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What About Complex-PTSD?
When you’ve suffered trauma, it can have a long term affect. Long-term trauma is different. In this episode, you can learn about the attributes, traits, and causes of C-PTSD to help you understand what may be lingering in your body/mind system, and what you can do about it. How you were raised creates the beliefs you hold about yourself, others, and the world. If you’ve had dysfunction and abuse in your early life, your views of these may be warped. You may experience heightened emotional distress, feel overwhelmed, anxious, helpless, or hopeless. Certainly, you can feel disempowered. Understand the undepinnings of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can uncover the places in your life that may have set you on a difficult path. When that happens in your family or origin, you can expect it to be highly likely that you’ll attract a difficult relationship, two or ten, into your adult life. It’s not what you want, but it’s what you know. You don’t do it on purpose, but it happens all the same.Often, that leads to feeling stuck. Then, you may also have difficulty controlling your emotions, or feel angry or distrustful towards the world. Maybe, you feel empty or hopeless.”Why is this happening to me? I’ve been a good, caring, giving person, and yet it’s never enough.” Have you had that thought? Or, have you become so exhausted from being worn down and torn down that you simply give up and give in? How about the feeling that you are completely different than other people, and nobody understands what’s happened to you. Or, do you avoid friendships and relationships, or at least, find them daunting and difficult? These things can be symptoms of C-PTSD, Complet Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Knowing what to look for can set you on a corrective path that can lead you to a healthier, happier life. Lean in and listen to see which, if any, of this episode can provide you with a new understanding of yourself, and your relationships. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:What Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, C-PTSD, isWhat situations and relationships can lead you to suffer from C-PTSDWhat C-PTSD can cause you to experience in life…especially what you may never have recognized before5 major things that are great first steps toward healing C-PTSD, putting it well in the background of your life…and leaving it thereWondering about the pathway to healing once you’ve recognized C-PTSD? I’m here to help.I wish you well.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community Only $19 a month just now.#complexptsd #emotionalflashbacks #childhoodabuse #childhoodneglect #abandonment #complexposttraumaticstressdisorder #causesofcptsd#codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
“Pivot: Figuring Out What's Next” with Tamsen Fadal on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung #283
Tamsen Fadal has been up, down, over and through the ringer. While she has won 12 Emmys for her work in journalism, and as a news anchor, she also lost her mom at a very young age to cancer and went through a very public divorce while she and her husband were supposed to be dating experts. She wrote a book about her divorce, The New Single and now talks about how to write the next new chapter and exciting chapter of your life on her podcast in her podcast, Coming Up Next. In this episode, she gets raw and real about how there were times she didn’t even get out of bed and how she had to make lists just to remind herself to do that, and how she finally learned to heal. How can you pivot and figure out what the next chapter of your life looks life in business, relationships, financially, spiritually or whatever you may want to design? Tamsen has got some killer, kickass thoughts for you. Tune in to listen to this funny, engaging convo between two girlfriends kicking back getting real about everything.
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More About Tamsen Fadal
Tamsen Fadal is a 12-time Emmy award-winning journalist and primetime anchor for the PIX11 News in New York at 5, 6 and 10pm. Tamsen is the executive producer and host of Broadway Profiles and a three-time author.
In addition to her work in television, Tamsen is the author of three books, and is currently at work on her fourth, Coming Up Next. Her most recent, The New Single: Finding, Fixing and Falling Back in Love with Yourself seeks to help women emerge from a big life change with confidence, grace, and a recipe for self-care.
Tamsen lost her mother to breast cancer in 1990 and has been a long-time advocate of educating women and their families about this devastating disease, giving all women a chance at early detection, regardless of means.
In 2011, she co-founded Shansen Jewelry, alongside her cousin, actress Shannon Elizabeth with a portion of all proceeds going to animal rescue and breast cancer charities.
Born in Concord, Mass., Tamsen graduated from the University of South Florida with a bachelor’s degree in Broadcast Journalism. She currently lives in New York City.
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After her mother’s death, Natalie Harper inherits a charming but financially strapped bookshop in San Francisco, and becomes caretaker for her ailing grandfather. Books provide welcome solace for her grief and struggle.
People magazine calls the book “A feel-good family saga… A charming tale about the silver linings of unwanted detours.”
Perfect for readers of Jennifer Weiner, Emily Henry, Elin Hilderbrand, Amanda Eyre Ward, Jojo Moyes
This is a great pick for book clubs and also really great to enjoy poolside, on the beach, at the lake, on vacation, etc.
This is a novel that book lovers will LOVE– it’s the perfect feel-good summer read!
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
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Calming, Strengthening Practices for Child Inside the Empath
The small child inside the empath needs and is entitled to special attention. Here are some of the ways that you activate kindness, appreciation and understanding. You become calmer, stronger and increase your physical, mental and psychological stamina as well as moving into the restorative parasympathetic body/mind systems.
