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Do you know if you are actually a highly-sensitive person? That’s MUCH more than easily having your feelings hurt. You will be VERY attractive to a person who wants to control you, and that’s a devastating combination. My guest, Debbie Lynn Grace, is an expert who can help you understand the many ways highly-sensitive people are affected by their environment, life, and relationships. We take it further to give you the life-saving insights you need to recognize why you are attractive to #Hijackals, and why you attract them. Best of all, we talk about WHAT TO DO! Any chance you would qualify as an “over-giver?” That’s a big one and we’ll give you the why’s and how’s to shift to a more balanced view, an empowered stance, and the willingness to take action to save your sanity! This episode can be the catalyst for changing your life if you are highly-sensitive! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:How to know if you are a highly-sensitive personThe energetic difference between highly-sensitive person and one who is notHow the approach to life is different for a highly-sensitive person3 traits a highly-sensitive person has that makes them susceptible to attracting an emotional abuserWhat it takes for a highly-sensitive person to stand in their powerWhat a highly-sensitive person can do to make sure they attract a healthy love relationship Tips for handling a toxic relationship GUEST: DEBBIE LYNN GRACEDebbie Lynn Grace is a transformational leader, 35 year marketing and business growth expert, author and an international speaker. She is also a gifted energy worker, empath and intuitive. Debbie’s clients include global leaders, influential and high achieving professionals, purpose driven entrepreneurs and people who are ready to step into their own authentic power to take their life to the next level. She shows you how to live in the highest vibration of your authentic power so your work and life are purpose filled and aligned on your soul journey with ease and flow. “The time you take trying to cover yourself up because you feel ashamed, judged, or unsafe takes away precious moments of your life where you could be discovering more about the brilliance of who you really are and the power you possess.” Debbie Lynn Grace——————————-Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#choosinganattorney #jasonlevoy #divorceadvice #findinganattorney #interviewinganattorney #questionstoaskanattorney#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Emotional abuse is sneaky. At first, it sometimes seems like a request that’s a bit off, but you feel a compromise is in order. After awhile, everything is a bit off, and you’re beginning to lose yourself, your confidence….and, your mind. These 7 Ways I’m talking about today will quickly deplete you, and why you need to recognize them for the lethal robbers they are. Trauma-bonding is an important concept to understand. In the first few minutes of this episode, I define and underline the various ways that #traumabonding shows it’s difficult stripes. Understanding this will help you recognize what draws you back to staying with someone who you know is abusive and emotionally draining. See below for other highlights of this insightful, necessary-to-understand episode. Stay safe, healthy…and, playing on your own team! Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What emotional abuse does to shatter your self-esteemHow your self-confidence is weakenedDealing with chronic stress and anxietyWhat depression can be a sign of in an abusive relationshipThe effects of not feeling safeDealing with chronic hypervigilance Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#traumabonding #emotionalabusers #recognizingemotionalabuse #ifeelemotionallyabused #amibeingemotionallyabused #saynotoabuse#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Divorcing a Hijackal? A Narcissist? A relentlessly difficult person? You may be wondering how to find an attorney that you can afford and who will be able to withstand the nastiness of all there will be to deal with. In this episode, Jason Levoy, The Divorce Resource Guy, a former divorce attorney, shares invaluable tips for:Where to start?How to interview an attorneyWhat you need to be ready forHow to proceed if you don’t have much moneyAdvice for representing yourself Creating effective documentationIf you’re thinking of divorce, listen in….for sure! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Inside insights from a former divorce attorney on choosing an attorneyIs it wise to represent yourself? Why? Why not?Starting the process of finding an attorneyWhat kind of documentation to prepareDoes cheating matter when you’re trying to get a divorce?Questions to ask a prospective divorce attorney GUEST: JASON LEVOY Jason became a divorce attorney specifically to help families going through these difficult times.After practicing family law in New Jersey for a number of years, he noticed how many of you, with and without attorneys, are overwhelmed and are looking for help.Jason coaches people who have attorneys and those who are representing themselves. A divorce coach is an important part of your divorce team. You do have a team, right???If you don’t, Jason can help. Forming the right team is the first step to putting yourself in position to succeed