Tag: Rhoberta Shaler PhD

Are you suffering as a result of what Dr. Gary Salyer calls “badly-formed love?” You could be. Suffering is part of it, for sure. And, so much more. Do you know what well-formed love is? Have you seen it when you were growing up, or created it as an adult? Were you comfortable with it? BIG QUESTIONS! Dr. Gary Salyer has been my guest on Save Your Sanity before, and we talked about Trauma-Bonding. He was also on my Emotional Savvy podcast and we talked in-depth about Attachment Theory and Styles. (And, P.S. there are still over 150 episodes available to listen to even though I don’t do it anymore.)So much wisdom, great insights, and a wicked sense of humor, too. Enjoy! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What well-formed love isWhere you form the basis for badly-formed loveWhat is reasonable to expert from a “loving relationship”What might skew or warp your ideas of what a healthy relationship isWhat Dr, Gary Salyer means by “bonded to misery”The dysfunctional bond when love is mixed with suffering GUEST: DR. GARY SALYER Based on a field of study called Attachment Theory, the science of intimate relationships, Dr. Salyer’s insights have a profound and often times immediate impact. As a transformational relationship mentor, he helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains. After Dr. Gary Salyer’s second marriage crumbled he felt like an utter, complete failure. Rather than give in, he dedicated himself to doing deep research about all things love. He read, researched, furthered his education in the field, talked to experts and to people he loved. Most of all he did the deep transformation work that unlocked his heart and released his soul to love as he had always imagined.Love and how to make it lasting – became his life’s highest calling—In so doing, he has developed a powerful and effective methodology to make it “Safe to Love Again” GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH DR. GARY SALYER:WEBSITE: https://www.garysalyer.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SafetoLoveAgainYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dr.gary.salyer/LINKEDIN: http://www.linkedin.com/pub/gary-d-salyer-ph-d/8/93a/8a5TWITTER: https://twitter.com/GaryDSalyer——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#drgarysalyer #badlyformedlove #illformedlove #attachmentstyles #whymyrelationshipisfailing #sabotagingrelationship #safetoloveagain #ruiningrelationships #subconsciousrelationshippatterns #canIbeloved #passiveaggressive#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressive Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You’re worn, torn, and put down. You’re exhausting in every way. The #narcissist, the #Hijackal, see that as an accomplishment. Hijackals are intimidating. They expect you to comply with their wishes, wants, demands, and supposed needs. #Hijackals threaten you. They want to instill fear and make you dependent on them, all the while complaining that you are, right? It’s SO important that you recognize the ways–small and large–that emotional abusers intimidate you, or could intimidate you. Sometimes, their negative behavior starts in small ways, and grows to ultimate control. Or, at least, that’s their plan. This episode will give you the insights to see what’s up, and why you may be tolerating it. AND, the first steps to saying “NO!” to it in small, internal ways to start. Hopefully, after listening, you’ll begin to see the need to start some internal sifting and sorting in preparation for a big change. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:The six ways intimidation is used to control Why you might be suffering from being intimidatedThree main methods of intimidationWhy intimidation succeeds How #Hijackals use “withholding” to control youHow #gaslighting plays into intimidationRecognizing coercive control for what it isWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#coercivecontrol #intimidationbynarcissist #intimidationbypredator #intimidationinmyrelationship #fearinrelationships #sayingnotocoercivecontrol #livinginfear #livingwithsecrets #regainingselfconfidence #saynotoabuse #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ?Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

There can be a razor’s edge difference between a self-centered person and a narcissistic one. Does it really matter if you know when you are dealing with them? Dr. Laura Dabney offers her experience as a psychiatrist dealing with some of the most difficult cases in the field. Her insights will help you more deeply understand those differences between a generally self-centered person, and a truly narcissistic one. I’ve often spoken about “healthy selfishness” and we continue that conversation. Where are the limits? When does it become unhealthy? So many questions that help you understand the relationship you may have with a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child. Oh, and bright, high-performing folks. Are they more likely to have narcissistic tendencies? Get answers today, here, now. