Fear Bonds, Love Bonds and Q&A with Dr. Jim Wilder
Dan and Stephanie set this podcast up with their podcast on Jan 2nd and Jan 16th of 2023. You will want to review this podcast before you hear today’s podcast on escaping enemy mode. We took questions from our listeners and those in our coaching courses based on Wilder’s work.
Some questions that came in:
How is attachment and hesed related?
How is attachment related to enemy mode?
What is a fear bond, and if you have PTSD or have been damaged by a relationship, can you achieve a love bond?
What parts of the brain have neuroplasticity? What can be learned for those on the spectrum?
More questions answered!
NDCCs are easily dragged into enemy mode- simple enemy mode, stupid enemy mode, and intellectual enemy mode. Our brains can unite or divide us. Join us for this discussion with Dr. Jim Wilder.
You will want to go back and hear our podcast “Are you in your right mind?” which sets the stage for this conversation.
Today we will talk about how those on the autism spectrum, due to neurological wiring, are more easily dragged into enemy mode. But we will also talk about JOY and how to escape enemy mode to re-friend and rebuild attachment/joy.
About Dr. Wilder:
Dr. Jim Wilder has been training leaders and counselors for over 30 years on five continents. Jim grew up in South America and is bilingual (English/Spanish). He is the author of nineteen books with a strong focus on maturity and relational skills. Dr. Wilder has served as a guest lecturer at Fuller Seminary, Biola, Talbot Seminary, Point Loma University, Montreat College, Tyndale Seminary, and elsewhere.
Dr. Jim Wilder has extensive clinical counseling experience and is the chief neurotheologian of Life Model Works, a nonprofit working at the intersection of theology and brain science. Life Model Works builds on the fifty-year legacy of Shepherd’s House, which began in the 1970s as a ministry to street kids in Van Nuys, California.
In those early days, Jim worked with the team of volunteer counselors and Fuller Seminary faculty to build a counseling center to help broken people recover from negative habits, addictions, abuse, and trauma. By the 1990s, Jim was Assistant Director and later Executive Director of Shepherd’s House, helping hundreds of pastors and churches with their toughest counseling cases.
Jim was intimately involved in 1987 when Shepherd’s House conducted a careful review of why some people with the same level of trauma and treatment recovered, but others did not. The results of this case-by-case study became The Life Model, a new recovery model. The Life Model study findings were published in Living from the Heart Jesus Gave You.