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Embrace Your Personal Power – TPS456

About six weeks ago, I did an episode about feeling sorry for myself. Since then, I’ve seen how that applies to me and how feeling sorry for oneself affects many people. I’ve come to understand a number of related topics, including Personal Power, which I discuss in this episode.

Highlights

Step 1 in dealing with feeling sorry for yourself is to recognize the emotion and when it is coming up for you.
I’ve come to realize how very different each one of us is and how there’s no way to truly understand what goes on inside of other people. The only one who can fully understand you is you.
Many of our relationships are based on our wanting to be like other people.
You have created your life outcomes, which indicates how powerful you really are.
In our society, we haven’t learned how to embrace our differences as well as our similarities.
I realize that you can never fully understand everything about me and what I’m actually feeling. But you can relate to what I’m saying.
If we can each understand our differences, not just our similarities, we could live more peacefully with each other.
To be comfortable with who you are, it’s important to accept how much power you have.
In America, we have a huge amount of diversity, but a lot of people don’t want that diversity and don’t see its value.
To stop feeling sorry for ourselves, we have to stop feeling like victims.
When you start feeling powerless, examine your options and take action.
When you’re looking at yourself, it can be hard to go deep and you may be seeing yourself from a negative point of view.
This process can be complicated.
Are you willing to look at yourself without thinking that who you are being and what you’re doing is wrong? Are you willing to go through a little bit of discomfort in order to move in a positive direction?

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How Feeling Sorry for Yourself Affects Your Life Outcomes – TPS451

Couple Care — Tools to Rock Your Relationship: Interview with Lisa Stull | Episode 83

“Falling in love is easy. Falling in love with the same person repeatedly is extraordinary.”
Every so once in a while, many of us in long-term relationships find we need to reboot our relationship — routines may have made relationships go stale and perpetual conflicts breed resentment. In this episode I speak with Marriage and Family Counselor Lisa Stull, an expert in the Gottman method of relationship transformation. She shares what differentiates “master couples” from “disaster couples,” teaches about the four horseman and their antidotes, and gives us tools on how to build a sound relationship house.

About Lisa Stull
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Lisa Stull is a Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice, Comprehensive Counseling Solutions, in Parker, CO. With 25 years of experience she has a unique approach that attracts clients seeking a no nonsense perspective. Working on difficult issues can be challenging and her clients appreciate her ability to make the work interesting and fun, yes, therapy can be fun! Being passionate about helping couples create their ideal relationship led her to the Gottman method. The proven science behind the framework and tools, is what makes this approach so different, because it actually works! Her dynamic Art & Science of Love workshops transforms a couples perspective on what a healthy relationship looks like and they leave with proven tools to renew their connection.
In her spare time she owns two other businesses, a wellness center and an aesthetics center. Both centered around her desire for every person to be the best version of themselves – on the inside and out.
And just to send her mother into a fit of worry, she does all this working virtually so she can live full time out of her RV, traveling to all the beautiful national parks with her husband, fluffy dog, and two fluffier cats. For more information about this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/83

Dr. Dorothy P. Holinger; The Anatomy of Grief

In 2017, when Dr. Dorothy P. Holinger started writing her book “The Anatomy of Grief” she had no idea that just after its release the entire world would be in mourning together. We’ve all been affected by grief in some way of late, and Dr. Holinger brings years of research to the table in order to figure out what is going on in the body and mind, as well as how we can attempt to move through the grieving process.

You can find out more about Dr. Dorothy P. Holinger and buy her book, The Anatomy of Grief at www.dorothypholinger.com/author/

You can find out more about Joseph S. Fusaro at www.unreadletters.com

Education and Inclusion from an Educator Parent Perspective

Join Dr. Holmes as John Felagellar shares his journey for inclusive education for his son both as a parent and professional. John will discuss the importance of inclusion and partnering with parents for a better educational environment for students with needs, such as the autism spectrum.

John Felageller has spent over 15 years in education, working with children from Infants to Middle
School, serving in a variety of roles including Teacher, Mentor Teacher, and School Director. John lives in Highwood, IL, and is a single father to his son Christopher (AS), and has most recently
been the Educational and Social Programs Manager at Total Link 2 Community in Northbrook, IL. He is a regular contributor to Key Ministry’s Special Needs Family blog, as well as other special needs blogs including Hope Anew and The Mighty.

