have the option of creating an inner environment that allows you to feel satisfied with who you are today.
There are different qualities of a relationship and some people will click with us better than others. Some are just there to pass by and then move on.
If you are afraid of people and afraid of trusting life, you’re going to feel alone.
The feeling of being alone starts in early childhood – or before. If your mother felt alone when she was pregnant with you, then you will inherit that feeling.
The way to feel more connected is to recognize your feelings of aloneness and to not try to push the feeling away and to work through the emotion rather than trying to cover it up.
If you criticize yourself a lot, then you’re not connected to yourself.
Examine what it is you’re afraid of. Understand that financial fear is often the same as the fear of dying.
The fear of being alone often is the result of childhood abuse or neglect or your relationship with your parents.
Money can be the perfect mechanism for understanding the emotions that are holding you back.
Covid has brought ‘feeling alone’ into many people’s consciousness.
If you can let yourself feel the aloneness, then you’re one step closer to moving your life forward.
If the solutions are within you, why would you want to work with a coach or someone like that? I discuss.
If you have created a life that separates you from other people, that’s going to keep you from feeling fulfilled.

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My previous episode on Conscious Synchronicity

The audio Let Go of the Aloneness Blocking Your Prosperity

During the past few weeks, I have talked to a number of young people who have complained that even though they are doing EFT or BSFF and they’re trying to change their thoughts, they are still having trouble generating the income that they need to pay their basic expenses. In this episode, I talk about the inner work that will help you get unstuck financially.

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It’s important to manage your cash flow, especially when income is low.
Everyone has a different path, so it doesn’t work to say, “If I did it, you can do it too.”
Getting in touch with your inner guidance will help you find the best life that is right for you.
If you’re only focusing on income, you aren’t opening yourself to possibilities.
If you haven’t dealt with your money feelings by the time you’re in your mid-50s, those emotions will probably comment to the surface and you’ll have to deal with them.
Choose one thing that you want to work on and focus on that for whatever time it takes for a release.
When you only focus on the money, you aren’t getting to the real force behind your life stories.
I talk about ways you can shift negative self-talk.
If you don’t like what’s going on in your life, then you have the power to change it by changing what’s going on inside of you.
The more you understand about your inner world, the better you will be able to create the life you want.
It can take a year or more to change habitual responses to familiar stimuli.
Often, in the early part of our lives, what we’re going through is helping us realize what we’re not.
There is often an arc in our lives so that what we do as a young person comes back again in later years.
When you are feeling stuck financially, there isn’t just one thing that has to be done. But if you choose one thing to focus on, like changing yourself talk, you’ll see small gradual changes in your life.
I talk about how you can recognize, release, and replace the feelings that you are acting out through your money.
It’s really important to pay attention to your inner world in a non-judgmental way.
No one else can tell you what’s right for you. You have to get in touch with your inner guidance.
You get to choose – and every point – who you want to be and what you want to do.
Sometimes you have to be different from what you’ve been before.
There is no one thing that is going to change your financial situation.
You have the power to change your life. You don’t have the power to become someone else.

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Build Your Money Muscles: Nine Simple Exercises for Improving Your Relationship with Money

Rewire Your Brain for Prosperity & Financial Freedom

David Veech teaches leaders how to Love, Learn, Let Go, and Connect so they can create a workplace that fully engages the creative and productive power of people. He is a retired Army Veteran, has written two best-selling books, founded two successful international consulting firms, and provides executive coaching, leadership development, and problem solving for companies and government agencies around the world.

David’s messages inspire leaders and teams to obliterate obstacles, accelerate innovation, and elevate performance leaving everyone motivated and engaged for the future. His latest book is Leadersights.
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David shares how his 25 years in the Army taught him about leadership and how he became interested in the .
The evolving approach to leadership has become much more holistic, focusing on the inner world of the person as much as the outer world.
We encourage people to appeal to the emotions of those we are leading.
Leadership requires constant self-awareness and self-assessment.
Leaders who want to succeed are learning that they have to understand their people and their needs.
“Do it because I say so” method doesn’t work anymore.
No single individual can control the changes that are happening, so leaders need to learn how to let go of their tendency to control.
David explains why the control approach has worked for so long and why it’s no longer effective.
Servant leadership rather than authoritarian leadership is evolving and starts with the concept of love – putting the needs of my people above my needs.
The way you measure things drives the behavior, and the way Amazon measures things is causing some of their people problems.
Amazon’s major measure is time – how quickly can we deliver to people and what do we have to do to make that happen.
Since Amazon has acquired Zappos, employee satisfaction has been lowered significantly because Amazon is not treating the employees the way that Zappos did.
Running businesses without paying attention to people is not sustainable.
David finds encouragement in the B Corporation movement where companies are creating really satisfying jobs for people.
The Covid pause is allowing people to take a really good look at their lives and their values and many are deciding to make major changes.
We talk about possible changes in society that will take place – many of which are starting to take place.
The decision cycle starts with love, and this requires that you learn about the needs of the people that you serve.
David talks about the learning groups he’s hoping to put together.

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David’s Book – Leadersights: Creating Great Leaders Who Create Great Workplaces

David’s Website (Under Construction): https://www.leadersights.com

David’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/DSVLeadersights

David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidveech/       

Interview with Gary McGrath

About six weeks ago, I did an episode about feeling sorry for myself. Since then, I’ve seen how that applies to me and how feeling sorry for oneself affects many people. I’ve come to understand a number of related topics, including Personal Power, which I discuss in this episode.

