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Splitting – A Key Defense Mechanism Used by Narcissistic Personality


This psychological defense is characterized by the perception that everything is black and white; there is no grey, no nuancing of reality. You notice that the narcissist perceives other people as all good or all bad. It is either thumbs up or thumbs down with them. This demonstrate that the narcissist is psychologically arrested around the age of two or before. A child who grows normally leaves this extreme stage of always saying no and insisting that he is always right and everyone else is wrong or that it is all good or bad, friend or enemy – there is no in-between, no modulation and therefore no deep understanding of himself or others. 

Narcissists maintain this splitting defense as a way of protecting their false grandiose selves. Splitting plays an essential role in insulating the narcissist from the truth about himself. By separating the grandiose inflated false self from the damaged, empty, real self. 

Here are examples of the narcissist’s regressed psyche: 

I am smart; you are stupid. I am strong; you re weak.

I am attractive; you are unattractive, even ugly.

You cannot have an authentic relationship with an individual who is psychologically a two year old or younger. Narcissistic personality is fixed and not inclined to change. Without a conscience and feeling superior the narcissist experiences himself at the center of the universe. What king or queen gives up the crown and adoration. 

You are authentic, every evolving. Time to move forward along your own pathway of creativity, restoration and transformation.

after narcissistic abuse, Covert Narcissist, depression, emotional abuse, Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life, gaslighting, healing, Linda Martinez-Lewi Ph.D., manipulation, mental health, mental illness, narcissism, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic abuse recovery, narcissistic personality disorder, Narcissists, NPD, overt narcissist, personality disorder, psychological abuse, Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist, toxic people, toxic personalities, trauma

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