Connect with John on his website: www.johnfelageller.com

Mental Hygiene

You’re responsible for your brain in same the way that you’re responsible for your teeth, says my guest, LCSW Andrea Parsons.

THE HAPPY BRAIN PODCAST is a frank conversation between Loretta Breuning and a real reader of her book, Habits of a Happy Brain: Retrain your brain to boost your serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin and endorphin levels. Read the book and send your questions to Dr. Breuning on the contact form at the Inner Mammal Institute at: InnerMammalInstitute.org. You may be a guest on the show yourself!

The brain chemicals that make us feel good are inherited from earlier mammals. They evolved to do a job, not to make you feel good all the time. When you know the job each chemical does in the state of nature, your ups and downs make sense. More important, you can re-wire yourself to enjoy more of them in sustainable ways.

It’s not easy, alas. Our brain is designed to release happy chemicals when you take steps that promote survival. But our brain defines survival in a quirky way: it cares about the survival of your genes and it relies on neural pathways built in youth. To make things even harder, our brain habituates to the rewards it has so you always have to do more to get more happy chemicals.

We are not born with survival skills like our animal ancestors. Each newborn human wires itself from its own early experience. Happy chemicals are like paving on your neural pathways, wiring you to repeat behaviors that made you feel good before. This is why our urgent motivations don’t make sense to our verbal brain. It’s not easy being mammal!

When you know how your brain works, you can find healthier ways to enjoy happy chemicals and relieve unhappy chemicals. You can build new neural pathways by feeding your brain new experiences. But you have to design the new experiences carefully and repeat them— a lot!

The Inner Mammal Institute has free resources to help you make peace with your inner mammal: videos, blogs, infographics, and podcasts. Dr. Breuning’s manyt books illuminate the big picture and help you plot your course. You can feel good in new ways, no matter where you are right now. Get the details at InnerMammalInstitute.org.

Music from Sonatina Soleil by W.M. Sharp. Hear more of it at InnerMammalInstitute.org/musicbywmsharp

Communal Narcissism with Dr. Paul Meier I

Join Dr. Paul Meier and Kristin as they discuss communal narcissism and its impact on all of us.

DEFINITION: According to this model, communal narcissism may be understood as an agency-communion characteristic; that is, communal narcissists’ agentic core motives (i.e., grandiosity, esteem, entitlement, and power) are expressed through communal means (e.g., helpfulness and trustworthiness).