Get comfortable when you rest. Wear easy fitting clothing that moves with you and is soft and easy against your skin. Res knowing that you are entitled to calming, quiet unscheduled time.
Basic yoga poses put you in the parasympathetic body/mind systems where you are free and untethered, no demands are made, you are floating in a quiet sea.
Child’ pose is especially fine for rest and restoration.
Take naps without judgment.
Listen to beautiful music that calms and restores you.
Enjoy Nature each day.
Listen to a book narrator that puts you into the story, characters, sense of place.
Do everything at your pace. No rushing. Walk and do a firm of meditation on Nature in each moment.
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Empaths – Embrace the Dance of Your Individuality
As a child you were the peacemaker, child servant, invisible child, the quiet one in your family. As a child you didn’t fit in with your family. They had an image of themselves that was developed and highly polished, especially if you had a narcissistic parent or narcissistic mother and father.
Everything had to be perfect at all times including the children. You remember the strict routines, the multiple layers of external perfection, the grand show. The image was all that mattered: what you wore, your grades, schools you attended, important friends and contacts. This was emphasized. This is the false reality of the narcissistic family.
You are not part of your family’s fairy tale. You are not in the chorus – following the steps by rote.
You choreograph your own dance. You dream it up, work it out and perform it. beautifully. You are a gifted soloist.
Follow your intuitive wisdom and listen to the winds of your creativity.
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Simone Biles! “GOAT” to Infinity and Beyond…
Simone~ Thank you for truly BEing a champion In demonstrating an AWARENESS that you were practicing SELFLOVE in your decision to step back and tend to your MENTAL HEALTH this week. Your resilience, your voice, your soul, your champion mindset is sending a message to the world “There is no health without mental health!” The […] Continue reading…
Special Message to Empaths Married to High Level Narcissists II
Empaths are high ly perceptive, exquisitely sensitive individuals. They are attuned to their external and internal environments. Tehy feel deeply and are often misunderstood by spouses, family members and the world at large.
Empaths who are married or partnered with high level narcissists have a particularly difficult journey.
In this situation with a high level narcissist the empath is accumulating tremendous amounts of oxidative stress.
Many of you grew up as children of a narcissistic parent or both mother and father. Demands and reprimands were daily occurrences. Narcissistic mother and fathers gave you the message that you didn’t and couldn’t measure up to lowest expectations. You felt irredeemably flawed. For making great efforts to obtain any real attention, warmth, attachment, acceptance never work. You were looked upon with scorn and disgust. No one in your family understood you.
Married to a high level narcissist you are at the mercy of their recriminations, criticisms, projections. There is a time of awakening when you can no longer tolerate being controlled by the high level narcissist.
You come to a time of awakening, an opening to your authentic original self. You practice self care, explore your creativity, learn to access the calming, parasympathetic body/mind systems. I give you so much credit for restoring your original sense of self and now stand tall: grounded, gifted, going strong.
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WHY HIJACKALS CREATE CHAOS & CONFUSION
Don’t Hijackals love to stir the pot and keep it swirling? They definitely have goals in mind and one is to keep you spinning and the relationship unstable. You want that to stop. Get insights into stopping the spinning and instability in this episode.When a Hijackal wants power over you–and they all do, one of the most likely ways they go for it is to catch you off-guard, keep you uncertain, and be contradictory. You’ve likely noticed that. They think that allows them to operate somehow undercover if they keep you off-center. And, many times it works. After you listen to this episode, if it was working, it won’t anymore!What are some moves that I’ve done episodes on that are examples of their wily ways?gaslightingblameshiftingpastcastingmoving the markerslyingdismissing youdiscounting youisolationtriangulationthreats to abandonThe Silent Treamentthreats to hurt you, your children, your property, or your reputation…and those are only some!A toxic person, a Hijackal’s intention is to keep you off balance. While you are second-guessing yourself or questioning your sanity at their instigation, they are undercutting your confidence and undermining your certainty. And, all to have a continuous advantage over you! Nasty.I offer you eight steps you can take immediately…and they don’t involve getting the cooperation of the Hijackal. That’s ideal! You want to get back to your own center, live your own values, and establish yourself in a relationship that offers equality and equity, reciprocity, and mutuality. Of course, those are things that Hijackals shy away from, if not run screaming from. Unfortunately, though, they won’t run off without a mega effort to have power over you and run you down.Now, you can beging with the eight steps in this episode. Yay!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why Hijackals think they have the right to shape the relationshipHow Hijackals create chaos and confusionWhy Hijackals work to keep you in uncertainty and, preferably, instabilityHijackal moves to exert power over you8 steps to stop the spinning and the instability they want to createDo you need help to stop the chaos and confusion? I’m here to help.I wish you well.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp————————————————————-I‘M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler’s Emerging Empowered Community Only $19 a month.#narcissistscreatechaos #keepingyouconfused #underminingmyconfidence #havepoweroverme #controlissues #controllingpeople #manipulativepartner #mypartnerwantstocontrolme #mypartnerdoesntcareaboutme #myrelationshipisunequal #codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequestSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
“Becoming a Human Optimized” with Aurimas Juodka on Negotiate Your Best Life with Rebecca Zung #282
How can you go from being a sickly child raised in less than ideal conditions to one of the most sought after business and personal coaches in the world? You become a human optimized! Aurimas “AJ” Juodka shares how he went from humble beginnings to learning how to apply NLP and the 4 Pillars of High Performance to create real sustainable habits in his life, and how you can too. Listen to his inspirational story and find out how you can overcome narcissists, adversity, toxic relationships, bad eating habits, unhealthy lifestyles, financial woes and more by simply applying his step by step guidance.
