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Enabled Intelligence /w Lauren Bacon Smith

Enabled Intelligence

In this episode, I talk with Lauren Bacon Smith who is the Chief People Officer of Enabled Intelligence.

Enabled Intelligence is a new start-up company in DC that has a integrated work force and a different way interview their prospectus employees. 

They have the standard application, but they look beyond the resume or your background. What they are more interested in, is you knowledge and background with computers.  They don’t interview they employees like normal companies do, they don’t ask the traditional questions, they don’t ask questions at all.

What they do is they get to you, and find out what you are capable of. Also you are sent a aptitude test to see what you can and can not do.

They make their employees feel welcome and have things for those who are autistic feel more comfortable like, sensory inclusive rooms and have parties for them and much more.

If you are someone who is Autistic and living in the DC area this is one company to check out.

Enabled Intelligence

 

Enabled Intelligence /w Lauren Bacon Smith

In this episode, I talk with Lauren Bacon Smith who is the Chief People Officer of Enabled Intelligence.

Enabled Intelligence is a new start-up company in DC that has a integrated work force and a different way interview their prospectus employees. 

They have the standard application, but they look beyond the resume or your background. What they are more interested in, is you knowledge and background with computers.  They don’t interview they employees like normal companies do, they don’t ask the traditional questions, they don’t ask questions at all.

What they do is they get to you, and find out what you are capable of. Also you are sent a aptitude test to see what you can and can not do.

They make their employees feel welcome and have things for those who are autistic feel more comfortable like, sensory inclusive rooms and have parties for them and much more.

If you are someone who is Autistic and living in the DC area this is one company to check out.

Enabled Intelligence

 

Ep 422 – Michelle Tillis Lederman

Michelle Tillis Lederman .m4a In this episode I speak with Michelle Tillis Lederman, CEO of Executive Essentials and author of, “The Connectors Advantage,” whose wakeup call was coming from a poor home and being fiercely committed to being financially independent and then realizing when she was that life was about relationships and connections. https://executiveessentials.org/about-us/

Headspace for the Workplace – A Podcast on How to Cultivate a Vibrant and Psychologically Safe and Healthy Workforce with your host Dr. Sall

About Mike Cotayo
Mike knows how to handle difficult people because he was one! Surviving a traumatic brain injury, he overcame his own addiction to drugs. He then went on to devote over 20 years of his professional life as a clinical social worker servicing the needs of the mentally ill and chemically addicted. As an expert in treating patients with borderline personalities, he has delivered keynotes internationally, including speaking at the European Association of Gestalt Therapy in Sicily. Besides his career as a clinical social worker, Mike has also achieved acclaim as a stand up comedian where he discovered the power of humor to heal. He has headlined at The Laugh Factory in New York City, as well as Binghamton University, Columbia University and Kansas State University. For more information on this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/112

Resilience Humor – Using Laughter to Heal from Pain: Interview with Mike Cotayo | Episode 112

About Mike Cotayo
Mike knows how to handle difficult people because he was one! Surviving a traumatic brain injury, he overcame his own addiction to drugs. He then went on to devote over 20 years of his professional life as a clinical social worker servicing the needs of the mentally ill and chemically addicted. As an expert in treating patients with borderline personalities, he has delivered keynotes internationally, including speaking at the European Association of Gestalt Therapy in Sicily. Besides his career as a clinical social worker, Mike has also achieved acclaim as a stand up comedian where he discovered the power of humor to heal. He has headlined at The Laugh Factory in New York City, as well as Binghamton University, Columbia University and Kansas State University. For more information on this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/112

Jay McDonald and Best of The Frankie Boyer Show w. Sayantani DasGupta and Cathay Reta

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Jay McDonald MBA, Executive Leadership Coach and Author of Strategic Jaywalking: The Secret Sauce To Life & Leadership Excellence. Jay is a veteran executive and business leader, with 40 years of experience as a CEO, Entrepreneur and Corporate Advisor. He is a graduate of Stanford University’s Executive Leadership Program and has been an executive leadership expert source and contributor for NBC News, Forbes and Fast Company. https://jaymcdonald.com/