and be empowered. You can waste hours and hours searching for answers online. Is that how you want to spend your free time? Can you trust everything you read online? NO!Contact Jason today and get the help you deserve, for a fraction of the cost of an attorney. GIFT FOR YOU: Tips for Co-Parenting (downloadable): http://jasonlevoy.com/dr.shalerCONNECT WITH HEATHERWEBSITE:  https://jasonlevoy.com PODCAST:  www.jasonlevoy.com/podcastFACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/yourdivorceresource/YOUTUBE:  INSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jasonlevoy/TWITTER: https://twitter.com/jasonlevoy——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#choosinganattorney #jasonlevoy #divorceadvice #findinganattorney #interviewinganattorney #questionstoaskanattorney#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When a #Hijackal love-bombs you, it’s what you’ve waited for, hoped for, and finally think is proving that their love is real. It’s a sham. It comes from their fear of being without readily available supply to provide validation, adoration, and someone to control Awful, but true! You don’t want to play this game any longer, right? You need insights and strategies to remember why you are no longer going to “buy” the love-bombing, even though you may really, really want to. You know it only leads to disappointment, so today I’m giving you six ways and a couple of suggestions for becoming immune to love-bombing, to listen and remember that love-bombing is all manipulation.I hope this helps you resist the urge to merge the next time a #Hijackal wants to woo you back with the weapon of love-bombing. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:How love-bombing is manipulation of the heart and mindThe short-lived nature of promises made to change #Narcissistic reasons for love-bombingWhy you may be tempted to believe the love-bombingHow to be immune to love-bombingWhy love-bombing is psychological partner abuse Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#lovebombing #emotionalintoxication #psychologicalpartnerabuse #lovebombingismanipulation #falsehopeofchange #immunetolovebombing #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Many times, people fail to realize the impact of their emotional health on their physical health. They are more likely to recognize the impact of physical health on emotional health. That’s often because we don’t give full attention and value to our “invisible wounds.” Emotional toxicity–living with abuse, childhood trauma, chronic stress and anxiety–directly affects your physical health. Yes, it may do so slowly and it creeps up on you, but it’s happening all the same. Dr. Heather Herington says, “C-PTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder) is adult AIDS.” Intriguing idea! We talk about this in some depth in this episode regarding inflammation, the brain, stress, and the workings of the body. Dr. Heather and I share stories of toxic relationships and how they shaped our lives. See how that matches with what you’ve experienced. It could be similar…and we share the stories of our healing, too. This could be a VERY important episode that could start you on an insightful healing path. I hope so. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:The impact of trauma emotionally and physicallyThe value of combining healing modalitiesHow emotional toxicity stays in the body until purposefully removedHow mental health, emotional health, and physical health intersectWhy we are sometimes unaware of, or reluctant to, attend to our invisible woundsHow your childhood informs a toxic relationshipCaring for invisible woundsGUEST: DR. HEATHER HERINGTONDr Heather Herington has been a naturopathic physician since 1987. Early in her practice the Archdiocese requested treatment for a woman sexually abused by a priest who wanted drugless therapy. She held retreats on an island and developed her two-pronged approach – balance the biochemistry naturally and tell (or revise) the story through the expressive arts. An engaging speaker and astute workshop leader, she also writes essays, novels, librettos, and creates radio plays based on challenging health conditions that demand a true body-mind investigation. Her radio play, Dr Graves, We Healed Your Disease came from her own experience.Dr. Herington is the author of the new book, Surviving A Viral Pandemic: Through The Lens Of A Naturopathic Medical Doctor. Available at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Viral-Pandemic-Through-Naturopathic/dp/1735630802/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=herington+surviving+a+viral+pandemic&qid=1601611420&sr=8-1 GIFT FOR YOU: A technique using the five senses to track feelings to better understand their source. https://drheatherherington.com CONNECT WITH HEATHERWEBSITE:  https:/drheatherherington.