More About Aurimas “A.J.” Juodka
In a nutshell, I identify inefficiencies in humans and optimize them by taking an interdisciplinary, Minimal Effective Dose, scientific approach. We address the 4 Pillars of High Performance – Biology, Leadership, Efficiency, Mindset through forming sustainable habits, while doubling down on the areas that are the most pertinent to your situation!
I’m an educator, speaker and coach (certified strength and conditioning specialist, high performance coach, certified nutrition coach, NLP Master Practitioner, former athlete) and I’ve helped hundreds of my clients to excel in life physically and mentally.
My interest in optimization and human performance started when I was rising from the ashes of serious health struggles; borderline insomniac, mental fog, low energy, destroyed gut microbiome, digestion problems, feeble immune system, I decided to stop listening to modern-day traditional doctors and crack the health code myself. After going down a rabbit hole of self-experimentation I transformed myself on every level and my lessons have been featured in GQ, Disrupt Magazine, Influencive, The Wall Street Journal, Yahoo Lifestyle, and other media outlets.
Upon addressing my health issues, I realized that there’s more to optimize – the complex human mind. I started studying subconscious patterns through NLP, hypnosis, EMDR, and behavioral psychology and built out a Human Optimization Coaching program that is based on a multidisciplinary approach.
I’ve spent the last decade in the trenches slowly unpacking the pillars of high performance, participating in anti-aging medicine, biohacking, alternative medicine, high performance, and wellness conferences.
Through my online programs, retreats, and speaking engagements I continue to help a wide range of private and corporate clients around the world experience unbelievable breakthroughs, shifts, and transformations in their health, vitality, mental and physical performance. Check out his website right here: https://humanoptimized.co/
Follow AJ on Instagram right here: @human.optimized
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THIS WEEK’S SPONSOR INFORMATION:
Grab the New York Times Bestseller, The Lost and Found Bookshop by Susan Wiggs (published by Harper Collins) right here http://aps.harpercollins.com/advt?isbn=9780062914118&retailer=harpercollins&locale=US
After her mother’s death, Natalie Harper inherits a charming but financially strapped bookshop in San Francisco, and becomes caretaker for her ailing grandfather. Books provide welcome solace for her grief and struggle.
People magazine calls the book “A feel-good family saga… A charming tale about the silver linings of unwanted detours.”
Perfect for readers of Jennifer Weiner, Emily Henry, Elin Hilderbrand, Amanda Eyre Ward, Jojo Moyes
This is a great pick for book clubs and also really great to enjoy poolside, on the beach, at the lake, on vacation, etc.
This is a novel that book lovers will LOVE– it’s the perfect feel-good summer read!
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Soberlink is a comprehensive alcohol monitoring system. Combining a breathalyzer with wireless connectivity, Soberlink automatically documents proof of sobriety in real-time, which gives clients a sense of accomplishment while rebuilding trust with others.
Features
Adaptive Facial Recognition technology
Technology to detect physical tampers
Real-time text message reminders and Alerts
Customizable scheduling
Automated reporting options
Get an exclusive $50 off your device by emailing info@soberlink.com and mentioning Negotiate Your Best Life
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For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!
GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE!
SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL RIGHT HERE.
Grab a copy of Rebecca’s book, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword written by Robert Shapiro). It went straight to being a #1 bestseller the first day it was launched! Find out what everyone is so excited about – get the book RIGHT HERE!
To get your copy of Rebecca’s bestselling book, Breaking Free: A Step by Step Guide to Achieving Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom, please visit the Amazon website to order it RIGHT HERE.
That Infernal Noise Ep. 10 – As Honest As I Have Ever Been
In this episode as the title implies, I am more honest than I have ever been. You get an unfiltered look into my mind and my thoughts of men’s mental health and the perception of being weak in discussing emotions. I also discuss the suicidal thoughts I have, some of the motivations for them and my reasons for still being here.
I apologize to anyone that may find this a sensitive subject but I feel that all too often these thoughts are downplayed, if not just outright ignored and that inevitably leads to a increase in suicide rates. My goal is to create a dialogue and let everyone know you are not alone, you can talk about it and you are not weak if you seek help.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-723-8255 (available 24 hours a day)
Follow me on facebook, twitter and instagram @thatinfernalnpc
Any thoughts or feedback on it would be very much appreciated!
-Robert