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Trauma-Informed Interventions for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors: Dr. Linda Martinez-Lewi

Survivors of psychological abuse by a narcissistic abuser require nonjudgmental, validating support by clinicians trained in this field in order to heal. Listen in as pioneering expert Dr Linda Martinez-Lewi shares her clinical wisdom as relates to trauma-informed and strengths-focused interventions to support survivors in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse.

www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

The Manipulative Narcissist’s Gaslighting Playbook: Translations of What They Say and What They REALLY Mean

I discuss the 12 common phrases narcissists use to manipulate you, as well as the 7 phrases they use to gaslight you. Visit my website www.shahidaarabi.com for more information about my work. Derived from my articles 12 Things Narcissists Say and What They REALLY Mean on Thought Catalog and 7 Gaslighting Phrases Malignant Narcissists Use – https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/03/7-gaslighting-phrases-malignant-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-translated/

The Nature of Coercive Control with Christine Louis de Canonville

Christine Louis de Canonville and Andrea discuss the nature of coercive control and how narcissists use this form of extreme emotional and psychological abuse to ensnare their victims.

Christine is a Psychotherapist, Educator, Author and Supervisor of mental health professionals for over 28 years. She was part of a team in the Trauma Unit of St. Brendan’s Psychiatric Hospital, Dublin, and has worked specically with victims of pathological narcissistic abuse in her private practice for many years.

Her books, “The Three Faces of Evil: Unmasking the Full Spectrum of Narcissistic Abuse” and “When Shame Begets Shame: How Narcissists hurt and shame their victims” set out to to help those who have been affected by a narcissist and also to address the shortfalls in a therapist’s education, so that they become better equipped to work with survivors of narcissistic abuse.Much of her knowledge has come from her post-grad studies in Criminology and Forensic Psychology, and it is through these disciplines that she has gained her understanding of “The Dark Triad”, (Narcissism, Machiavellianism and Psychopathy). These three faces of evil are vital information for understanding the full spectrum of narcissistic abuse and the dire effects on the victims.It is her vision that narcissistic abuse becomes part of the curriculum of all Mental Health clinicians. Her website is www.narcissisticbehavior.net.

Co-Narcissism with Christine Louis de Canonville

Right from the pages of her long anticipated book, When Shame Begets Shame, Christine Louis de Canonville joins us to discuss many things including co-narcissism. She is one of our most popular guests and it’s been a long time since she’s joined us for an interview.

About Christine Louis de Canonville
B.A. (Hons) Theology & Psychology, MIACP, MSIACP, CMH, CHyp, MPNLP.

www.narcissisticbehavior.net

Christine Louis de Canonville is a licensed psychotherapist and clinical supervisor living in Dublin, Ireland. She is also an author, a professional trainer, and international speaker, a lecturer, workshop facilitator and external examiner.

She has worked in the area of mental health and trauma recovery for the last 28 years, providing psychotherapy to children and adults for a range of life issues, including Addictive Behaviours, Anxiety, Anger, and Relational Issues.
For 5 years, she worked in the Trauma Unit of St. Brendan’s Psychiatric Hospital under the watchful eye of the eminent Professor Ivor Browne. In 1995 she set-up her own private clinical practice where she now specialises in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery.

Her life as a “care-giver” started in earnest when she was 23, and it was both a painful and magnificent adventure through both Western and Eastern paradigm of thought. Her philosophy of life is that every great artist uses a palate of many colours to bring their canvas to life, and this is true of any effective therapist.

Her palate is made-up of many disciplines, from Psychology, Medical Anthropology, Philosophy, Sociology, Criminology, Criminal Psychology, Forensic Psychology, Metaphysics, Spirituality, Theology, and more. All these disciplines are wonderfully compatible to the life of any Psychotherapist.

Christine works primarily as a Humanistic and Integrative Psychotherapist, where she incorporates a Person Centred Approach, utilizing a range of modalities (Western & Eastern) where appropriate. She is also a qualified accredited Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor, Master NLP Practitioner, Master of Clinical Hypnosis, Life, Business & Executive Coach, Spiritual Director, Shamanic Counsellor, Curandera Practitioner, and Transpersonal Therapist.

Since qualifying, she has been a member of many accredited Boards and is a Member of the Irish Association of Counsellors & Psychotherapists.

Christine is also a trained and accredited Psycho-Spiritual Psychotherapist: Throughout the years, she was also going through personal spiritual development. True to form, her quest for “truth” was to take her to visit many places. She did her fieldwork study (for her Master’s Degree in Medical Anthropology) with indigenous Shamans from Native American Sioux Indians, to Peruvian, Bolivian, European, Celtic, and Mexican shamans.

She also studied comparative religions, and to her surprise, she became a Theologian. For many years, she worked with Emaho, an American Indian from New Mexico, who challenged her to see life through “Life’s Eyes” rather than through the eyes of the personality. Her journey also saw her apprenticed to Eloxochitl, a Curandera Teacher in the Medicina Mexihka Tradition (Mexican Shaman). In 2006, Christine was honoured as a Curandera and a Warrior Woman when she was given the Native American Indian name of “Cihuatequiani”, which means “Woman Who Works”.