Dr. Sayantani Dasgupta is the New York Times bestselling author of the critically acclaimed, Bengali folktale and string theory-inspired Kiranmala and the Kingdom Beyond books, the first of which, The Serpent’s Secret, was a Booklist Best Middle Grade Novel of the 21st Century and an E. B. White Read Aloud Honor Book. Sayantani is a pediatrician by training, but now teaches at Columbia University. http://sayantanidasgupta.com/

Cathay Reta shares her passion of writing life’s experiences and observations into relatable lessons for her readers such as in her book Keep Walking, Your Heart Will Catch Up, the story of the pilgrimage she made on the 483-mile Camino de Santiago in Spain, alone, at age 64, after her husband passed away. Cathay has a B.A. in music, almost 40 years of a career in adult literacy, and a lifetime of co-ministry with her late husband. https://www.cathayreta.com/

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Jay McDonald and Best of The Frankie Boyer Show w. Sayantani DasGupta and Cathay Reta

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Jay McDonald MBA, Executive Leadership Coach and Author of Strategic Jaywalking: The Secret Sauce To Life & Leadership Excellence. Jay is a veteran executive and business leader, with 40 years of experience as a CEO, Entrepreneur and Corporate Advisor. He is a graduate of Stanford University’s Executive Leadership Program and has been an executive leadership expert source and contributor for NBC News, Forbes and Fast Company. https://jaymcdonald.com/

Dr. Sayantani Dasgupta is the New York Times bestselling author of the critically acclaimed, Bengali folktale and string theory-inspired Kiranmala and the Kingdom Beyond books, the first of which, The Serpent’s Secret, was a Booklist Best Middle Grade Novel of the 21st Century and an E. B. White Read Aloud Honor Book. Sayantani is a pediatrician by training, but now teaches at Columbia University. http://sayantanidasgupta.com/

Cathay Reta shares her passion of writing life’s experiences and observations into relatable lessons for her readers such as in her book Keep Walking, Your Heart Will Catch Up, the story of the pilgrimage she made on the 483-mile Camino de Santiago in Spain, alone, at age 64, after her husband passed away. Cathay has a B.A. in music, almost 40 years of a career in adult literacy, and a lifetime of co-ministry with her late husband. https://www.cathayreta.com/

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How To Insulate Yourself From The Orwellian Era with Doug Casey

“Civilizations die from suicide, not by murder.” Arnold Toynbee, Study of History “The tyranny of majorities may be as bad as the tyranny of kings.” Economist Arthur Balfour How To Insulate Yourself From The Orwellian Era with Doug Casey The nature of the US has been transformed. Many Americans have come to see the government as a cornucopia that can kiss everything and make it better. Millions in the US also believe that their beliefs should be forcefully pushed upon the masses. What kind of society will come from this change in beliefs? How can you attain maximum freedom in a world where so many willingly plead for their own enslavement? Best-selling author, world-renowned speculator, and brilliant libertarian philosopher Doug Casey returns to the Outer Limits of Inner Truth for the fifth time. Casey offers his latest worldview perspectives and shares a lot of great ideas on how to insulate yourself from the Orwellian Era. Doug Casey has garnered a well-earned reputation for his erudite (and often controversial) insights into politics, economics, and investment markets. Doug is widely respected as one of the preeminent authorities on “rational speculation,” especially in the high-potential natural resource sector. Doug wrote the book on profiting from periods of economic turmoil: his book Crisis Investing spent weeks as #1 on the New York Times bestseller list and became the best-selling financial book of 1980 with 438,640 copies sold; surpassing big-caliber names, like Free to Choose by Milton Friedman, The Real War by Richard Nixon, and Cosmos by Carl Sagan. He has been a featured guest on hundreds of radio and TV shows, including David Letterman, Merv Griffin, Charlie Rose, Phil Donahue, Regis Philbin, Maury Povich, NBC News, and CNN; has been the topic of numerous features in periodicals such as Time, Forbes, People, and the Washington Post; and is a regular keynote speaker at FreedomFest, the world’s largest gathering of free minds. Doug has lived in 10 countries and visited over 175. He currently spends most of his time in Argentina and Uruguay, and traveling to various dysfunctional hellholes. Today you’re most likely to find him at La Estancia de Cafayate, an oasis tucked away in the high red mountains outside Salta, Argentina. Cafayate most resembles the isolating beauty of Bryce Canyon, Utah combined with the lush vineyards of Napa Valley. Residents enjoy economic and social freedoms not found in the US and some of the best wine and golf on the planet. Website Link: 

Covert Narcissistic Spouses Max Out Your Stress Levels

Covert narcississts are a rare breed whom most poeple believe are fine human beings. While they are showing their enhanced false personas, everyone is buying their story and heaping on praise, You are married to this impossible person. Very few outside of the family will ever find out how psychologically toxic the covert narcissist is. 