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Differences between healthy selfishness and unhealthy narcissismWhy high-achieving folks often walk a fine line between self-centeredness and narcissismHow to find a balance between being healthily driven and engaged and unhealthy, looking for powerYour rights to set boundaries especially against aggressionWhat about passive-aggressive tendencies?Will toxic people respect your boundaries?The three biggest red flags that someone is toxicGUEST: DR. LAURA DABNEYLaura Dabney, MD has made a career of taking on psychiatry’s toughest challenges from treating complex, combined medical and psychological conditions, to ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. Dr. Dabney has, for decades, helped her patients change their lives for the better. And they recognize her for it. Dr. Dabney’s patients come for many reasons: depression and anxiety, recent break-ups or a lifetime of toxic relationships. Yet, despite the problems that brought them through her door, they describe her in the same terms again and again, calling her warm, knowledgeable, and committed to their success.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH DR. DABNEY: WEBSITE: https://www.weconcile.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/LauraDabneycom/YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgTW_U6Zl8X41n1mOXYM3UQINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lauradabneycom/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/dr–laura-dabney-mdTWITTER: https://twitter.com/drldabney——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#healthyselfishness #drlauradabney #psychiatrist #selfcenteredornarcissistic #selfcentered #healthynarcissism #ismypartnerselfcentered #ismypartnernarcissistic #manipulatedbyanarcissist #drivenbyselfcenteredness #highachievers #highachieversnarcissism #passiveaggressive #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It’s common for folks to desperately find their way to get away from a toxic relationship. Then, the doubts start, as well as the pleading and promises from a toxic spouse. You’ll need these helpful insights into how to plan to leave so that you won’t give in to the temptation to return. And, if you have left, what to do when you want to go running back to the abuse. Yes, you’re leaving a toxic person, a #Hijackal, because they are emotionally abusive. You may not want to think of it as abuse, but that’s what it is. Oxford dictionary:abuse: use to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse. pervert, take advantage oftreat a person with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly Emotional abuse is difficult to see when it’s happening to you, but you sure know how it feels, right? That’s what you’ve walking–or running–away from. Remember that when you’re tempted to return. In this episode, I give you eight things you might be telling yourself to convince yourself to go back once you’ve left, and seven things you can do to remind yourself why you will not go back. I hope they help you. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Boomeranging happens often: leaving an abusive relationship and then going backHow to stop the cycle of leaving and returning to a #narcissist, a #Hijackal, an #abuserWhy you second-guess your decision to leave once the stress of leaving is relievedHow to keep moving forward once you’ve left a toxic relationship8 reasons you give yourself for going back to a toxic relationship7 things to do to set yourself straight and not go back Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#leavinganabusiverelationship #leavinganabuser #dontgoback #leaveanddontgoback #boomeranging #goingbacktoanabusiverelationship #goingbacktoanabuser #hownottogobacktoanabusiverelationship #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ?Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wondering why your relationship always seems a bit off? Why you cannot get the emotional intimacy you crave? The Attachment Style you adopted as a result of your early life experiences plays a big part in how you create and relate with others. Knowing your Attachment Style provides you with invaluable insights into how you create relationships, what you expect from them, and where your fears about them lie. GOOD NEWS! Just because you may have had poor models of healthy relationships in your young life doesn’t mean you cannot emerge from that experience to create healthy, emotionally mature bonds now. It starts with recognizing your attachment style and how that colors your view of relationship. Then, you can work through to heal. When you’re uninformed about Attachment Styles, you can feel a little powerless. Gaining this knowledge and choosing to move in healthier, more secure, and less fearful ways of being in relationship is empowering. Enjoy! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What Attachment Theory is and how it informs relationshipsHow Attachment Theory affects your ability to understand your partner’s feelings and triggersWhy your Attachment Style can prevent you from establishing the closeness you long forWhat steps you can take to move towards creating a healthier, more secure Attachment StyleJennifer Lehr’s journey from what she calls “dismal relationship ability” to being in a happy, healthy relationshipGain insights and hope for creating deeper, healthier bonds GUEST: JENNIFER LEHRJennifer Lehr is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the founder of WeConcile, an online program for committed couples seeking help, as well as an educator on the process of living, self-acceptance and stepping into your magic life. In 2009, she began writing WeConcile a revolutionary do-it-yourself online educational application that helps couples improve trust, intimacy, safety and connection through established relationship science. She created WeConcile to help couples get free from pain and disconnection, and to again find happiness in marriage. Now, Jennifer Lehr is on a mission to create a world filled with connection instead of conflict. She specializes in educating couples on the relationship skills they need to build a solid, connected and loving partnership. As a marriage and family therapist for nearly 20 years, she uses her knowledge and advanced training in many couples’ modalities to help others succeed in their marriage.