It has been part of her life’s work to integrate these two ways of knowing (Western Behavioural Psychology with Eastern Consciousness Psychology) into an Integral Transpersonal Therapy. This is a seamless way of working with the whole person, not just on a mental, emotional, and physical level, but also at a spiritual/soul level of the self.

She grew up with an older psychopathic brother from childhood. Unfortunately, due to her early conditioning, she found herself re-experiencing victimisation during her adult life by three other narcissists (2 females and 1 male). About 12 years ago, she began Criminology Studies, and she became very interested in Psychopathy, which is the study of The Dark Triad (the classical narcissist, malignant narcissist, and the psychopath). She completed her post-graduate diplomas in both Forensic Psychology and Criminal Psychology.

Having done her own recovery work, Christine became the “Wounded Healer”. She decided to specialise in helping other people in their recovery from toxic relationships, especially those who had been victims of pathological narcissistic abuse. She became a published author of The Three Faces of Evil: Unmasking the full spectrum of narcissistic abuse, and has gone on to publish two more books on the subject of narcissistic abuse.

She appeared in the popular Television Documentary – Evil: A Would You Believe? Special – as a mental health expert (with other experts) speaking on the subject of Evil. Many of her articles have featured in major online magazines and professional Journals. She was a guest on various international radio shows (i.e. Ireland, America, Canada, England, and Sweden). She was the keynote speaker for the IACP at the first Professional Mental Health Conferences in Dublin, and she was a guest speaker on the 1st World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day Summit (WNAAD).

She started the “Roadshow for Therapists”, where she travelled throughout the Four Provence’s of Ireland with her training workshops for mental health professionals on narcissistic personality disorder, and the effects of narcissistic abuse on the victims.

She is the founder of narcissisticbehavior.net that has readership from all over the world. Part of her advocacy work is to provide a blog for furnishing information about the different facets of narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic victim abuse.

What Three Billy Goats & a Troll Have to Do with Covert Narcissists Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Whatever has the story of the Three Billy Goats Gruff got to do with covert narcissism? Just who is that troll under the bridge in the story? In your story? Let’s take a look at that in today’s episode of Save Your Sanity. Sad that any one has to live under a bridge, for sure. No doubt about it, the parents of a covert narcissist taught them how to do it. That’s how they survived their childhoods. Unfortunately, those are the only strategies they currently have, and so….under the bridge! Covert narcissists love to live under a bridge, have a sad story to tell, and offer to “gobble you up” when you don’t meet their needs. Today, I’m using this story to help illustrate how crafty covert narcissists are, how they hide in wait to pull you under! How they are lying in wait to make you wrong! Dr. Craig Malkin wrote that: “What’s different about covert narcissists is that because they’re introverted, they don’t advertise their inflated egos.” They may not advertise, but they still sell you that bill of goods. Are you feeling guilty that you can’t make things right or good for someone who seems to never want to feel better? Are you exhausted from trying to show someone that they matter, and it seems they don’t want to see it? You could be with a covert narcissist…or, maybe, you were raised by one. For sure, today is a good day to see what’s under the bridge, and refuse to cross any more! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:Why your heart goes out to people who are “takers”What covert narcissists do to make you feel as though you’re never doing it enough to make them feel goodWhy their constant stories of “it’s not fair” or “no one ever gives me a chance” need to stop playing on your heartstringsHow covert narcissists use passive-aggressive behavior to pull you down, and pull you under the bridgeWhy you’re only valued for what you can give a covert narcissist, never for who you areI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.Let’s talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly “Ask Me Anything” callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWeekly livestream show, Help for Toxic Relationships, on Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time.Subscribe now to get a reminder. Ask your questions in the chat each week!You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That’s a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #covertnarcissist #trolls #identifycovertnarcissism

Whole Again with Jackson MacKenzie (Author of Psychopath Free)

In this episode we will explore the topic of healing and rediscovering your true self after toxic relationships.

You’ll finally understand why going No Contact and discovering narcissism and psychopathy, although important steps in the process, don’t equate to healing the damage caused.

You’ll find out about the internal obstacles in your self-healing journey that you’ll need to overcome if you want things to change.

You’ll also get to hear an interview with Jackson MacKenzie in which we discuss the emotional wounding and repetitive patterns that are caused by narcissistic abuse.

www.InnerIntegration.com
The Journey: http://bit.ly/TheJourneyMM

Jackson’s book Whole Again: http://bit.ly/WholeAgainJM
Jackson’s Psychopath Free site: https://psychopathfree.com/

From the Archives: Why Do Victims of Narcissistic Abuse Blame Themselves?

The show everyone has been waiting for. Join our frequent and most popular guest Christine Louis de Canonville, author of The Three Faces of Evil, Michelle Mallon, faculty at Ohio State University, and Andrea Schneider, MSW, LCSW.

Three leading educators about Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. We discuss Christine’s book which is set to publish and be available on Amazon in May of 2015, the most common question asked by all survivors of this form of abuse, and what’s in store for the future regarding the pandemic: Narcissistic, Pychopathic, and Sociopathic abuse.