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/drheatherheringtonYOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/heatherheringtonINSTAGRAM: LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin/drheatherheringtonTWITTER:  https://www.twitter/drheather2——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#emotionaltoxicity #emotionalphysicalhealth #toxicemotions #effectsoftoxicemotions #effectsofchildhoodtrauma #healingphysicalhealth #drheatherherington #survivingaviralpandemic #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Because you are good, kind, compassionate, or pleasing person, you may not realize the ways in which you are enabling a narcissist to continue behaving badly. You know that you cannot stop their behavior, but you can take positive steps to stop enabling their behavior, and take your own power back. Listen in for the how-tos! In any ways are you too often rationalizing, justifying, or making excuses for the controlling and manipulative behaviors of a #Hijackal, a #narcissist? Recognizing that is an excellent starting point! According to the Oxford dictionary, an enabler is a “person who makes something possible, who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behavior in another.” In all honesty, do you do that? Is it just easier than fighting with them, or being perceived as finding fault. I understand that, for sure. Are you ready to take the first steps to stop enabling a relentlessly difficult person who simply wants to win, and tread on you? I hope so. You’ll find encouragement in this episode. Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What it is to be an enablerWhy you might be an enablerThe problems with rationalizing, justifying, and making excuses for poor behaviorWhy enabling hurts everyoneWays in which you might be enabling that you may not think of in that way9 steps to stopping, to withdrawing from enabling Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#enabling #beinganenabler #stopenablingbadbehavior #enablinganarcissist #enablingaHijackal #setboundaries #selfreflection ##savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you own your own power? If you’ve been worn down, torn down, or put down in a toxic relationship, that might not be how you feel right now. Make it a goal, and listen in to today to hear new insights on shifting away from limiting beliefs and untrue thoughts about yourself. My guest, Diane Forster says, “Sometimes you need to take a step back so you can shift forward.” In this episode, we explore the shifts possible to move from negativity to a more positive state of mind, from toxicity to healthier ways of being. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What Diane Forster means by “intentional living”Why Intentional Living is even more important in our world now than everWhat it means to “own your power”Dealing with uncertaintyBreaking goals into small steps and intentions Shifting negative emotions to more positive states of mindGUEST: DIANE FORSTERDIANE FORSTER is an Award-Winning Inventor, Best Selling Author, TEDx Speaker, TV Host, Podcaster, Intentional Living Expert and Re-Invention Specialist. She works with clients privately and helps you clear away mindset blocks and limiting beliefs that can block you from reaching your full potential in business, life and relationships.Diane is the CEO and Founder of I HAVE TODAY. She is the best-selling author of “I HAVE TODAY: Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile…Finally!” and “Reach Your Greatness…Top Thought-Leaders Share Their Secrets for Living an Extraordinary Life!” Her TV Show along her Podcast, “I HAVE TODAY with Diane Forster” and all her other products/programs help people live enriched, empowered, inspiring lives through their transitions, to reinvent themselves.Diane’s career began in advertising and TV sales, including DISNEY/ABC. She is also the inventor of The SPIFTER, a fun kitchen tool that won an INNOVATION AWARD at the International Housewares Show in Chicago. Diane has been featured on ABC, QVC, The Chicago Tribune, San Diego Voyager, Business News Daily and many other TV, Radio and Podcast shows. She has written articles for Inventor’s Digest Magazine and writes an inspiring weekly blog.Diane is a mother of twins and lives in San Diego. Her mission is to see that 1 BILLION people who don’t know their self-worth discover their true divinity, power and purpose.GIFT FOR YOU: Money Mantra Meditation: https://www.dianeforster.com/moneymantra CONNECT WITH DIANE FORSTERWEBSITE:  https:/dianeforster.comPODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-have-today-with-diane-forster/id1440222759FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ihavetodaywithdianeforsterYOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/c/IHaveTodaywithDianeForster?sub_confirmation=1INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dianeforsterofficialLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dianeforsterofficialTWITTER:  https://www.twitter.com/dforsterofficial——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#ihavetoday #dianeforster #dianeforsterofficial #mindsetcoach #lifecoachforwomen #womenmotivationalspeak #clearinglimitingbeliefs #limitingbeliefs #motivatingmindset #intentionalthinking #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Never underestimate the effect of having a narcissistic parent or partner! Resist the urge to downplay the verbal and emotional abuse. You’re not supposed to be abused…by anyone!!! Today, I’m sharing some ways to recognize your own trauma, so you can take steps away from it…whether you leave or not. Shahida Arabi, talking about childhood abuse and trauma, wrote in her article, What It’s Like To Be A Complex Trauma Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse: “Survivors carry a sense of toxic shame, helplessness, and a feeling of separateness from others, of being different and defective due to trauma.” If you have experienced childhood abuse and/or trauma, you are more likely to attract a potentially abusive partner. Sad news, I know. And, at some deeper levels, you may be “comfortably uncomfortable” with it, at least for a while. It’s important to recognize your own trauma, and then to work it through so that you are no longer operating from it subconsciously. Today’s episode will definitely help.