Narcissism Test: https://rb.gy/mcrn36

Renowned Thoracic Surgeon Shares How Doctors Can Increase Empathy & Compassion

Why is this episode important on a show about toxic relationships? Because your doctor–and other healers–need to be empathetic, aware, interested, listening, and compassionate. Some are wonderful. Others, not so much. You need to find one that cares about all of you, not just the numbers, graphs, and medications. In your toxic relationship, have you ever been seriously ill or injured? What kind of care did you get at home? That’s a big moment, isn’t it, when you realize that the toxic person can’t be bothered with you, or take you seriously? How does your doctor behave? Dr. Hassan Tetteh had early personal experiences with trauma, and the impact on him directed his life’s work. A Near Death Experience changed so much for him. Dedicated to The Art of Human Care™ (also the name of his book), Dr. Tetteh helps you see what to look for in a doctor, too. In a toxic relationships–past or present, there is often trauma from emotional abuse. You NEED your doctor to see, know, and believe what is happening to you. Emotional abuse takes a toll on your body as I discussed with Dr. Elizabeth Hughes in episode 189. Dr. Tetteh explains why you need to truly feel cared for when you need medical attention. Although he offers his acronym, L.E.A.R.N, for healers, it’s a very good approach for all of us in our relationships. Enjoy this…even if it sounds a little off our usual topics. It’s valuable! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE:How an earlier life experiences change Dr. Tetteh’s understanding of careWhy it often seems that doctors are more interested in time than patientsHear his Human Care TheoryWhat’s up with toxic people’s response when you’re ill Why you need to find an empathetic, compassionate doctor OK, so I hope you now recognize why I invited Dr. Tetteh to Save Your Sanity. Don’t be re-wounded by a doctor who doesn’t really see or hear you. Your doctor needs to be a safe place to go, whether that is your medical doctor, alternative healthy professional, or therapist. Be good to yourself.RhobertaGUEST: HASSAN TETTEH, MDDr. Hassan A. Tetteh is a US Navy Captain and Associate Professor of Surgery at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences and adjunct faculty at Howard University College of Medicine. He was a Robert Wood Johnson Health Policy Fellow from 2012-13, assigned to the US Congress, Congressional Budget Office, (CBO). Currently, Tetteh is a Thoracic Surgeon for MedStar Health and Walter Reed National Military Medical Center. He leads a Specialized Thoracic Adapted Recovery (STAR) Team, in Washington, DC, and his research in thoracic transplantation aims to expand heart and lung recovery and save lives. A native of Brooklyn, New York, Tetteh received his BS from State University of New York (SUNY) at Plattsburgh, his MD from SUNY Downstate Medical Center, his MPA from Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government, MBA from Johns Hopkins University Carey Business School, and MS in National Security Strategy with a concentration in Artificial Intelligence from the National War College. He completed his thoracic surgery fellowship at the University of Minnesota and advanced cardiac surgery fellowship at Harvard Medical School’s Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. Tetteh is founder and principal of Tetteh Consulting Group, creator of The Art of Human CareTM book series, and a best-selling author of several books including Gifts of the Heart, Star Patrol, and The Art of Human Care. Tetteh is board certified in thoracic surgery, general surgery, clinical informatics, and healthcare management, and is a Fellow of the American College of Surgeons and Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives.Tetteh received the Alley Sheridan Award by the Thoracic Surgery Foundation for Research and Education, was named a TEDMED Front Line Scholar, and is TEDx speaker. He’s an alumnus of the Harvard Medical School Writers’ Workshop and Yale Writers’ Conference and lives near Washington, D.C. with his wife, son, and daughter.FREE GIFT FROM DR. TETTEH, Free Chapter from Success Strategies: LIFESAVING SUCCESS STRATEGY: THE ART OF HUMAN CAREhttp://hassantetteh.successstrategiesthebook.com/#bookCONTACT INFO FOR ELIZABETH HUGHES:Website: DoctorTetteh.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/hassanatettehFacebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofhumancareTwitter: https://twitter.com/doctortetteh?lang=enYouTube: ——————————————————————————————————————————–Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER…WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @DrShaler————————————————————-I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! 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ret Fire Captain Tim Grutzius – Super Anger to Peace and PTSD

Tim Grutzius is a 25+ year fire service veteran and a team member of the Illinois Firefighter Peer Support . He understands the detrimental effect stress can have on the overall wellbeing of our mind, body, and spirit. He is also a Certified Personal Trainer and Health Coach, he has a diploma in Holistic Health Practice, a certificate in Wellness Consulting and is a certified Usui Reiki Master Practitioner. Tim was diagnosed with PTSD and had a tough struggle out of it, but he is out of it. Now he works to help all those first responders who are struggling.
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The Addicted Child

Do you worry if your child or teen’s behavior is normal? Could they possibly have a substance use disorder a psychological issue or both? Liz and Richard Capriola discuss all of this and more. Richard’s book, The Addicted Child: A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse, is an invaluable resource for parents attempting to navigate the confusing world of adolescent behaviors and substance use disorder. Let’s remove the shame and the stigma that may prevent parents from getting the help they need! This book is a game-changer and life ring for parents.
It may just save your child’s life.

https://helptheaddictedchild.com/

Richard Capriola spent 11 years working as an addictions counselor for Menninger Clinic in Houston Texas before retiring in 2019. Menninger Clinic is one of the top ten psychiatric hospitals in the United States and specializes in the assessment, stabilization, and treatment of adults and adolescents with substance abuse and psychiatric disorders. During his tenure there he worked in the Adolescent Treatment program and the adult Comprehensive Psychiatric Assessment and Stabilization program. Working closely with psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, and nurses he was responsible for comprehensive assessments and individual and group counseling with patients diagnosed with substance use disorders.

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