Editors note: On the show we state that Christine Louis de Canonville has a Masters in Medical Anthropology. This is incorrect. Please visit the blog article for the correction. We also mention that Michelle Mallon is a professor at Ohio State University. She is a teacher and on the faculty. Thank you and we regret the error.

Attachment Wounds and Maternal Mental Health: Healing Developmental Trauma

Join host Andrea Schneider and her guest Bethany Warren, LCSW as they talk about attachment wounds and maternal mental health. Some the questions below are topics of their discussion. We also include a recommended reading list.

· Why is attachment important?

· What are the benefits to the child from secure attachment?

· Is it possible to heal from intergenerational patterns of abuse, neglect, etc, particularly as one prepares to then care for ones own child?

· What does differentiating from our parents mean? What does this look like?

· Our life experiences change our brain and lay down neural pathways including how we respond to situations and others (including your baby and their need for you).

· Does there have to be actual abuse or neglect for there to be attachment wounds?

· Overlap between attachment and PMADs:

· What can women do to promote secure attachment with their own babies?

· What can women do to heal their own attachment wounds?

Bethany (Beth) has a passion for women’s reproductive and mental health issues and has worked in this field for around 20 years. She specializes in Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders, working with women experiencing pregnancy loss, infertility, birth trauma or facing adoption or surrogacy. She is passionate about coaching and guiding parents through their adjustment to their new roles and helping women explore and build their core identities, self-worth and self-esteem. Beth also focuses on working with clients experiencing grief, trauma, new or chronic medical issues, and mood disorders in addition to other life stressors and transitions.

Beth has an empathetic, compassionate and approachable style and has found EMDR, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Short Term Solution Focused Therapy techniques to be very useful in her practice. She also integrates relaxation and mindfulness approaches into her sessions and tailors each intervention to her client’s specific needs. She enjoys facilitating group therapy and has lead postpartum support groups for new mothers and psychoeducation groups for people dealing with anxiety. She also enjoys being active in the community, and currently serves as President of the Postpartum Health Alliance Board. Beth strongly believes in empowering her clients by teaching them useful techniques and tools so that they can become more resilient and healthy in their interactions with others and in their everyday lives.

Beth is an adjunct professor at a local University and provides clinical supervision for clinicians working towards their licenses as teaching others in the same field is a passion of hers. She also is frequently featured as a Maternal Mental Health subject matter expert on podcasts and other media outlets. Beth received her Bachelors of Science in Psychology at Colorado State University and her Master’s Degree in Social Work from San Diego State University.

https://postpartumhealthalliance.org/

http://balancehealth.org/therapist_bethany_warren.html

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma

Becoming The Narcissist’s Nightmare https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying/dp/152370246X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1547496757&sr=8-1&keywords=becoming+the+narcissist%27s+nightmare+by+shahida+arabi

The Whole-Brain Child- https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697

Daring Greatly- https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419

Parenting from the Inside-Out- https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Inside-Out-Self-Understanding-Anniversary/dp/039916510X

The Female Brain- https://www.amazon.com/Female-Brain-Louann-Brizendine/dp/0767920104

The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog- https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Who-Raised-Psychiatrists-Notebook-What/dp/0465056539

Circle of Security International: https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.com/handouts

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline: https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Love-Difficult-Discipline-Cooperation/

Elevating Child Care- https://www.amazon.com/Elevating-Child-Care-Respectful-Parenting/dp/1499103670

The Happy Baby on the Block- https://www.amazon.com/Happiest-Baby-Block-Harvey-Karp/dp/0553381466

Cherish the First 6 Weeks- https://www.amazon.com/Cherish-First-Six-Weeks-Confident/dp/0307987272

The Incredible Years- http://www.incredibleyears.com/

Heading Home with Your Newborn- https://www.amazon.com/Heading-Home-Your-Newborn-Reality/dp/1581108931

What’s Going on Up There?: How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Going-There-Brain-Develop/dp/0553378252

Raising Kids in the 21st Century- https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Kids-21st-Century-Psychological/dp/1405158069

Soul Vampires https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Vampires-Reclaiming-Lifeblood-Narcissistic-ebook/dp/B016JBOSY2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1547496613&sr=8-1&keywords=soul+vampires+reclaiming+your+lifeblood+after+narcissistic+abuse+book

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: https://www.amazon.com/Will-Ever-Good-Enough-Narcissistic

Healing Trauma: Attachment, Mind, Body and Brain https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Trauma-Attachment-Interpersonal-Neurobiology/dp/0393703967/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Trauma-Attachment-Interpersonal-Neurobiology/dp/0393703967/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

Trauma-Informed Therapy and EMDR

Anastasia Pollock-Doulis, LCMHC is an approved EMDRIA Consultant and Trauma Recovery/HAP Facilitator for clinicians who are pursuing EMDR training or certification. She has extensive training in EMDR, specifically in treating complex trauma, Dissociative Identity Disorder, sexual abuse and women’s issues.

www.facebook.com/LifeStoneCounseling/
www.facebook.com/AnastasiaPollockEMDR/

www.lifestonecenter.com

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