Spouses are victims of narcissistic abuse—veiled threats to ruin your reputation, constant put downs and stunning humiliations, being told that you are at fault (when it is the narcissist who has made egregious mistakes), bout after bout of Vesuvian narcissistic rage. Some spouses feel that they deserve this horrendous treatment because they think little of themselves. They have been emotionally and psychologically pummeled all of their days and don’t kow the difference.

Some know that the marriage is a trvesty, that they are suffering from serious symptoms of stress–They are maxed out with chronic headaches, free floating anxiety, hyper-vigilance, chronic insomnia, intestinal discomforts and obsessive self doublt and lack of confidence. 

Those who recognize that they can no longer tolerate the emotional, psychological and physiological pain and stress chronically projected upon them, make the decision to sever the relationship through divorce or separation. 

As you awaken start with self care each day: getting the sleep and rest you need and deserve, nourishing food,  pure water, sleep and rest that you need and deserve. 

Spend time with Nature for healing and restoration, expressive writing that expands your consciousness and restores your psycholgical grounding. 

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A Mother’s Purpose

This is a LIVE replay of A Trauma Survivor Thriver’s Podcast which aired Wednesday, November 16th, 2022 at 1130am ET on Fireside Chat.

Today’s guest is Michelle Wagner.  A children’s book author and advocate for families with special needs children. The main character in her book series, Mickey, is Michelle’s real life 14-year-old son who was born with hearing loss in both ears and wears Cochlear Implants to aid him in his hearing journey.

Michelle has dedicated her life to making sure Mickey has the best medical care and resources. She assists families as they work together through the different approaches to raising a special needs child. 

 

Transcripts:

Lorilee Binstock  00:01:57 

Welcome. I’m Lorilee Binstock, and this is A Trauma Survivor Thriver’s Podcast.

Thank you so much for joining me live on Fire side chat where you can be a part of the conversation as my virtual audience. I am your host, Lorilee Binstock. Everyone has an opportunity to ask me or our guest questions by requesting the hop on stage,

but we do ask that everyone be respectful. I will try to get you as soon as possible.

Today’s guest is Michelle Wagner, children’s book author and advocate for families with special needs children, the main character in her book series Mickey on the move, Mickey,

is Michelle’s real life fourteen year old son who was born with hearing loss in both ears and Where cochlear

implants to aid him in his hearing journey.

Michelle has dedicated her life to making sure Mickey has the best medical care and resources, and she insists families

as they work together through the different approaches to facing a special needs child,

Michelle, thank you so much for joining me today.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:03:16 

Thank you for having me, Laurie.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:03:19 

Well, you know,

I think this is amazing. You know, you we we kind of compensated briefly…

Through email, but you know, you talked about, I didn’t realize it, but Mickey was adopted,

and you didn’t know at the time during the adoption

that

Mickey.

There was any hearing loss.

Could you talk a little bit about that process

of adoption.

And when you discovered,

he actually

had some hearing loss.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:03:53 

Sure.

He so we decided my husband

at time and I decided to adapt,

and I had had

cousin in Ohio had just adapted it to

very sweet

boys

from Russia, actually,

And

we decided to

do the same. We had enough resources, and I researched and met other parents

that went through a bay area here where we live

adoption agency,

and then also

connected

you know, with resources to help guide us through the entire process. It was long about a year and a half. And

when they finally

found Mikey for us and an orphan in Tomorrow,

who’s was about sixteen months old,

and we had to take three trips to Russia to visit him,

and he was so sweet and smiley,

and

instantly,

we made a connection with him.

And they had just mentioned that he had ear infections, and it was twenty below zero in cold.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:05:03 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:05:04 

And

that might have been, you know, a significant factor, and he was also born premature.