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:How trauma interferes with your brain, learning, decision-making, and memoryWhy you don’t associate current issues with past trauma What trauma bonds are and how they keep you trappedSigns of past traumaRecognizing trauma for what it isUnderstanding the impact of trauma now and from the past Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#narcissistictrauma #emotionaltrauma #relationshiptrauma #raisedbyanarcissist #tramatizedbymymother #familytrauma #savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people, have both a need and a want to make you always feel not good enough. Understand why and learn to respond in empowering ways, and that’s a very good start! Nothing you do, say, or are will ever be good enough…unless they want something from you. Then, they love-bomb you, and the person you fell in love with returns–for a hot minute! You know I’ve said many times in these episodes that the person you fell in love with was the Love-bomber. The person you are having problems with is the real person. Sad, but true! So, don’t be listening another minute to a #Hijackal telling you that you don’t measure up. Don’t let a Hijackal put your down, wear you down, or tear you down for another second. Today, I’m laying out why they behave as they do so that you can clearly recognize it. Then, SEVEN things you can quietly do to start pulling yourself up, no matter how hard the Hijackal wants to push you down! Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why #Hijackals have unrealistic expectationHow & Why narcissists and others will never allow you to feel good enoughThe abject entitlement of toxic people with traits like narcissists, sociopaths, and other HijackalsWhy not and how not to lose yourself in a narcissist’s expectationsThe pairs of opposites you’ll face when you’re with a HijackalSEVEN ways you can pull yourself up again when a toxic person has pushed you downHow to take back your power Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Saturday Support Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Relationship Help Circles. 50% off your first month. . Safely off social media.———————————————————————-#nevergoodenough #putyourselfdown #narcissistputsyoudown #pickyourselfup #healingafteranarcissist #healingafterahijackal #whenpeopleputmedown #whyifeelputdown #whatcanidotopickmyselfup #narcissistputdowns#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest ? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you’ve been hurt, it’s natural to want to get the hurt out by telling your story. There’s a point, though, when that needs to be replaced by your new life story. Tonya Carter has walked through the hurt, reconstructed her story, and helps others see the value and walk through it, too. Powerful step! Author of Divorce Your Story, Tonya Carter wrote: “Once we understand that the only person we have full control over is ourselves, then life becomes simple.” Listening to this conversation with Tonya can help you see the path to recovering from the pain of the story into another empowering stage and story. Letting go of your story opens you to new views, perspectives, and possibilities that you may not have considered. Get those insights now. Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Hear Tonya Carter’s story of leaving a toxic relationshipWhat she means by “divorce your story”Is shame and guilt always present in divorces?Why its important to stop wanting to fix your partner How to leave struggle behindWhy it’s important to reconsider your life and see endless possibilities GUEST: TONYA CARTERTonya Carter is a relationship coach that specializes in helping women navigate through the process of uncoupling by providing support, advice, resources and tools that will help mitigate interruptions in their business, work performance and household obligations. She has a book titled “Divorce Your Story: A Woman’s Guide to Heal & Thrive after Divorce”, a podcast “The ReInvent U Podcast” and facilitates a “12 week T.H.R.I.V.E Course” that walks women through the process of overcoming divorce and healing.She’s resides in Atlanta with her two children. GIFT FOR YOU: 7 Core Affirmations Guide https://mailchi.mp/decc3e18aae7/affirmationguideCONNECT WITH TONYA CARTER: WEBSITE:  https://tonyacarter.comPODCAST: https://anchor.fm/tonyacarterFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mstonyaspeaksYOUTUBE:  https://bit.lyu/2t7ZtBj INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mstonyaspeaksLINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mstonyacarterTWITTER: ——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles  ———————————————————————-#relivingyourstory #givingupyourstory #stopretellingyourstory #divorcecoach #divorcecourt #divorcedmom #lifeafterdivorce #divorcerecovery #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.