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH JENNIFER:WEBSITE: https://www.weconcile.com PODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/WeConcile/YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsd-X1BvZv4l4jKkWQmsZ7QINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/weconcile/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/weconcile/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/we_info/——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#attachementtheory #attachmentstyles #healingattachment #healingafteratoxicrerlationship #healingafteranarcissist #learningtorelate #intimacyinrelationship #improvingrelationship #knowyourattachmentstyle#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Try these strategies and tactics to change the dynamics in your relationship with a #Hijackal when they try to avoid responsibility or accountability, even–and especially–when they feel threatened by a potential flaw of theirs being mentioned. You know that everything will be your fault if you’re with a narcissist, a Hijackal. The nasty skill of blame-shifting is a sneaky specialty. they hone carefully and practice faithfully. Infuriating. Frustrating. Unfair. So, how do you respond? It’s trickier than you might think, because it is counter-intuitive. You have to engage with the tactics and strategies in this episode for awhile to change your responses to their blame-shifting. You’ll increase your self-confidence when you do. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What blame-shifting is, how it sounds and feels coming at youWhy #Hijackals use blame-shifting to hopefully overpower you and gain the “win”How you can respond so that the #Hijackal does not get the reaction wantedUnderstand how Hijackals want to exploit your fears and probe your weaknessesWhat NOT to do in the face of blame-shiftingWhat TO do that will help you stop second-guessing yourself and save your sanity Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#blameshifting #whyamItoblame #frustratedbyanarcissist #blamesmeforeverything #noreaction #staycalmandobserve #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ?Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

An inspiring story of recovery and success after abuse in a toxic relationship! You’ll be motivated by what my guest, Christie Lawler, shares. What she walked through, and went on to create is uplifting and positive. Just what you need to hear today? Probably! Christie Lawler is a successful consultant in what she calls the “eatertainment space.” Very clever! She has thrived, but she walked through a lot of pain, second-guessing, and wondering. Being in a toxic relationship is confusing, and it has an aftermath, for sure! Christie shares how she recovered, and why it took a long time. (That’s common, and usually necessary when it’s done well.) Learn from her story because, as you will hear, she didn’t focus on healing as her first step. Many folks don’t. But, not dealing with abuse in toxic relationships is unwise. You need to get help to heal, and Christie did. Be inspired by her candid story, and what she has gone on to achieve. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Christie shares her story of recovery and success after a toxic relationshipSexual assault in the workplaceGetting clear that being abused is not your faultWhy it takes a long time to recover, so be gentle with yourselfHow working with an experienced therapist is an important part of recoveryHow Christie thrives in her consulting work in what she calls the “eatertainment space” GUEST: CHRISTIE LAWLER Christie is the founder and owner of her own marketing agency, CJL CONSULTiNG as well as the founder of her company’s non-profit arm, The WITI Group. She is the host of the Lawler Out Loud: Mixing up the Mainstream podcast, The WITI Conference, creator of WITI on the Web educational webinar series and is publishing her first book.Christie founded CJL CONSULTiNG in 2009 while completing her MBA as a way to stay engaged in her career while completing her studies. As Founder & Owner of CJL CONSULTiNG, Christie supports clients by creating beverage marketing and training programs for the likes of Alamo Drafthouse, American Social, Arcis Golf, Drive Shack and Flagship Restaurant Group. Christie is also the host of Lawler Out Loud: Mixing up the Mainstream – a weekly podcast featuring trendsetters and newsmakers around the hospitality industry.GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH CHRISTIE:WEBSITE: https://www.cjlconsults.com PODCAST: Lawler Out Loud: Mixing up the Mainstream  https://open.spotify.com/show/3jJW0KeVrsT0whrozeOilLFACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/cjlconsultingYOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/cjl_consulting_llc/LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christie-j-lawler/TWITTER: ——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#healingafteratoxicrerlationship #healingafteranarcissist #takesawhiletoheal #itsnotyourfault #narcissisticblaming #believingitsnotmyfault #hijackalblame #femaleentrepreneur #livingwithpurpose #lovewhatyoudo #makeanimpact #empowerothers #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Yes, it’s important to recognize the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors of the relentlessly difficult people I call #Hijackals®. In this episode, another important feature: what kinds of things you FEEL when you’re with a Hijackal. That’s so important to take note of because almost all those feelings are not good ones, right? Toxicity is poisonous! In fact, that is part of the very definition of the word, toxicity. If you’re busy rationalizing, justifying, or making excuses for the bad behavior of another person, you may not notice the huge toll it is taking on your own life. Not good! Take these in and compare them to how you’re feeling. Eye-opening! Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why you can being emotionally poisoned without noticingHow the toxicity spreads into unknown corners of your lifeThe subtle effects of life with a #HijackalHow #Hijackals change you to focus on them without realizing their effect on youHijackals are crafty: they are clever at achieving their aims by indirect and deceitful methodsWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#toxicrelationshipspoisonyou #narcissistsareharmful #poisonousnarcissists #narcissistsaredeceitful #hownarcissistshurtyou #thinkaboutyourself #craftynarcissists #craftyhijackals #howhijackalsmakeyoufeel #howifeelaroundanarcissist#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you realized your divorce was going to be difficult, I’ll bet you worried about your ex talking badly about you to the children, trying to win them over. Did you? Did you worry about the children being lied to about you?Did you ex tell the children s/he was the better parent, the one who gave them more, etc.? This leads to Parental Alienation. Here’s part of the definition of Parental Alienation Syndrome from the American Psychological Association: ” …a child’s experience of being manipulated by one parent to turn against the other (targeted) parent and resist contact with him or her. The alignment with one parent and rejection of the other most often arises during child custody disputes following divorce or separation proceedings, particularly when the litigation is prolonged or involves significant antagonism between the parties.”It’s a significant concern when you are separating or divorcing from a #Hijackal, a relentlessly difficult, toxic person. Joe Goldberg offers invaluable insights into parental alienation that you need to see clearly. Listen in. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Joe expands on the definition of Parental AlienationWhy some people say Parental Alienation doesn’t existWho is most likely to engage in parental alienationWhat you can do to thwart attempts at parental alienationWhat legal recourse you have for parental alienationHow to minimize stress for the childHow to counteract effects of existing parental alienation GUEST: JOSEPH GOLDBERG Joseph Goldberg founded ParentalAlienationEducation.com as an educational site for sharing information about parent-child relational problems that arise in divorce situations.A recognized expert in parental alienation, Mr. Goldberg was the first educator in the United States to co-author and revise divorce education programs to include curriculum content in parent-child relational problems, specifically in parental alienation, realistic estrangement, and enmeshment. These divorce education programs are accredited by the courts in more than 500 counties across the U.S. Parents may access these programs online and receive a Certificate of Attendance at www.OnlineParentingPrograms.comMr. Goldberg is a member of the prestigious Parental Alienation Study Group, which is led by Dr. William Bernet, and he is the author of a continuing educational course, “Diagnostic Criteria for Clinical Practitioners in the Treatment of Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome,” approved by the American Psychological Association for 18 CECs. GIFT FOR YOU:  Not at this time. CONNECT WITH JOSEPH: WEBSITE: https://www.parentalalienation.caPODCAST:  FACEBOOK: YOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: TWITTER: ——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#parentalalienation #preventparentalalienation #stopparentalalienation #partnerbadmouthingyou #partnerliestochildren #spouseliestochildren #manipulationbyoneparent #unfairparenting #unfaircoparenting #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You are barely out of a toxic relationship, and are hoping to grab a breath and clear your head. That’s the moment co-parenting calamities start, right? Then, you’re free of the Hijackal, but not free of their self-serving shenanigans. OK, you need strategies to save your sanity. Listen in and grab them! Cardinal rule: Don’t Poke A Hijackal®! That will always apply, and especially when you are co-parenting. There is nothing good that comes from poking Hijackals. It all comes back on you, doubled…or more. You know that. So, please stick to that rule ALWAYS! You gain some peace, and give up some control when you leave a Hijackal with your children. Some things you can do something about. Some, you need to let go of. In this episode, we hit the highlights below! Enjoy. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why you need a specific, exact, detailed child custody agreementWhat, why, and how to document things once you live apartWhat to do when your ex wants to “exchange” custody weekends (Might surprise you!)How to encourage your children to feel safer with youHow to help children feel empowered when they have little control Why it is essential for you to monitor healthy, emotionally mature responses Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#coparentingwithanarcissist #coparentingwithatoxicex #helpingthechildrenwhencoparenting #childcustodyagreements #neverpokeahijackal ##savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.