And once we…

Once the adoption process

was finished, and we brought him back to California,

we shortly there thereafter realized

that he was not hearing,

and we took him to an ear nose and throat specialist.

And

then

to a special hospital Ucsf,

where an cardiologist

in a special team met with us, And they said he was

profoundly deaf in both ears.

So he had no hearing,

and they asked if we wanted a

hearing and speaking trials

or

assigning child, and then we would take the, you know, take it from there. And so we decided to give him every opportunity possible.

And

we he was able to get bilateral

cochlear

implants, so that was implant in both ears, and it was a very

intense operation and time in our lives, and we had a way

you know, to be approved, and then to get the operation and recovery was a couple months,

and

then he was implanted and

his processors were activated,

and he was

three years old at that time.

And now he is fourteen, and he has thriving,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:06:31 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:06:32 

playing sports, and,

you know, we still do speech lessons every day, but the whole entire journey has been extremely rewarding.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:06:42 

Oh, that’s so amazing to hear.

You know, being being a parent

just

without having a child with special needs is is challenging.

Does it like for you through the the whole process and and and raising a child

now he’s fourteen with in thriving, which is incredible.

What would you how would you describe

parenting

a special needs child?

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:07:10 

Aside… Aside from being, you know, rewarding, I think it was actually

a gift

and something that

sort of

required me really stepping up

to the plate and

doing the best that I could

you know, they say god doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:07:33 

Exactly.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:07:34 

shortly after we adapted him.

My his dad and I separated,

and we went through a pretty lengthy divorce while we were going through the whole

cochlear implant

process,

and,

you know, it had its challenges

I at that time,

you know, I decided to do whatever I needed on my end.

To be the best mom that I could and take this

gift and challenge on

you know, it’s the best of my ability.

And,

you know, every everything

now when I look back,

all all everything that we have gone through and are still continuing to go through

has,

I think, me us both, you know, more

empathetic and

Mickey as actually a an extremely empathetic

child.

He really cares for others.

He likes helping others,

and

it’s it’s been, very rewarding.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:08:42 

So you wrote a book series

Mickey on the move.

Based on your son.

What brought that on?

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:08:54 

Well, I am I’m a realtor now. And I’ve been in a business design business, although

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:08:57 

Mhmm

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:09:00 

you know, right at a high school, I went to college for teaching and

that paid off. But, you know, it’s actually

the Covid, you know,

Covid.

What hope it gave to us

sort of…

Maybe right the book. I… Mickey and I were living with

my then

rick, and,

you know, we were,

you know, pretty much on lockdown like everybody else.

And

I had had people suggest, you know, I write, you know, other authors, and I always wanted to bring more awareness.

To cochlear implants. I coached every sport, Mickey was on,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:09:36 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:09:40 

you know, baseball Soccer,

and has been you know, an advocate without realizing it really what I was doing was just being his mom

and,

you know, being working from home,

and,

you know, doing more things at home with Mickey to sort of homeschool him and educate him here.

Wow,

you know, we weren’t really interacting with the outside world. We got chickens

and

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:10:06 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:10:06 

plant bigger garden and

I just really wanted to bring awareness,

and it… You know, I just took a shot of it. And

the first book really ended up kicking off, and that was mickey on the move,

and it did… So. Wow,

You know, let’s just by many people that I do a series,

and so,

you know, it took some time, but

I… This like a book came out and it’s one a bunch of awards already. And really when and has done is

educate everybody, and I donate to schools

because, you know, we should celebrate

all our unique differences

and the things that make us all special.

And the only way we can really do that is through education.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:10:52 

Agree.

Absolutely.

A hundred percent. I think that that is such a beautiful

beautiful

way, especially during Covid and you took during this difficult period,

you you just took

this opportunity

to raise awareness

about your son,

and and I just absolutely love that. It’s just it’s

it’s so heartwarming for me when I think about it.

And you know, what was it like for for Mickey?

In school growing up with

these cochlear and implants.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:11:37 

It was… I mean, he knows really nothing else.

Like, you know, I like I said, he’s just… He’s received so much love and something that I always like to really emphasize on

is that

adults and children alike,

you know, all we all really need is is love

and,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:11:57 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:11:58 

you know, a little enthusiasm as

and I

never…

I… You know, Making and I did as much as we could.