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Step 1 in dealing with feeling sorry for yourself is to recognize the emotion and when it is coming up for you.
I’ve come to realize how very different each one of us is and how there’s no way to truly understand what goes on inside of other people. The only one who can fully understand you is you.
Many of our relationships are based on our wanting to be like other people.
You have created your life outcomes, which indicates how powerful you really are.
In our society, we haven’t learned how to embrace our differences as well as our similarities.
I realize that you can never fully understand everything about me and what I’m actually feeling. But you can relate to what I’m saying.
If we can each understand our differences, not just our similarities, we could live more peacefully with each other.
To be comfortable with who you are, it’s important to accept how much power you have.
In America, we have a huge amount of diversity, but a lot of people don’t want that diversity and don’t see its value.
To stop feeling sorry for ourselves, we have to stop feeling like victims.
When you start feeling powerless, examine your options and take action.
When you’re looking at yourself, it can be hard to go deep and you may be seeing yourself from a negative point of view.
This process can be complicated.
Are you willing to look at yourself without thinking that who you are being and what you’re doing is wrong? Are you willing to go through a little bit of discomfort in order to move in a positive direction?

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How Feeling Sorry for Yourself Affects Your Life Outcomes – TPS451

In this episode, David Newkirk and I continue our conversation about how he integrates spirituality and intuition into his consulting work. He also describes the work his company, Adept6, does with his clients. David’s work with corporate clients goes deeper with individuals within an organization than most consultants.

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More people within the business world are now becoming more open to understanding their own behavior and how that affects their business outcomes.
Leaders who are looking for help are aware that methods they’ve used before have not worked.
Good leaders are willing to look at their behaviors and other internal elements that affect their decisions rather than resisting the change.
David helps people see how their decisions develop and what they need to do to make better decisions and improve relationships.
Only a small number of people are ready to do the kind of work that David does and he believes that people who are drawn to his type of approach will find him. He often gets referrals from people who have experienced his work.
David explains what Adept6, the name of his business means, and the six things that he focuses on. He explains how the results his clients get using his methods are longer-lasting than when traditional methods are used.
We talk about how, as a consultant, it’s necessary to pay attention to the whole human being in each of the team members, including how their emotional habits are affecting their decisions.
David’s intuitive abilities have allowed him to work in diverse organizations on a deep level.
What you put out there creates a vibration that draws in what you’re looking for. We talk about the advantages of getting yourself in the right place and waiting to see what shows up.
Don’t treat people as transactions.
When David meets new potential clients, he makes clear how his mind works so they can understand where they might go together and if that works for them.
Because he can intuit the potential outcome of a client’s actions, David has to gently present what he sees in a way that will allow the client to make a good decision.
Identify blind spots, remove complexity, and empower the client to be successful on their own.

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David Newkirk’s email at dnewkirk@ethosconsults.com

David Newkirk’s website: www.ethosconsults.com

David Newkirk: Bringing Spirituality Into His Business Consulting Part 1

As Principal and Founder of Ethos Consulting, David Newkirk brings over 30 years of experience working in large corporations, small privately owned companies and business start-ups. His work has been a source of innovative thinking that has changed how industries and business leaders adapt to the ongoing dynamic changes impacting them. The innovation has led to his creation of ADEPT6, a program that is changing how businesses adapt and make changes to sustain growth and profitability.

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David explains how the essence of his spirituality expresses itself through his business and how he defines spirituality.
When we are in unconditional love, we accept people for who they are in the moment.
Unconditional love is a choice we make.
Asking if someone is spiritual is passing judgement.
David talks about his wide experience in business and how that has helped him develop strategies for companies.
Because of his meditation practices, David is able to see and understand a wide picture that can help companies solve problems.
Everything is energy and energy is always in motion and everything in life is energy. When we open up our intuition, each of us has a separate way of translating what we see.
No one has more or less intuition, there are just different levels of development.
Meditation is about setting up a way of being.
The art of meditation is about observing and receiving.
Enlightenment isn’t a state of being to achieve.
We talk about purpose.
Because you have freedom of choice, you can’t have regrets.

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David’s consulting site: www.ethosconsults.com

David’s meditation site: www.LightWarriorUnited.com

David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ethosconsults/

A lot of business people, including those who are successful, often deal with stress, overwhelm, and worry. My goal has always been to be able to run my business without stress and to experience ongoing peace of mind. In this episode, I discussed how to achieve this state of peace of mind.

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It takes a while to decide who you are, who you want to be, and what you want to do with your life.
When you reach a place of peace, you’ll be happier, healthier, and more productive without pushing yourself.
You have to learn how to “read” the inner signals that help you discriminate between what you need and what you don’t need.
If your goal is to experience success and peace of mind, you have to make the decision to do that.
The question isn’t what do you want to do, but who do you want to be.
Are you aware of the emotions that are driving you?
The difference between happiness and contentment is the corresponding brain chemicals.
Is it possible to live in a state of gratitude, acceptance, and satisfaction?
I was guided to learn to experience equanimity rather than getting hyper-excited about what was going on in my life.
You can train yourself to be in that state of equanimity, which allows you to live your life without stress.
Peace of mind requires a habit of acceptance and satisfaction and getting there, requires being aware of the habitual emotions that keep you from getting there.
This requires practicing and developing self-awareness and deciding what you want to be feeling instead of what you’re feeling now.
You have many different aspects of your personality. It takes a while to recognize which one of your aspects you’re being at any moment.
The system that I teach is about developing new responses to familiar stimuli so that things that normally trigger you no longer do.
One of the ways of becoming aware of your current emotional responses is through your money. I explain.
Start noticing the kinesthetic experience in your body any time you’re dealing with money. Do you feel contracted or expanded?
You can decide how you want to feel.
What will it take for you to be okay in this moment?

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TPS episode on Empathetic Detachment

The Hacking of the American Mind by Robert H Lustig, M.D., MSL

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