I’m grateful for the all the time I was able to spend in the classrooms,

You know, he did not attend a typical classroom,

you know, as most children do

until he was

in the fourth grade, and it was here where we live

in the next block.

Which also that inspired my book

because he was able to ride his bike to school when we when we first began, he was at special school.

It was in San Francisco,

and it was a special day class

for children that were just implanted

was a preschool,

and, you know, they really emphasized on speech, and then

that was an hour in a half from our house.

It And then he eventually

got into a school, which was forty five minutes away.

It town called Santa Rosa

And

there, who’s also in a special day class with other kids with cochlear implants.

Some of them had some other disabilities

And we just

truly,

you know, went

jumped both heat into everything.

I encourage him to try everything possible

you know, play every sport. We had very long days with a, you know, forty… With basically two hours of driving, and then we would do

you know, speech after school, We’ve had a wonderful speech therapist

here in our term. Her name is also Michelle.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:13:32 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:13:33 

She’s become part of our family.

And,

you know, even now that High school, he is

still seeing her because,

you know, we

just… You know, I… Like I said, like, from the very beginning, both his dad and I wanted to make sure he was able

to access every opportunity possible.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:13:58 

Wow.

You

any challenges that he face.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:14:11 

Yeah. I mean, there’s a lot of frustration

and there was when he was younger,

not wanting to keep the cochlear and implants earn,

for those people that

don’t really know much about cochlear

implants, First of all, it’s one of the great advances of modern

medicine.

That that’s her true. For Know, they’re they’re truly

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:14:32 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:14:34 

bio

organ,

you know,

very

resisting

from hearing aids.

And and they just… They directly

electrically stimulate the acoustic nerve.

So he has something on the inside of his head, and then on the outside, he wears ten of mini of emitting computer

and stuff with a magnet that attaches to his head. And as anyone can imagine, you know, sometimes kids have a hard time wanting to wear sunscreen or a hat

and making had these magnets on his head,

you know, that sometimes they wanted to rip off. He rather, you know, he would throw off or

you know, in the beginning, there were times I think he had headaches

from then when he was first and planted.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:15:19 

Mhmm

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:15:20 

And,

you know, with the speech barrier and learning language at an older age.

It was really hard for him to explain what he was wearing on his head.

And

to other children and to other parents. And that really

that really inspired me to write the books

because

now.

And even, you know, when we’re traveling,

when I first wrote the book, mickey kind of used the books of a business card.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:15:47 

Yeah.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:15:48 

There’s a picture of the implant

and what the cochlear looks like. And what’s on the inside of his head along with what goes on the outside of his head.

But there… You know, there were the challenges were just trying to explain why

he is quote him unquote different.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:16:05 

What was his reaction when you published the book?

Did you ask him for a permission to write it in the first place?

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:16:10 

Oh,

Yeah. I yeah You know, I mentioned it to him and he loves books. He especially looked like books. He’s very visual.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:16:14 

Or

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:16:21 

And

And, you know, I just said, I’m gonna write a book

i book about you and book about your cochlear implants so he knew

And then the day, you know, we would,

you know, once I

work for the publisher and got the print

you know, version just like, on my computer or Pdf, I would print it out. We colored it together.

And and then once we receive the card copy of the book, he could not believe it. And I mean, he was just telling everybody. He was,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:16:46 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:16:50 

you know, the best little salesman.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:16:53 

I bet.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:16:55 

I he he was just wrote. And then when the second one came out, he was even more thrilled.

And, you know, he is so proud of it, proud about it. He’s proud of where he is today, how far he’s come

and, you know, all of our our joint achievements.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:17:14 

So you you did talk about him in sports.

Has there… Has there been any challenges

with with with sports or anything?

Or… It’s like anything. It’s just a learning curve.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:17:30 

Yes. Well, no. There…

It had its own set of challenges

up until about three years ago, as cochlear implants there is no way to swim or do any type of water sports with them on.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:17:43 

Mhmm

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:17:45 

And in the second vocal making began move, farming,

I

I touch on that because now they have developed,

like, aqua calculator leaders,

and it’s… You know, you just… You have to

put all these extra devices in waterproof onto cochlear implant.

And making now has had definitely,

you know, adapted to

doing this on his own. But as you can imagine, a young child needs help getting dressed,

And so Mickey always, you know, needed help with with everything. So in the beginning, he

he loves to swim and

he was just… He couldn’t hear anything while he was swimming.

So I would teach either other children

swimming with him.

Or when we did swimming lessons as much signing as I could

just… To in order for him to be able to interact

and understand with the other kids

what was going on

and things like that

as far as wearing a magnet and a processor on your head, you can imagine when you’re running around, it just falls off.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:18:53 

yeah.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:18:54 

And so wait… You know, just talking to other parents

with

that’s why I’m always happy to talk to other parents who have children with cochlear player implants.

Some… Another parent had told me about buying wig tape

And because it’s like double white tape and just using it on the back of the cochlear so that it sticks to his head.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:19:09 

Oh.

Have you tried it? Has it worth?

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:19:17 

Oh, we’ve been doing it since I found out about it. So since was probably four years old,

we’ve been doing that

because it works better than actually

connecting like a string that it attaches to his clothes to do it.

And

and then as started playing like baseball soccer, all of that,

I found special helmets when he was playing,

like, little league,

and they actually have an extra space inside the helmet.

For

for like, so the cochlear

cochlear implant and the outside has room. But none of this happened overnight. None of this was easy. You know, I meant this is twelve years later. And when I look back now,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:19:55 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:20:00 

you know, it seems

surreal

that we were able to go through that and

be here where we are today because

there was a lot of

you know, very

hard challenging times. And,

you know, I tried to have a positive outlook on everything and

I think my positive attitude

snug on Mickey,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:20:24 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:20:24 

and

he that… And he doesn’t

you rarely will see him too frustrated.

And,

you know, my patience

You know, I I mean, it was is what I wanted you. I always wanted to be a mom,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:20:41 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:20:41 

and,

you know, I never imagined getting divorced. Shortly after

finally becoming a arm, especially after, you know, going through a long adapt process.

And it was a hard time for me as well. And

and actually, ten and a half years sober now

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:21:00 

Yeah.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:21:00 

because I chose

to the the healthiest lifestyle said so that I could have,

you know, really

a lot of clarity with each day, and I could give mickey my all because, like, you know, that was what he deserved and,

you know, thinking now

what might have happened to if he stayed in that door… You know, orphan engine russia.

I just really…

I put him first

And,

you know, I… It’s…

You know, I had a lot of support through community and family

and friends

very supportive

of everything. And

I think the best way to, you know, gain support is to be open and to share and I shared

you know,

everything that I was feeling and going through and,

you know, through that today

you know, I don’t think that there’s anything that comes

our way that we can’t try and take on.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:22:03 

Was there…

And you said

You’ve been sober for ten years.

Congratulations

that’s incredible.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:22:11 

Thank you.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:22:13 

Did you have a support system around you to help get you

sober.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:22:20 

Definitely. The same support so done that making and I have had through, you know,

is,

you know, you know, not being typical in his

implant. I,

you know,

I was…

I say lucky now that I was able to go to a program

rehabilitation program here in the Bay area

so that I could totally take on

learning,

educating myself

about addiction

and, you know, what both processes were kind of

similar. And

I’m

always, you know, I’m person that when I don’t know something or when I don’t understand something and when Mickey was implanted, we registered

in the John Tracy clinic, which was Southern California,

and it was kind of to teach a parent and child how to live together in a successful way

with with, you know, hearing impairment.

And all the challenges at my, and we did that right away when he was two and a half,

and it was intense and it was for,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:23:27 

Man.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:23:30 

you know, three weeks. We lived in these dorm with other kids with that were nearly cochlear

had cochlear implants, and it really gave me the ground basis

for how to how for… For how, you know, me and make you were gonna function

in our home. You know, he needed to be quiet. He couldn’t go to restaurants.

You know, loud situations were difficult in me

than being able to go

to rehab

to really learn about addiction and how I could live a healthier lifestyle

helped me, you know, and we embrace both of them and

till this day, we still

take

what we learn from there. You know, I take what I learned from both

John Tracy Clinic, and

Alt, which is the has

place I went to for addiction.

And those are those are a part of our life every single day.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:24:27 

Wow.

You know, as mothers, a lot of us mothers, were we’re like, oh, we’ll just… We’ll have a drink and, you know, sometimes

it it…

It gets too much.

But when did you realize that you

needed to get help?

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:24:48 

Well, the thing is I I like didn’t even think I had a problem

says

mostly

in Denial, and then I was realizing that I was

sort of drowning my sorrows about divorce,

and

you know, probably,

you know,

the whole adoption process in itself was very intense

and,

you know, the trips to Russia

and then seeing all those children, you know, it was a lot to handle at the the time. And, you know, I think…

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:25:17 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:25:20 

You know, drowning my sorrows with a big part of it and, you know, family members,

actually,

you know,

like suggesting that I, you know, stopped drinking and I said, no. That’s that’s fun. And

you know,

finally, I just…

They got to be

too much, and I, you know, was dependent

on it and

you know, I knew I couldn’t do it on my own. I knew I needed to help,

and

then I wasn’t gonna

be able to stop on my own and

you know and, like, just like with

Nikki,

you know,

finding a place like the John Tracy Clinic for him to go to. My family members help find one of the best places I could go to

because time was of the essence.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:26:12 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:26:13 

Mickey was nearly implanted.

I went right when my divorce was finalize.

And it’s one of the best gifts I’ve ever given myself

to this day.

And

the community

that I’ve met through through that here in a local town in just

everybody worldwide, you know, I’ve spoken

you know, at all kinds of seminars and differently have clinics and

huge participate in meetings and advocates for that as well.

And I’m very open about it. And, you know, because of that, I think I’ve been able to help a lot of people

with that as well.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:26:52 

I mean, just listening to you, I feel like there’s so many people who are just going to

just say,

Yeah. Me too.

Me too. And and maybe just from you just saying that they’ll say maybe I should get some help. So I think

what you’re doing for yourself, what you’re doing for Mickey is just incredible.

I

you know, going back to what you were talking about,

you know, Mickey playing baseball,

you know, my daughter, she plays baseball. And on her team, there’s a boy who

who is deaf. So he’s he does fine language. He doesn’t wear implants.

Just the sweetest kid. And, you know,

when I think about myself growing up, I feel like that wouldn’t have

been a thing. Like, everyone loves this kid, and everyone supports this. Kid everyone’s rooting for this kid, and I feel like

so many people do that because there’s so much awareness about,

you know,

people’s differences.

And how we should celebrate everyone’s differences, and I think that your book does exactly that. And I think,

you know, I I I feel… I’m… I’m sure you give yourself enough credit for. But I really don’t know if you do because I think it’s such a beautiful thing for

for other kids to be able to be like, oh, this is this is normal. Just… This is this is…

We we wanna celebrate

everyone

and, you know,

makes me cheer up because I think it’s just so sweet. So I feel like what you’re doing and in writing this book and creating awareness, not only around your own situation,

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:28:24 

Mhmm

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:28:32 

but Mickey as well.

And I think that’s for a trauma survivor driver’s podcast And that’s that’s kind of

the whole premise is to,

you know, whether it’s little t traumas or big traumas,

you know,

showing that people can be resilient and, you know, you said earlier about your

your attitude, your positive attitude and how that rubbed off A hundred percent of believer that that positive energy gets transferred

because even I notice it with my children when I’m in a bad mood and I’m being negative.

My kids are not happy, and they’re also negative.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:29:13 

share.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:29:15 

Right. It’s it’s… And and And so making… And also making that change that you did and and going to get sober.

And being sober for ten years, I mean,

he i I’m not sure if he knows exactly what has happened, but he can feel that he can feel that

resilience

that energy.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:29:35 

Right. And I I I agree and you know, he doesn’t. It’s hard for him to understand because he

you know, with his premature birth and things has have a lot of cognitive delays also. So it’s

it’s not like you know, the only challenge we have and his hearing loss,

You know, And he’s just learning now how to read and

you know, it’s… We have,

you know, it’s it’s… You know,

it’s, you know, still long road ahead.

And,

you know, now, you know, a topic lately that’s

come up and

you know, I’ve taken,

like, fully on

because I’m I’m grateful that like using so me as a best friend and this so the worthy of me and you know, it’s me you choose us to talk to about puberty,

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:30:21 

Mhmm.

Oh, that’s wonderful.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:30:27 

and all this, you know, And it’s, of course, he’s older than most children moved publicly

be interested in it and stuff. But, you know, I I kinda of a… As a, you know, mom master dad or a step dead being the one he wants to top too,

asked other parents in Sent because this is this is my first time, you know, talking to about going through puberty with a fourteen year old boy and all the questions that come with him, and I’ve had so many people.

So openly share with you know, what they have used

and techniques in books and, you know, I always open,

you know, to suggestions, and it’s really helped us

was that at the moment?

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:31:11 

What is your biggest tip or suggestion for parents

with special needs children.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:31:20 

Just to

just love it, you know, I always go back to

loving them

and,

you know, a resilient

parent

you know, is a great model for every resilient

child,

and a parent that gives it there all and never gives up

and,

you know, is just

present,

you, and very,

you know, a part of that child’s life is the best thing that

truly that you could do,

but a positive attitude

and just being able to be open and engaging

and, you know, always they’re always there for them.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:32:07 

Yeah.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:32:07 

Is is is all a child’s needs, and it’s

the same for adults similar for for adults. I mean, everybody needs,

you know, a friend, a hug

some love,

you know, we’re we are all social animals,

and

You know, I think I I have done everything up until this point, and we’ll continue to use that to allow Mickey to feel in every social situation.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:32:35 

Are there more books in the series to come?

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:32:38 

Yes.

There are…

Right now, I am working

and book number three,

and there there will be an of sports. And as I mentioned about the special helmets and things like that and you know, there’s been a football player.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:32:45 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:32:54 

He used to play for the

that had cochlear implants, and that’s how they made the special helmets where that whole thing came from and how I was able to source

a helmet with a space or a cochlear implant

when he was playing little league.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:06 

Wow.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:33:08 

And another author of children’s books, and she does…

She writes books about each football team, and she’s the cheerleader of the book.

You know, I met her. I’m from Chicago. She’s in Pennsylvania, but we’ve connected, and

she inspired me and

kind of,

you know, encouraged me to start writing.

And,

you know, she hasn’t said a look at about the forty writers.

And

so we are gonna also call great a book together aside from the members three from Move.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:42 

Wow. So you’re busy.

Busy.

That’s amazing.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:33:45 

Yes.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:47 

Did you ever imagine

the success of the series.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:33:51 

No. That is for her. I never thought I would have to run so many prints of it. I never imagined it would win so many awards

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:33:52 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:34:01 

But really, the thing that warms my heart the most is how much

Mickey loves it, how proud he is of it.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:34:07 

Mhmm.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:34:07 

And how schools

actually now worldwide,

not just in the United States are really taking it as part of their curriculum.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:34:17 

Oh, that is incredible.

Wow.

That is amazing.

You must be so proud.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:34:23 

I I am. I… Yeah.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:34:26 

Mhmm

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:34:26 

And we police. But, yes, ma’am.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:34:29 

Wow. Well is there anything else that you’d like to add?

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:34:35 

I think that just… You know,

we we can all do the unimaginable

if we put our hearts into it and

we could all,

you know, get be very supportive to the friends and family and children around us.

And, you know,

know. But nobody or

can do things on their own. It’s not afraid to ask for how and that’s something I really modeled for Mickey,

you know, and in my sobriety,

you know, asking for help,

in learning more about cochlear

influence asking for help.

And

I always keep my door literally open.

And I’m willing to help

anyone.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:35:17 

Suppose. Thank you, Michelle for joining me today. I really appreciate having you here and just learning

more about what you’ve done in your story. I think it’s beautiful.

And and

absolutely wonderful. So thank you so much.

 

Michelle M Wagner  00:35:33 

Thank you, Lorilee. It’s been a pleasure.

 

Lorilee Binstock  00:35:36 

Well, that was Michelle Wagner, children’s book author and advocate for families with special needs children for more info on Michelle. You can click on that scrolling fortune cookie right there on your screen, and that will send you to her website where you can purchase her book

Michelle has contributed to July issue of authentic insider you can catch that issue by going to my website from survivor drivers.

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You’ve been listening to A Trauma Survivor Thriver’s Podcast on Fireside. I’m Lorilee Binstock, have a safe and healthy holiday season.

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